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Some time ago, on the short video platform, the woman who had four daughters and a child in her belly became a hot search.
The reason is not because they have given birth to many children, but because the husband dislikes his wife and cannot give birth to a son and decides to divorce.
On the platform, many people are questioning the husband's feudal concepts, and many people are advising the wife to divorce soon.
But now, she really gave birth to a son. She not only did not get angry about her husband's disregard for her, but instead tried to beg her husband to turn back.
1. You are not happy, it is your problem
Many times, we often see similar content under some social issues about marriage:
"Is this kind of man who doesn't divorce and keeps the New Year for the New Year? / What is there for such a woman that you are no longer lingering?" Or:
"Divorce quickly, you know that the other party no longer loves you, why do you have to hold on? Why don't you let yourself go?"
When we answer these questions, we actually stand in the perspective of the public and look at this problem with our own understanding.
However, many times, why do these people who are clearly experiencing an unfortunate marriage still choose to continue? Are they really unwilling to leave?
In fact, many times, it is just because they still have a trace of remnant thoughts and do not want to give up the marriage they have worked hard to run for so long.
Or, they are really too soft-hearted, so they naively choose to believe and persevere again after the other party promises again.
has many reasons, but in the final analysis, it is nothing more than that reason: it is not that he cannot or is unwilling to let go.
2. Marriage cannot be generalized.
Whether it is the news you see on the Internet or the jokes you see in short videos, in fact, we can only look at one thing from a certain perspective.
This viewing angle is easy to be manipulated, especially when these videos are processed and rendered, they are easily switched.
So, it is not the bad marriage we see, it is definitely an unhappy marriage, nor is it the loving couple we see, it is definitely love and sweet in private.
Marriage is not an exam question and there are no prescribed answers. After different people meet different people, different results will eventually be different.
When the other party is a woman who has an inherent concept, or even says, still maintaining the most traditional ideas, you can't just tell her to escape.
Because, in their concept, escaping means not having enough food, escaping means being talked about by others, and escaping means being even more unhappy for the rest of their lives.
For ordinary couples, they are like helmsmen sailing together on the sea, but for such women, the husband is the ship she is in.
So, don’t advise them to give up, be open-minded, be independent, and be generous. They can't learn it, they can't do it. Divorce is the result they least want to face.
3. Never get stuck in self-touching
In many unhappy marriage videos, the introduction is always the same sentence: "I just came back from work and saw such a messy home and husbands who were spread there."
These women are not without jobs, but on the contrary, they can support themselves by their own abilities, but they have to face these unfortunate marriages.
So, why later, more and more people no longer sympathize with such people? It's because they are actually not worthy of sympathy at all.
Because that person was the choice she made herself. She couldn't give up, let go, or forget, so no one could help her.
In marriage and love, we have seen countless cases, so we are immersed in self-touching and self-numbness and cannot extricate ourselves.
And in this marriage relationship, their partner will always benefit, because they have never given anything from beginning to end.
No one will refuse the free payment delivered to the door. They knew very well that the other party actually did not love them, but they still had to continue.
That, besides blessings. In fact, outsiders can’t do anything because it’s their lives and they have to make the decision on themselves.
4. Please put down the plot of helping others
Quoting a sentence on the Internet: "Let go of helping others and respect the fate of others is not a philosophy, but a natural result of social adaptation."
Many times, we can only think about a problem that has nothing to do with us from our own perspective.
Perhaps, we are indeed out of kindness. However, not everyone can bear your affection.
Everyone will have their own helplessness. We are not him and cannot make choices for her.
or above, I wish you a good dream and good night.
