scumbags have many tricks in their relationship and are good at hiding their true purpose. It is difficult for ordinary women to see whether a man is scumbag through short-term interactions.
But scumbags have another "weakness": they can't pretend for too long. Usually after spending a few months together, they will slowly reveal signs of "slag".
Women must learn to quickly identify the scumbag around them. Don’t be deceived by scumbags for many years. They will be too late to regret it! The following four characteristics are usually not escaped when identifying signs of "scumbag":
(I) A love veteran created the "scumbag theory"
As women grow older, they find that there are fewer and fewer good men around them, and there are more and more scumbags. Some men I met in adult world want to sleep after chatting for a while, but only after dating, I found out that I had a girlfriend or wife.
He is with you not for the sake of five talks and four beauties. He must have his ulterior motives and scheming, and he will approach you in the shortest time, instill in you his scumbag theory, and achieve his goal.
Zhao Lei opened a tavern in Lijiang and is also an executive in Beijing.
When my best friend Li Ting and Zhao Lei met, he had a wife. He will express his love for his wife in his circle of friends and in any public place.
I remember one time, everyone had a meal together, Zhao Lei pointed to the pendant on Li Ting's neck and said, "It's very beautiful."
Li Ting did not answer his question. She also pointed to the chain around Zhao Lei’s neck and said to him: Yours is not bad either.
Unexpectedly, Zhao Lei said in the next moment: If you think you like it, we can exchange it.
And when Li Ting was suspicious, Zhao Lei had already stuffed the chain into Li Ting's hand. Li Ting saw an English name engraved inside the silver ring, and this English name belongs to his wife.
At that time, Li Ting said: This chain must be very important to you, how can you bear to exchange it with me?
Zhao Lei said: To me, it is just a pendant. She likes it, so I keep wearing it.
Li Ting thought at the time that they had a problem with their relationship, but unexpectedly, Zhao Lei said with confidence: No, but this did not delay me playing outside.
Li Ting was very surprised when he heard his words. Maybe he realized it too.
told Li Ting that he has been married to his wife for fourteen years and is a model couple in the eyes of many people. But compared to such love, he was more obsessed with this shallow and impetuous city of desire.
Zhao Lei said: "If you really love someone, you have to hurt her first, because guilt will keep you fresh in this relationship for a long time." So, he will be particularly nice to his wife.
Zhao Lei said that he was also playing before getting married and did not plan to end such a relationship after getting married. Squandering is a life, love is a life, and enjoying it is a life, so why bother with the present?
Li Ting listened to Zhao Lei's set of "scumbag theory" and subconsciously asked him: Do you really love her?
The moment Li Ting asked, she suddenly felt that this was a stupid question she asked.
Zhao Lei's answer was: "Love, but how long can love for the same person last? A passionate love for three years, five years, ten years. Can you have a lifetime?"
Li Ting did not answer his words, and she felt a little panic and despair for his remarks.
Unexpectedly, Zhao Lei comforted her and said, "Actually, you don't have to worry too much.All I want is a meager relationship, and no one will take it seriously. You are too simple, don't be too careless. "
After the dinner, a girl came not long after, and Zhao Lei said that he would send Li Ting home first. Li Ting was sitting in the passenger seat at that time, and she could hear the two of them hugging each other and whispering.
That moment During this time, Li Ting was thinking, what was his wife doing at this moment? Or was there always a tacit understanding and a blind spot between them.
Li Ting couldn't find any answer, so she could only be glad that they never contacted again.
After a long time, Li Ting suddenly understood Why did Zhao Lei tell her about his love theory? Maybe he just wanted to assimilate a type of people, let a type of people accept his lifestyle, and then become a person like him.
Does he think this is cool? Maybe. But Li Ting said that she thinks it is cooler to concentrate on loving someone!
(II) Find various reasons to borrow money from you
Generally, men will not borrow money from their girlfriends easily. Women even think it is too difficult for them and take the initiative to ask them to take out the deposits, but they will not agree. Men are all respectful of face, which has nothing to do with machismo. Their subconscious thought is "I am a man, how can I speak to women. "
Of course, here we rank couples of old couples. After a long time in love, not only the relationship is the other party, but your wallet is also the other party. It is basically a state of capital exchange. Either I borrow it or you borrow it.
But scumbags are different. They will frequently borrow money from you for various fancy reasons. Today they want to invest in business. Tomorrow a relative will get seriously ill. What card will be frozen the day after tomorrow.
In 2012, the marriage agency introduced the divorced cousin Li Na to Liu Zhe, a local in his early 50s, to meet . The two are of the same age and are both in business. Li Na feels that they have a common language, so she meets.
After meeting, Li Na sees Liu Zhe’s tall and honest face, and she has a little affection for him. During the chat, Liu Zhe talks about the reasons for the divorce, saying that his ex-wife is good at playing cards, lost a lot of money in betting, and owes a lot of debts, which forces him to divorce and save himself and his son.
Liu Zhe also said that he has debts, but because he opens a factory, he has hundreds of thousands a year, so he pays it back almost.
Liu Zhe’s frankness not only did not let Li Na It made her feel that Liu Zhe is a real and honest person. The second year after they met, they formally dated.
Later, Liu Zhe introduced Li Na to her friends and family, and accompanied Li Na to various occasions and parties as Li Na's boyfriend.
Li Na is over fifty years old, and Liu Zhe gave her a sense of support that others cannot replace. Therefore, when Liu Zhe proposed to need money turnover, such as adding equipment and paying wages, she always did not give him any effort to help him. She sincerely hoped that this man would get better.
From 20 From 2012 to 2019, Li Na successively paid 1.5 million yuan to Liu Zhe.
At the end of 2019, a friend told her that Liu Zhe was likely to live with another woman. Only then did Li Na feel suspicious.
One day, she opened Liu Zhe's mobile phone and found a woman's number, so she pressed the number and dialed it. This time, a "secret" that made her almost collapsed came to the surface: in addition to her, Liu Zhe has also dated 3 women at the same time in the past 8 years.
Li Na I contacted Zhao Min, a woman who claimed to be Liu Zhe's wife. After chatting, I learned that Zhao Min, as a hotel welcome, has been with him since 2008 after meeting Liu Zhe in the hotel.
In 2018, she became pregnant and the two got married. In order to support Liu Zhe, she also took out more than 300,000 yuan.
Then, they contacted the other two Liu Zhe's girlfriends, and several of them felt that they could not believe it because their boyfriends were so dedicated, how could they do such a thing?
"Every time you go on a date, Liu Zhe would propose to go home after 11 o'clock in the evening. The reason was that he was afraid that his son would learn bad things and wanted to go home to take care of his son." Li Na said that at that time she felt that the father was very responsible, but now she realized that he was just going to spend the night at another girlfriend's house.
At the end of last year, Zhao Min and Liu Zhe divorced and called the police with several victims. Liu Zhe was prosecuted by the procuratorate for suspected fraud and credit card fraud.
Women should remember that men who frequently reach out to you before becoming lifelong partners and fully participating in each other's lives are either taking advantage of you or they are just people who have no ability and can only cheat money and sex. We must keep our eyes open and not be deceived by scumbags easily.
(III) I have been in love for many years and I don’t promise to be responsible for
"I have been in love with her for nine years, so I have to marry her?" This sentence comes from the famous representative of the scumbag ex in the circle, Wei Junjie .
Another name that I have to mention is Teng Li's name .
Friends who have watched "Senior Sister Tuo Gun" should have a deep impression of the CP of Chen Sanyuan and Cheng Feng.
Although it is not a male and female protagonist, this pair of CPs that run through the entire four dramas are very popular. Especially when the couple on the screen came true.
However, the ending of the two, a line in the play becomes a pretext.
dating for nine years and has never talked about marriage.
In 2006, Wei Junjie went north to Chongqing to shoot a drama and met a female college student from a local sports school Zhang Lihua .
Then what we see is that in May 2007, Wei Junjie admitted to breaking up with Teng Liming and broke up in 9 years.
At the beginning of the second year, he married Zhang Lihua in a flash.
In 2013, Wei Junjie took his wife to the show, and once complained that public opinion was too harsh on him.
Talking about the old love Teng Liming directly threw out a famous long-distance theory of love:
"The audience thinks that I have been dating with the one I used to for so many years, and I am a couple in the play, so I already feel that I have to marry her. If I don't marry her, it is a sinner. Is it a bad person? "
Summary is "I have been in love with her for nine years, so I have to marry her?"
It will be cruel to meet such a man. They are unwilling to promise you, but they can promise others when they turn around. Such a scumbag should let him go as far as he can!
(IV) Control you from the body and mind
A man constantly emphasizes his excellence to his woman, your uselessness, and his ability to fall in love with you is a blessing you have cultivated for several lifetimes. The desire to control you, let you be his accessory, thus achieving the goal of controlling you forever.
Colleague Wu Yue and her husband Wang Yong have been married for many years. Wang Yong has been saying to Wu Yue for several years: "I am the only one who is useless/unskilled/not good-looking like you."
Wang Yong has a strong desire to control and will check Wu Yue's mobile phone and will not allow her to attend class reunions or any non-family gatherings where men participate. I also told her that I love her so much that I can’t rest assured!
Wu Yue filed for divorce, and Wang Yong said that he would kill her whole family if he dared to divorce.So Wu Yue stopped the ball, and his only advantage was that Wang Yong did not hit her hard.
Wang Yong acts impulsively, irritable and incompetent. He often quarreled with Wu Yue and attacked her. After that, Wang Yong would soften his heart and beg for mercy with Wu Yue, saying that he loved her so much, so he couldn't help it.
In fact, men continue to say to women: "I only like people like you." These words that look "sweet" are to brains on you for a long time. Belittle you, make you fear the presumption of losing the man in front of you, make you feel that he loves you very much and spoils you very much. If you leave him, then there will be no longer a boyfriend/husband who loves you so much.
The other party continues to give you a brain, making you feel that you are bad and you can’t do without the other party. This is mental control!
Always remember that good love is mutual respect, appreciation, mutual achievement, and mutual treating each other as beautiful things in their lives. Your own pillow and your life partner don’t appreciate you, and think that you “only I will like you”, so how much market do you have to be?
Appreciate each other and discover each other's shining points. This is the basis of love and marriage. There is no saying: Love turns shortcomings into advantages.
Also check if you have a mobile phone that says "love" you, hitting you is also "love" you, and limiting your social rights is also "love" you. "Love" is simply a tremendous amount of emotional restraint!
restricts the normal social interaction of the partner, and suspects that all social gatherings of the opposite sex participate in, reflecting the objectification of the partner and its individual gender.
What does it mean? He just doesn't think her girlfriend/wife is human. He thinks that others can have their own privacy, but his girlfriend/wife cannot have it because his girlfriend/wife is his belonging. How can items be privacy? Everything about the item belongs to the owner.
Woman does not communicate with the outside world and does not talk nonsense with best friends, isn’t it easier to control it? A woman has no talent and is virtue, but it is difficult to control her thoughts. If you don’t communicate with others, you won’t know that your marriage life is abnormal. You will even be thought by the brain that all families, all couples, and all couples are like this. What's wrong with this is that my husband doesn't love his wife enough. A scumbag like
restricts his wife/girlfriend's social interactions simply to control and materialize women.
We must know that in the world of love, not every feeling is real, not every feeling is sincere, not everyone we meet deserves our sincere interaction and treatment.
There is a saying in "Zhiming and Chunjiao": People will always fall in love with a few scumbags in their life.
The world is so big, there are thousands of men, don’t be blinded by the man in front of you. When you meet a scumbag, stay away from him in time and don’t let him delay your life’s happiness.
After all, lucky things are not often seen in life, but scumbags are everywhere. For those loves that have been lost or cannot be obtained, it is better to say goodbye as soon as possible!
In fact, women do not have high requirements for "good men". As long as they look clean and tidy, be responsible enough in their work, be serious and dedicated, and can respect women from the bottom of their hearts, they are already in the category of good men. I hope that for the rest of my life, every woman can stay away from scumbags and meet a good man who loves you to the core and treats you sincerely!
