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. A truly wise and visionary person will never look at the front of you. Instead, you will consider the long-term future. Whether she is beautiful, her figure is charming, her family is wealthy, etc. are actually not the most important thing.
What is really important is whether she has a good character, correct values, a reasonable personality and cultivation, etc. Why do some people say that a good woman can flourish for three generations? This is the reason.
The so-called good women must have good character and good values. They can not only educate their children, but also be filial to the elderly. If you become a family with such a woman, the atmosphere of the whole family will become harmonious and your fortune will improve as well.
However, many men do not realize this, and they still care about some external things, so they marry the wrong wife and live a miserable life after marriage.
A mother with high emotional intelligence once reminded her son that if a woman does not have the following three things, she will not be able to marry her no matter how beautiful she is.
This is really foresight and deserves the reference of every parent.
1: Without independent consciousness, they cannot live out themselves, they just want to rely on others
Even in this era, there are still women who think that it is better to marry than to make a good fortune. Therefore, compared to working hard to live out their own life and pursue their own career, they want to find a rich man to marry while they are young, so that they will be guaranteed in the future.
There are never a few women who have this idea. They cannot see through the essence of marriage at all, and naturally they cannot manage marriage well.
Everyone is an independent individual. Regardless of whether you are married or not, you must first live out yourself. First of all, you must know what you want and what kind of life you want, rather than thinking about finding someone to marry and entrusting your life completely.
, which only wants to rely on others and is unwilling to work hard, is actually very dangerous and irrational.
Because a man and marriage are not your lifelong safe haven. If he changes his mind one day, if your marriage cannot be saved, then you will have nothing, and you will not even have the most basic way out.
Therefore, women maintain independence is the foundation for their survival and the main source of their sense of security.
2: There is no correct view of the three. Even if you get married in the future, you don’t know how to live for yourself.
Some women have lived in a family environment that favors boys over girls since childhood, so she lacks love, has a submissive personality and never knows how to live for herself. Naturally, they failed to establish a correct view of the three views.
For example, they are affected by the growth environment and think that boys are the hope of the entire family, so even if they get married, they don’t forget to consider their younger brother. This leads to some cases where some women buy a house for their brother or younger brother with a dowry, or become a demon of helping their brother after getting married...
There is such an example around me.
Xiaoxia's sister held the household registration book at home and refused to let Xiaoxia get married because she had just worked and had not earned much money yet, so she could not provide too much support and help to her younger brother.
And she used her savings to buy a house for her younger brother, why can't Xiaoxia pay a penny? This is the obligation to be a girl. The idea of
is incomprehensible, but she cannot correct it because her concept has been fixed, which is the most scary thing. If you marry such a girl with a bad view, you will inevitably suffer endless troubles.
3: Without good character, you may not be able to treat your children or elders well
Character is the foundation of a person's foothold and the foundation of a person's foothold. If the character is not good, everything is empty talk and nothing is meaningless. This means that she has problems in her life and that she can’t understand or accept anything she does.
Women with bad character cannot give their children a good education in marriage, cannot be filial to their parents, and naturally cannot be loyal to their marriage.
A woman who cannot live a good life with you, no matter how much you pay, will never completely change her. She can only passively follow her and let her make your family restless.
So before getting married, be sure to keep your eyes open. Compared to whether she is beautiful, you should check whether she has good character. If your character is not good, just let it go.
Marriage is a lifelong event. Don’t just look at the surface, but also learn to see the essence through the surface. Only when you really understand a person’s inner self can you determine whether she is suitable for you and whether you can live a good life.
Otherwise, no matter how beautiful you look or sexy your figure is, it will be useless.
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