But the other party seemed to have been taken by a third party. He said that he had broken off contact with the third party, but he still had a lot of connection with the other party. He even praised the third party in front of his wife, and he would be happier with the third party.
So, how should such a man break off contact with a third party and truly return to his family?
In the eyes of some men, there is no problem with betrayal. It is purely because of his wife. Because his wife is too strong and he is too strict with himself, he will make mistakes that men will make.
Many women cannot accept it. A man who has lived with them for many years actually says such things to them. Isn’t this stabbing the heart with a knife?
But in fact, this is just a man's routine. The purpose is to have both fish and bear's paws. He will not divorce you, but also want to continue with a third party.
If he really had no feelings for you, he would have divorced you voluntarily and been with a third party. Why did he just say he left you but he didn't take action?
Because men say that the third party is important is just a verbal statement. No matter how important the third party is, it is not as important as its own interests.
third parties actually understand this, so they will not force men to make choices, but will use human needs to keep men.
02
Usually, men often have three needs for betrayal of marriage.
First, want to be yourself.
There is a kind of man who is very honest when he was young, and everyone thinks he is not the kind of person who betrays him. But when he was middle-aged, the other party was completely different and suddenly betrayed and completely denied himself from the past.
Not only that, he also shirked the reason for his betrayal to his wife. Because my wife has too much control and too much pressure, she betrayed herself.
He tried to resist his wife in this way, hoping to use extramarital affair to re-establish his position. Instead of continuing to live like a slave, or a so-called good husband and good father.
This is like a rebellious boy in adolescence. The more his parents ask him to do something, the less he does, and so do adult men. Therefore, the appearance of the third party was just right at the right time and catered to his rebellious needs.
If someone else is changed, he will still betray or rebellious.
However, he is no longer a child. The child can escape responsibility. He cannot. After the madness, he will still bear the corresponding responsibility. Finally, when I went to bear the consequences, I realized that the clown was actually me.
After thinking about this, sometimes a woman will do nothing and she will take the initiative to return to her family.
Second, pursue excitement.
In the book "Zeng Qifeng's Psychological Class", there is a point of view, that is, a man who looks very steady, is actually extremely rebellious in his subconscious, and wants to do bad things and seek excitement.
Generally, this kind of man was suppressed by his parents when he was young. His parents asked him to be a good child, find a good job in the future, and be an ambitious man.
In order to fulfill these standards, he sacrificed his own needs to meet the expectations of his parents and society.
But if a person is suppressed for a long time, he will eventually explode. For example, he will pursue excitement and will suddenly become extremely open. As a result, it not only affects one's own life, but also its career or personal image.
Just like some time ago, a student's parent added the opposite sex everywhere in the parent group, but ended up having an affair with one of the parents. Generally, such men will either be divorced, have their careers broken, or have their family taught them a lesson.
Third, need to be worshipped.
Many women don’t understand why a man’s betrayal is not as good as his wife, but he still betrayed? The reason is very simple, that is, women outside admire men more.
And men are the ones who are most popular, especially when they are admired by young girls, which greatly satisfy their vanity.After a while, this admiration turned into an extramarital affair.
03
Found out that my husband betrayed, try the following tricks to break him up with the third party. First, point out the man’s intentions. First try to communicate with the man, you can say to him like this: Since you are with a third party and think that woman is good, it means that she has feelings for you, at least it meets your current needs. So if it were me, I might not be able to give up this relationship. This is not something that can be broken by saying that. We have been together for so many years since we got married, and I will not force you, but give you some time and space to make decisions. is to divorce me, divide the property, and be with a third party; or not divorce, and end with a third party outside. No matter how you choose, I won't blame you because it's your decision. You don’t need to answer me first, I’ll give you some time to think carefully. After all, this kind of decision is still difficult to make, and I understand you very much. You can make a decision slowly first and then give me a reply. In this way, we break the purpose of men wanting to walk threesomes, and at the same time show our attitude, don’t think about walk threesomes, there is her or me, and we must choose one of them. Men have no choice but to face it. Next, empathizes men's mood. You can tell him, I know that if you are caught between a third party and me, and dealing with various emotional problems, you must be very tired and uncomfortable. Maybe you are also struggling, whether it is divorce or breaking up contact with a third party, you will not be willing to leave it. After , you can talk about your feelings. If you want to maintain the status quo, what I have to face is that you build your happiness and happiness on my pain, which no woman can accept. Moreover, this pain is still endless. Unless you separate, I can't continue. Finally, let’s talk about your own plan. If you don’t know what to do for a moment, I will give you some time, which will last for three months. If you haven’t given your attitude in three months, then I will take corresponding measures, which may cause harm to you and the third party. And within these three months, you must treat me well and make up for the harm you have caused me during this period. Otherwise, I will not give you any face. Speaking of this, many women may not understand, so why do they still have to give them time? In fact, this is a psychological war, otherwise breaking up will only put yourself in a weak position. Only in this way can he feel guilty towards you. When a third party sees the man's shake, he will naturally quarrel with him, and that situation will be more powerful in facing you. Rescue men not only depends on women's compromise, but also on women's clear bottom line and principles. Only then can men be afraid and eventually admit their mistakes with you and return to their family.
