Author: Sue Xiaobei
01: Introduction
Through the descriptions in many articles, we know that brothers and sisters are the closest people in the world besides our parents and us. Although he is the dearest person, he may not be the best person.
The relationship between some brothers and sisters is actually plastic. They always think about scheming against each other. If there is any benefit to them, they will not think of you at the first time, but if it is of any benefit to themselves, they will think of you immediately.
For example, a relative who sells insurance will first think of his brothers and sisters. He will try every means to get you to buy insurance. It is obviously for his own good, but he still pretends to be good for you.
This kind of family affection is really very weak.
The relationship between brothers and sisters is only maintained by profits.
In the final analysis, if we put aside the blood relationship between each other, they are not even as good as friends.
We always think that the love between brothers and sisters is the greatest, but in the end we find that it is not as warm as friends.
02: There is no need to be soft-hearted to those brothers and sisters who just want to take advantage.
When brothers and sisters come to us, we may not have the heart to refuse, but we don’t know that your lack of heart will make your life more painful in the future.
Actually, there is nothing embarrassing about rejection.
Since he can come to you about this, then you can refuse. He is embarrassed, so what are you embarrassed about?
Aunt Wang understands this very well.
Aunt Wang has a younger sister. They usually have little contact with each other. It seems that they are not real sisters but strangers who do not know each other. Aunt Wang has been trying to change the relationship between them, but in the end she found that it is useless.
One time, her sister called her, and Aunt Wang was very happy. She thought that family affection had arrived, but she didn't know that her sister had something to help her.
It turns out that my sister heard about a private loan . If the money is deposited in the hands of the borrower, the interest rate is much higher than that of the bank. My sister said that it was because Aunt Wang was her biological sister that she told her. If others would not tell her directly.
Although Aunt Wang wanted to refuse at the time, she finally relented and gave her sister 10,000 yuan.
It was originally said that after one year, he would get back 15,000 yuan with interest, but when the agreed time came, not only did he not see the interest, but the principal was also lost.
Aunt Wang asked her sister what was going on, and her sister said she didn’t know, maybe she was deceived.
After her sister finished speaking, Aunt Wang didn't say anything. She didn't blame her sister, she just blamed herself. At the same time, she also saw through this family relationship. If she continued to maintain it, she would have to suffer the consequences. She didn't want such a family relationship.
In this way, Aunt Wang chose to stay away. Although she was particularly eager for this family relationship, she finally discovered that family relationship does not rely on one person but two people. Since the other party doesn't want it at all, there is no point in continuing to persist.
In fact, this is true. Family love is a matter between two people and requires two people to protect it together. If in a family relationship only one person exerts force and the other person does not, such family relationship is unreliable.
Human life is very short, there is no need to live in pain for unreliable family ties, otherwise this is the biggest stupidity.
03: The weakness of family affection is not as good as the enthusiasm of friends.
If you have not experienced many things, you may not believe them at all. Once you have experienced them, you will really understand them.
Continuing to talk about this epidemic, the epidemic is really a mirror that reflects all kinds of people.
After the policy change, positive people were quarantined at home, and the antigen became scarce.
often cannot be bought despite trying for a long time, either because of the price or the delivery. In short, antigens have become a "luxury product" overnight.
My friend Xiao Ai told me something about herself, during which I was moved and also chilled.
The touch came from a friend. When he learned that she was positive, the friend not only sent him antipyretics, antigens and some food, but also told her not to think about anything and have a good rest.
Xiao Ai particularly sympathized with what his friend did, but what his brother did chilled him. He had the antigen in his brother's hand, but he didn't even ask, and he didn't even look at Xiao Ai's circle of friends.
It seemed that the person who was positive was not her own sister but someone else. Her brother's behavior made Xiao Ai feel particularly chilled. At this moment, she suddenly felt that family ties were so cold.
When Xiao Ai called her mother, her mother said that she had mentioned it, but her brother bluntly said that just take care of yourself and there was no need to worry so much.
Obviously, Xiao Ai is no longer who she is in her brother's mind, she is someone else, and the affection between them is no longer even there.
Lying in bed, Xiao Ai thought a lot. She used to think that the very strong family relationship turned out to be like this. It was too fragile. Not to mention the interests, it was still like this without the influence of interests. If there was the influence of interests, they would not become enemies.
Xiao Ai now understands that some relationships are like this and cannot be forced at all. If they can get along with each other, just get along with each other. If they can't get along with each other, forget it. After all, everyone will live the same life after leaving this world.
04: Xiaobei’s message
If the family relationship is weak, please don’t be cold-hearted, because you still have friendship, and I believe the enthusiasm of friendship will make you feel warmer.
Actually, this is human nature.
Many people are most likely to reveal their true nature in the face of interests. In the world of such people, there is no family affection at all. They only have themselves in their eyes.
However, we cannot lose confidence in life because of this. Even if the relationship between brothers and sisters is not good, at least there are friends who can protect us.
For the rest of our lives, I hope each of us will cherish good feelings and abandon bad ones. If the feelings between each other are good, we should get along well. If the feelings between each other are not good, choose to stay away. This is the wisest thing.
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