Introduction:
Although there are many ways to support the elderly, most elderly people still look forward to their children in their hearts to support themselves in their old age.
Many of our elderly people are also very smart. In their old age, they do not choose to go to nursing homes or hire a nanny, because no matter which of these two types of elderly care methods is, they are exchanged for money, and they are using money to buy services.
Instead of giving the money to them and living unhappy, it is better to give the money to their children so that they can live comfortably and comfortably in their later years.
But in fact, our current children do not say that if we give money, we will definitely give the elderly a guarantee. Sometimes the elderly will even be disliked by their children.
is like a 65-year-old man crying: "I have to support my daughter's house and earn 3,000 a month, but I am still disliked by my son-in-law." Let's take a look at the experience of this man.
65-year-old Mr. Liang's self-report:
I am 65 years old this year. I have lived in the mountains since I was a child. I have a low education and was born in social work very early.
The luckiest thing in my life is that I married my wife and two daughters. At the same time, one thing that is lucky is that I bought myself a high-value pension insurance, which makes me almost the same as a retired elderly person in my later years, and I have more than 4,000 pension insurance every month.
My native family has three sisters in total, and there are two sisters above. When I was young, I treated better than my two sisters in all aspects. It’s a pity that I don’t like to study, and my parents are willing to give it to me, but I don’t want to go to school. I graduated from high school at the age of 18 and learned farming at home with my cousin.
is to contract land to grow vegetables and medicinal materials by yourself. It is very hard every year, but the money you earn is still better than working outside.
Later, when we were contracting other people's land, we met my wife. We didn't fall in love at first sight, but we fell in love over time, because we had to pay the land contract fee to her family on time every year.
After a while, we became more and more familiar with each other and talked more and more. After chatting for a long time, we felt that the three views of the two people were very consistent, and we confirmed the relationship after almost a year of knowing each other.
Then we talked for another year, and we chose to get married. After marriage, my wife gave birth to two lovely daughters for me. After the daughter was born, the pressure and joy were relative. I felt very happy, but happiness also proved that my pressure was getting greater and greater.
Parents don’t read much, but they still hope that their children will read more books and don’t be like themselves. Sometimes they can’t even understand the calculations.
When I followed my cousin to contract the land, I couldn’t even settle the accounts. It was only after so many years that I got used to doing something that I gradually became familiar with and then got better and better.
After marrying my wife, she was basically in charge of everything in the family, and I have never taken it. After so many years, we have always respected each other and have basically never quarreled when we were together.
I originally thought that when the child grows up and has his own job, I can live a two-person world with my wife in my later years.
How many people can't walk the last time together in the sunset of their old age? I thought I could be better than other elderly people, but I still couldn't escape the path that all elderly people took. The loneliness in their old age was ultimately unable to do as usual.
I was the only one who lived alone in my life in my later years. Many people say that I worked hard all my life and bought myself a high-value pension insurance. I was still happy in my later years. At least I have been many times better than those elderly people who have no money and their wife is no longer there.
But I feel that it is better to be when my wife is here. That is a warm home. After my wife left, the home was empty and there was no smell of people at all. I have lived alone for almost a year, and it is really too warm to home.
discussed with my two daughters whether I could live with them. I had my own pension insurance and could give them the corresponding living expenses every month.
Although the neighborhood residents said that I could find another one for such conditions, or go to a nursing home and hire a nanny, living with my daughter for a long time may not be a solution.
I also know that you can hire a nanny and go to a nursing home, but they are all giving money. It is not more comfortable to give the money to your daughter. If you meet a nanny, wouldn’t it be a waste of money to bring the wolf into the house?
If you go to a nursing home, you can go to this little money, but you can't afford a good nursing home. You can only find a middle-aged and inferior one. It's better to give your money to your daughter and live with her.
After discussing with my daughter, the two daughters agreed, and then said that the eldest daughter was at home and did not have to take a far-off car, which was more convenient. The younger daughter was married in another place and it took a day to take a bus. The two daughters asked me where I would be willing to retire because they knew that I didn’t like to take a bus very much. After taking a bus for a long time, my back hurt.
After thinking about it, I decided to retire at my eldest daughter's house. After all, the eldest son-in-law is an orphan. I will be better to my son-in-law when I go to my eldest daughter's house, and he should be slightly better to me.
The youngest daughter's house is living with her parents-in-law, which is definitely not very convenient. After the decision, she gave her eldest daughter a living expense of 3,000 yuan in the first month. After all, there are still big differences in diet. She is given living expenses, so she won't feel troublesome when her daughter or son-in-law cooks.
But when I lived in my eldest daughter's house for two months, everything began to change. Although I gave the money, I was still disliked by my son-in-law in many cases. Every time I faced the accusation from my son-in-law, I still made jokes, and my daughter kept silent.
I think my daughter also acquiesced to this, so after living there for half a year, I still chose to go back to my hometown and live alone, at least I don’t have to live so tiring.
I remember the first time my son-in-law disliked me, it was my daughter and her son-in-law’s friend who came to visit her home. That day, my daughter and her son-in-law were busy all afternoon and cooked a lot of dishes. I didn’t know what young people like, so I thought that they came to visit her home. As the owner of the house, I must treat them well.
When they arrived, I took out the tea I usually like to drink, and when they were eating, they didn’t pick up food, so I picked up some meat for them. At night, after they left, my daughter and son-in-law sat on the sofa and told me.
"Dad, when our friends come in the future, you don't need to be very enthusiastic. You don't know the young people today. You pick up food for them and use your own chopsticks. They are all saliva. Others don't eat it and feel rude. They eat it, but they still dislike it."
The son-in-law's words felt like I disliked me in my ears. I glanced at my daughter and wanted to see what my daughter said. I really shouldn't have done this, but my daughter was playing with her cell phone aside, without saying a word. At about ten o'clock, my daughter took a shower and went to bed.
My son-in-law and I were also a little embarrassed in the living room, so we had to take a shower and go to bed.
The second time he was disliked by his son-in-law, he invited his leader to dinner. His leader is a very good person and asked his son-in-law to call his family on the phone. After we went there, his leader had no airs. Seeing that I was older than him, he even asked me to sit first. It's not a loss that he is a big business person.
But when we were having a meal, our son-in-law and daughter didn't look very good. It seemed that the daughter and son-in-law were not very happy at that meal. On the way back, my daughter was in the car and the son-in-law was driving. My daughter said to me, "Dad, do you know that your behavior today may affect my husband's promotion."
I thought, I didn't do anything today, I just chatted with his leader for a while, but didn't say anything that shouldn't be said. I retorted my daughter unhappily, "I didn't do anything, how could it affect it."
"I haven't done anything yet, you have so much to make others know how to answer. You didn't see what my husband's leader replied to you in the end. It's all right, ah, are you? Besides, you don't have much education, and you don't understand what others say.”
After returning home, the son-in-law also said, “Dad, if there is such an unavoidable thing next time, can you pay attention to your image and don’t dress like a country bumpkin who has never seen the world. "
Daughter and son-in-law, you say one by one, the woman sings with the husband, as if I am an outsider, I seem to have never treated them badly. When they agreed that when I came home, I gave three thousand a living without hesitation, and gave it to me every month afterwards.
Don't I have my own freedom yet? I have to limit what I wear. Since I am so good at face, I agreed to what I did at the beginning.
After two things, I met my daughter and son-in-law who had a friend to come, I went directly outside, when will their friends leave and when will I go home?
That winter, they had friends coming from afar, saying they wanted to see the snow. I stayed at home for a few days, and I couldn't go back to my hometown because my daughter and son-in-law had no time to send it away. The snow in my hometown was heavy and there was no running around every village. I had to stay in a hotel outside for two days.
After returning to my daughter's house, I decided to pack up and go back to my own home. Although I paid 3,000 yuan a month at my daughter's house, I was not only unfree, but also despised by my daughter and son-in-law.
gave living expenses and looked at the face of others. It would be better to take money at home and do whatever I wanted. If it really doesn't work, just plant some land at home. It's all good to live. Looking at their daughter's faces, I now feel that it is not that rich people must live well in their later years.
Conclusion:
Different locations and different feelings. The poor elderly envy the rich elderly people's old age, but the rich elderly also have many worries.
In short, most elderly people are lonely in their later years. The elderly who want to support their children are mostly afraid of living alone. After all, there are many elderly people living alone now.
But people are far away and smelly. After being together for a long time, they will feel irritable, and this irritability is not to give money. You can make a decision.
is the many habits of the elderly, and their own reasons are not in line with young people. The elderly cannot keep up with the times and do not know what young people like. Many times they do bad things with good intentions.
So the last advice to the elderly is to live alone, be lonely if you live alone. If you are not absolutely necessary, don’t live with your children, so as not to be disliked by your children.
What do you think of those elderly people who want to live with their children in their later years? If you are old and live alone, do you also want to live with your children? Welcome to leave a message!
