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1Luyao《Ordinary World》: " people must be ready to endure hardships at any time when they are alive. Whether ordinary people or great people, they must endure many hardships in their lives."
The hardships in life are big and small, and the key depends on how they define them. If you don’t care about anything and can be content with everything at any time, there will be no hardships in your life. If you care about it, hardship will come.
Some people have troubles in their work, some people have troubles in their relationships, and some people have misfortune their marriages. Compared with material hardships, hardships brought by people can be called hardships.
For example, after getting married, some people can withstand as long as they are not too nervous in life; and if there are people around them who are uneasy and repeatedly hit your nerves, you will not be able to withstand over time. What should I do if
can’t stand it? If you don’t resist, you will collapse. If you don’t want to collapse, you will only resist.
2My life has never been smooth. Especially after getting married, it was even worse.
Although I have heard of many principles of marriage before getting married and I have studied precautions online, it is one thing to look at other people's marriages, and it is another thing to experience them. Even if you hear about some problems in advance, you will still be trapped by them when you experience them personally.
My husband and I had a good relationship at first, otherwise I wouldn't have been willing to marry him. But what I didn't expect was that he changed his mind after getting married.
A week after getting married, he began to be lukewarm with me. Even if I took the initiative to get close to him, it would be useless. He always avoided me, either using the excuse of working overtime and not going home, or using the excuse of being too tired after returning home.
If I were not married, I would not complain even if I died alone; but when I got married, I had a husband, but I couldn’t enjoy the love between husband and wife, how could I not complain? He did not do his job in his position, but he just did not pay attention to me.
I had to quarrel with him, the purpose was nothing else, I just wanted him to spend more time on me. It’s a pity that he backfired. Not only did he not spend much effort on me, he also developed a relationship with others.
is enough to make me feel bad. However, my mother-in-law and mother-in-law are still adding fuel to the fire at this time, leaving me, the daughter-in-law who is the official married to the media, to cater to the unnamed woman, as if that woman is her daughter-in-law.
I was so angry that I took my anger on her, blaming her for not disregarding her son and making me angry. I suspected that she secretly encouraged her son to betray the marriage, but in the end she was indeed her order to expel her: "My son doesn't want you anymore, why don't you go back to her parents' home quickly?"
She and her son bullied me, but asked me to get out. Why? I have always respected her very much, but I didn't expect her to say such words. I had to give her some color: " mother-in-law, it's you who should get out! You figure out that your son and I have not divorced yet. I care whether your son wants me or not. As long as I don't divorce, I will still be the mistress of this family. Whether you leave or not is not your final decision. Even if you want to leave, you must first break up with your son! Before we break up, it's not your turn to meddle in other people's business! "
My words She annoyed her, and she instantly became like a shrew. She ran downstairs and said to everyone that I was unfilial: "My daughter-in-law not only disrespects me, but also disrespects my son. My son wants to divorce but cannot divorce. You all judge. Is such a daughter-in-law worthy to stay in our house? "
For the first time in my life, I felt how ugly human nature can be. Although I was angry before, I endured it again and again and never said anything ugly. Unexpectedly, my tolerance is what my mother-in-law has gained from being more and more arrogant. Since that is the case, I can't tolerate it anymore.
3In the past, I looked down on women and became shrews after getting married, and I have repeatedly reminded myself not to become shrews. However, the moment my mother-in-law stepped on my head, I overturned the principles I used to fight against evil.
Common sense always tells us not to become a bad person, otherwise it will be no different from a bad person. My experience made me understand that this sentence is wrong.
Of course, treat good people with courtesy. But when dealing with evil people, you should use the methods of evil people, otherwise you will only be bullied by evil people all the time.
runs into the community and talks everywhere. Who can’t? If you really want to play like this, I will have more energy than my mother-in-law and what I say is more convincing. After all, I know better what emotional intelligence is than my mother-in-law. I have the ability to sympathize with my experience without others being disgusted with me.
My mother-in-law raised her hand and surrendered not long after, because she couldn't hold back than me. She couldn't tell me, and I made a bad reputation by plotting against me. In order not to let her reputation continue to be bad, she had to communicate with me kindly and wanted to make a break with her son.
By the time I reached this point, I knew I had won. Since she has something to ask for me, she can only let me slaughter.
4Although I didn't win thoroughly, I at least got angry.
people can be kind, but only target people who are equally kind. If the person you treats kindly doesn't treat you well and even bites you back, then there is no need to be polite to him .
The principle applies to everyone. No matter what the person you are facing has a relationship with you, as long as you don’t know how to respect you and as long as it is not worthy of your kindness, you don’t need to continue to squander your kindness.
From my personal experience, the daughter-in-law should be the most like this when dealing with marriage. Whether it is a man bullying you or a mother-in-law bullying you, you must remember to never let them step on your head, otherwise you will only be at the mercy of others.
Kind people cannot let bad people take advantage, unless they take advantage is not you, unless they do not touch your cake, otherwise you should put away your kindness and treat bad people in the way of bad people. Even if you cannot win thoroughly, you cannot let yourself lose everything. You should more or less fight for yourself .
