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Meet · Meet the unknown self in the book.
Hello evening for all book friends, welcome to read the good book column "Meet" .
Today I will share with you Fan Deng "The Road of Few People Walk" .
This book has been on the bestseller list for nearly 20 consecutive years. It is a spiritual reading material that everyone can read and benefit from.
After reading it, it can help us find our true self.
Someone asked on Zhihu: "Is there anything that is particularly easy to be middle-aged?"
has a highly praised answer: "It is particularly easy to be fat, especially tired, and anxious."
We always dislike our figure and cannot withstand the temptation of food;
while shouting about beauty and health, and can't help but stay up late to watch TV series;
while complaining about doing more and getting less, but we dare not quit our jobs and change jobs.
is not willing to be mediocre, nor has the courage to change, so he keeps wandering between confidence and decadence.
Continuous and repeated mental friction makes people exhausted, and they become more painful and anxious.
The famous American psychologist M. Scott Parker mentioned in "The Road No One Walks":
No one has no worries in life, only self-discipline is the antidote.
It can help us gain growth and wisdom from pain and save ourselves from negative emotions.
The less self-disciplined you are, the more likely you are to have bad emotions
2022 It will end in just a few months. How many flags have you achieved when you set up at the beginning of the year?
Too busy to work, too tired after get off work, and having the heart but not enough strength is the norm for many middle-aged people.
says that it is at the age of thirty, but there are indeed many flags that have been established, but few insist on realizing it.
After a long time, self-denial and doubt came in unison, and lying on the right side became the main theme.
This state not only fails to recover, but also breeds bad emotions.
Scott Parker said:
The only way to manage yourself is to be self-disciplined. No matter how difficult life is, as long as you don’t give up, there will always be clouds and fog that will disappear.
After the heroine Joanna in the book "The Kramers" got married, in order to better take care of her family, she decisively resigned and became a full-time housewife.
For several years, she has been taking care of her children, buying vegetables, and doing endless housework every day. The trivial life makes her exhausted and always despised.
anxiously complained to her husband, "It's because of this family that I'm so tired."
Once the complaint mode is turned on, she can't stop, so her husband returns home late and deliberately escapes.
Joanna realized that it is not others who can help her get out of the predicament but herself.
So, she bravely decided to leave her husband's life support, and even if she had nothing, she had to rely on herself and find the confidence to live her own life.
Joanna, who returned to the workplace, no longer felt sorry for herself, but instead worked hard and worked hard to regain her confidence in the past.
Because she knows that only self-discipline can she make up for her "homework" and have her own world.
Instead of stopping in regret, it is better to change with a positive attitude.
Rookie in the sports world, Gu Ailing can guarantee 10 hours of sleep under high-intensity training every day, and complete high school education one year ahead of schedule.
Medical community, 84-year-old Zhong Nanshan insists on exercising every day, and has been doing it for decades.
Yu Hongmin in the education industry, even if he works 11 hours a day, he can still read 150 books every year and write 600,000-800,000-800,000 words of reading notes.
knowing that you should do it but don’t do it, or don’t do it well, can make people feel anxious. The solution to
is to take yourself out of the state of "thinking too much and doing too little", blocking distracting thoughts, and starting to act.
Do what you urgently want to achieve, even if there are many difficulties, you have to try it.
Self-disciplined people will not escape when faced with difficulties. They will calmly accept the troubles brought to themselves by the problem until they are solved.
The more self-disciplined a person is, the less likely he is to have bad emotions.
Self-discipline is the only way to relieve pain
Life always comes up with a sudden problem, which catches us off guard. Either face it bravely or put it on the ground.
Self-disciplined people will adjust their mentality and start again.
Because life will not take the initiative to give you what you want, it will only give you what you deserve.
My friend Lao Zhang had a smooth life before he was 35 years old. One day, he suddenly fainted and was diagnosed with advanced uremia.
The company let him suspend his work and recuperate. has lost his income, and his mortgage, car loan, and medical expenses have made him both desperate and collapsed.
Seeing that his family's savings were getting less and less, he was unwilling to fall into depravity and decided to do something he could do.
He began to try to adjust his mentality, not only insisting on morning running to enhance his physical fitness, but also using the time he spent in the hospital to learn entrepreneurial knowledge.
2 years later, he successfully started his business, not only improving his physical condition, but also achieving compound interest.
It is not easy to face difficulties, but giving up on oneself will only make things even more difficult.
It’s not that others carry the burden on themselves, it’s that they are carrying heavier deadline pressure.
Friends all say that Lao Zhang was a blessing in disguise, but they didn’t know that it was self-discipline that gave him strong resistance to stress.
When the marriage is unhappy, stop the loss in time and stop the internal energy of mental confusion.
When work is not going well, face it calmly and assume the responsibilities you deserve.
When the pressure is too high, sweating in the gym, eating well, and sleeping well is to regain energy.
Self-discipline is never a hard work, but a regular thing with a normal mind.
The more self-disciplined a person is, the easier it is to control his emotions and let himself get out of the predicament smoothly.
Scott Parker believes:
Self-disciplined people will never give up, but try to try better ways to solve problems;
will not put the blame on the outside world, but will affect the external environment by changing themselves.
Everything you experience is not accidental, but inevitable that makes you better.
The more difficult life is, the more you need to be self-disciplined In this life, peace in life is a wish, and suffering is the norm.
Only by truly understanding and accepting the facts of life that are suffering from many hardships can we face them calmly.
" Shawshank's Redemption ", the male protagonist Andy was sentenced to life imprisonment for being accused of murdering his wife and love rival. After his repeated complaints in prison were invalid, he secretly vowed to regain his freedom.
He spent 20 years, with a small stone hammer and a poster, he dug a tunnel to light and freedom on the prison wall.
Not only does he remain optimistic, he also brings hope to others.
In order to establish a library in the prison and improve the spiritual life of his inmates, he insisted on writing letters to the state legislature every week and finally received funding for expansion.
not only insists on taking the inmates to read every day, but also helping the inmates obtain diplomas.
In order to have a strong body, he insisted on exercising in a small prison every day until the night before he escaped.
If others had given up, Andy knew very well that only self-discipline could save himself and completely change his destiny.
Scott Parker said:
In his book "The Road of Few People Walk", he proposed that in order to achieve comprehensive self-discipline, the following 4 principles need to be followed:
Principle 1: Delay the satisfaction
Qian Zhongshu said:
Keep hope at the forefront forever, don’t seek temporary comfort, face pain, and enjoy more happiness after pain.
Perform to exercise every day and not overeat. Only by doing this can you have a strong physique.
Go to bed early and get up early every day, don’t stay up late to watch videos or play games, and develop habits to keep your energy healthy.
devote yourself to your work, don’t complain about doing more and getting less, so that you can get higher treatment if you improve your abilities.
Principle 2: Take responsibility
People who are used to evading problems will become the biggest problem themselves.
The more immature the mind, the more you will wait for others to solve your own problems.
Only self-discipline can help us face the difficulties in life calmly. The way to change
changes is to assume the responsibility you should bear: "This is my problem, and I will solve it." If something goes wrong, adjust your mindset, let go of panic and anxiety, and do your best to remedy the losses.
Self-discipline is a responsibility and the best way to mature our minds.
Principle 3: Be loyal to the facts
" Analects of Confucius·Learn and " Zeng Zi said: "I examine myself three times a day: am I not loyal to others? Do I not believe in friends? Are I not familiar with my spread?"
" Zeng Zi's "I examine myself three times a day" reflects the spirit of self-discipline.
In this era of information explosion, only self-discipline can remind yourself to be sincere and loyal to your heart, so that you can gain a foothold and gain a place.
If you lose your truth, even if you succeed temporarily, you may not be able to persevere in the future trivial matters.
not deceive others, nor do you deceive yourself, so that you can see the problem and find a solution in your reflection.
The more mature a person is, the more he pursues truth from facts.
Principle 4: Maintain balance
The highest principle of maintaining balance is to know how to give up.
If you choose an attitude towards life, you must willingly give up other options.
And in the midst of rapid progress, I cannot kill myself and forget the people and things around me.
The correct way to do it is to discuss with your family, allocate time reasonably, and maintain a balance between home and work.
self-discipline is a flexible constraint mechanism.
Mature self-discipline is the ability to accept suffering and solve problems rationally.
This ability requires continuous training to achieve self-healing and growth.
at the end
Feng Lun once said:
In life, we are used to being strict with others but are infinitely tolerant of ourselves.
In fact, only by managing your own life first is a person's greatest capital and ability.
Self-discipline can not only stabilize us, but also allow us to face and solve problems in life bravely.
Investing in yourself with self-discipline is the only way to eliminate anxiety and pain.
Which level you want to reach in your life often depends on the degree of self-discipline.
The more self-disciplined you are, the more you can hold your destiny firmly in your own hands and live happily and stability.
knowing that you should do it but don’t do it, or don’t do it well, can make people feel anxious. The solution to
is to take yourself out of the state of "thinking too much and doing too little", blocking distracting thoughts, and starting to act.
Do what you urgently want to achieve, even if there are many difficulties, you have to try it.
Self-disciplined people will not escape when faced with difficulties. They will calmly accept the troubles brought to themselves by the problem until they are solved.
The more self-disciplined a person is, the less likely he is to have bad emotions.
Self-discipline is the only way to relieve pain
Life always comes up with a sudden problem, which catches us off guard. Either face it bravely or put it on the ground.
Self-disciplined people will adjust their mentality and start again.
Because life will not take the initiative to give you what you want, it will only give you what you deserve.
My friend Lao Zhang had a smooth life before he was 35 years old. One day, he suddenly fainted and was diagnosed with advanced uremia.
The company let him suspend his work and recuperate. has lost his income, and his mortgage, car loan, and medical expenses have made him both desperate and collapsed.
Seeing that his family's savings were getting less and less, he was unwilling to fall into depravity and decided to do something he could do.
He began to try to adjust his mentality, not only insisting on morning running to enhance his physical fitness, but also using the time he spent in the hospital to learn entrepreneurial knowledge.
2 years later, he successfully started his business, not only improving his physical condition, but also achieving compound interest.
It is not easy to face difficulties, but giving up on oneself will only make things even more difficult.
It’s not that others carry the burden on themselves, it’s that they are carrying heavier deadline pressure.
Friends all say that Lao Zhang was a blessing in disguise, but they didn’t know that it was self-discipline that gave him strong resistance to stress.
When the marriage is unhappy, stop the loss in time and stop the internal energy of mental confusion.
When work is not going well, face it calmly and assume the responsibilities you deserve.
When the pressure is too high, sweating in the gym, eating well, and sleeping well is to regain energy.
Self-discipline is never a hard work, but a regular thing with a normal mind.
The more self-disciplined a person is, the easier it is to control his emotions and let himself get out of the predicament smoothly.
Scott Parker believes:
Self-disciplined people will never give up, but try to try better ways to solve problems;
will not put the blame on the outside world, but will affect the external environment by changing themselves.
Everything you experience is not accidental, but inevitable that makes you better.
The more difficult life is, the more you need to be self-disciplined In this life, peace in life is a wish, and suffering is the norm.
Only by truly understanding and accepting the facts of life that are suffering from many hardships can we face them calmly.
" Shawshank's Redemption ", the male protagonist Andy was sentenced to life imprisonment for being accused of murdering his wife and love rival. After his repeated complaints in prison were invalid, he secretly vowed to regain his freedom.
He spent 20 years, with a small stone hammer and a poster, he dug a tunnel to light and freedom on the prison wall.
Not only does he remain optimistic, he also brings hope to others.
In order to establish a library in the prison and improve the spiritual life of his inmates, he insisted on writing letters to the state legislature every week and finally received funding for expansion.
not only insists on taking the inmates to read every day, but also helping the inmates obtain diplomas.
In order to have a strong body, he insisted on exercising in a small prison every day until the night before he escaped.
If others had given up, Andy knew very well that only self-discipline could save himself and completely change his destiny.
Scott Parker said:
In his book "The Road of Few People Walk", he proposed that in order to achieve comprehensive self-discipline, the following 4 principles need to be followed:
Principle 1: Delay the satisfaction
Qian Zhongshu said:
Keep hope at the forefront forever, don’t seek temporary comfort, face pain, and enjoy more happiness after pain.
Perform to exercise every day and not overeat. Only by doing this can you have a strong physique.
Go to bed early and get up early every day, don’t stay up late to watch videos or play games, and develop habits to keep your energy healthy.
devote yourself to your work, don’t complain about doing more and getting less, so that you can get higher treatment if you improve your abilities.
Principle 2: Take responsibility
People who are used to evading problems will become the biggest problem themselves.
The more immature the mind, the more you will wait for others to solve your own problems.
Only self-discipline can help us face the difficulties in life calmly. The way to change
changes is to assume the responsibility you should bear: "This is my problem, and I will solve it." If something goes wrong, adjust your mindset, let go of panic and anxiety, and do your best to remedy the losses.
Self-discipline is a responsibility and the best way to mature our minds.
Principle 3: Be loyal to the facts
" Analects of Confucius·Learn and " Zeng Zi said: "I examine myself three times a day: am I not loyal to others? Do I not believe in friends? Are I not familiar with my spread?"
" Zeng Zi's "I examine myself three times a day" reflects the spirit of self-discipline.
In this era of information explosion, only self-discipline can remind yourself to be sincere and loyal to your heart, so that you can gain a foothold and gain a place.
If you lose your truth, even if you succeed temporarily, you may not be able to persevere in the future trivial matters.
not deceive others, nor do you deceive yourself, so that you can see the problem and find a solution in your reflection.
The more mature a person is, the more he pursues truth from facts.
Principle 4: Maintain balance
The highest principle of maintaining balance is to know how to give up.
If you choose an attitude towards life, you must willingly give up other options.
And in the midst of rapid progress, I cannot kill myself and forget the people and things around me.
The correct way to do it is to discuss with your family, allocate time reasonably, and maintain a balance between home and work.
self-discipline is a flexible constraint mechanism.
Mature self-discipline is the ability to accept suffering and solve problems rationally.
This ability requires continuous training to achieve self-healing and growth.
at the end
Feng Lun once said:
In life, we are used to being strict with others but are infinitely tolerant of ourselves.
In fact, only by managing your own life first is a person's greatest capital and ability.
Self-discipline can not only stabilize us, but also allow us to face and solve problems in life bravely.
Investing in yourself with self-discipline is the only way to eliminate anxiety and pain.
Which level you want to reach in your life often depends on the degree of self-discipline.
The more self-disciplined you are, the more you can hold your destiny firmly in your own hands and live happily and stability.
Meet · Meet the unknown self in the book.
Hello evening for all book friends, welcome to read the good book column "Meet" .
Today I will share with you Fan Deng "The Road of Few People Walk" .
This book has been on the bestseller list for nearly 20 consecutive years. It is a spiritual reading material that everyone can read and benefit from.
After reading it, it can help us find our true self.
Someone asked on Zhihu: "Is there anything that is particularly easy to be middle-aged?"
has a highly praised answer: "It is particularly easy to be fat, especially tired, and anxious."
We always dislike our figure and cannot withstand the temptation of food;
while shouting about beauty and health, and can't help but stay up late to watch TV series;
while complaining about doing more and getting less, but we dare not quit our jobs and change jobs.
is not willing to be mediocre, nor has the courage to change, so he keeps wandering between confidence and decadence.
Continuous and repeated mental friction makes people exhausted, and they become more painful and anxious.
The famous American psychologist M. Scott Parker mentioned in "The Road No One Walks":
The so-called self-discipline is to take the initiative to face pain and solve problems with a positive attitude.
No one has no worries in life, only self-discipline is the antidote.
It can help us gain growth and wisdom from pain and save ourselves from negative emotions.
The less self-disciplined you are, the more likely you are to have bad emotions 2022 It will end in just a few months. How many flags have you achieved when you set up at the beginning of the year?
Too busy to work, too tired after get off work, and having the heart but not enough strength is the norm for many middle-aged people.
says that it is at the age of thirty, but there are indeed many flags that have been established, but few insist on realizing it.
After a long time, self-denial and doubt came in unison, and lying on the right side became the main theme.
This state not only fails to recover, but also breeds bad emotions.
Scott Parker said:
The key to solving life problems lies in self-discipline. If a person lacks self-discipline, it is impossible to solve any troubles and problems.
The only way to manage yourself is to be self-disciplined. No matter how difficult life is, as long as you don’t give up, there will always be clouds and fog that will disappear.
After the heroine Joanna in the book "The Kramers" got married, in order to better take care of her family, she decisively resigned and became a full-time housewife.
For several years, she has been taking care of her children, buying vegetables, and doing endless housework every day. The trivial life makes her exhausted and always despised.
anxiously complained to her husband, "It's because of this family that I'm so tired."
Once the complaint mode is turned on, she can't stop, so her husband returns home late and deliberately escapes.
Joanna realized that it is not others who can help her get out of the predicament but herself.
So, she bravely decided to leave her husband's life support, and even if she had nothing, she had to rely on herself and find the confidence to live her own life.
Joanna, who returned to the workplace, no longer felt sorry for herself, but instead worked hard and worked hard to regain her confidence in the past.
Because she knows that only self-discipline can she make up for her "homework" and have her own world.
Instead of stopping in regret, it is better to change with a positive attitude.
Rookie in the sports world, Gu Ailing can guarantee 10 hours of sleep under high-intensity training every day, and complete high school education one year ahead of schedule.
Medical community, 84-year-old Zhong Nanshan insists on exercising every day, and has been doing it for decades.
Yu Hongmin in the education industry, even if he works 11 hours a day, he can still read 150 books every year and write 600,000-800,000-800,000 words of reading notes.
knowing that you should do it but don’t do it, or don’t do it well, can make people feel anxious. The solution to
is to take yourself out of the state of "thinking too much and doing too little", blocking distracting thoughts, and starting to act.
Do what you urgently want to achieve, even if there are many difficulties, you have to try it.
Self-disciplined people will not escape when faced with difficulties. They will calmly accept the troubles brought to themselves by the problem until they are solved.
The more self-disciplined a person is, the less likely he is to have bad emotions.
Self-discipline is the only way to relieve pain Yu Minhong said:
Life difficulties have no end. What we need to do is to work hard in the middle of difficulties and do what we can and should do.
Life always comes up with a sudden problem, which catches us off guard. Either face it bravely or put it on the ground.
Self-disciplined people will adjust their mentality and start again.
Because life will not take the initiative to give you what you want, it will only give you what you deserve.
My friend Lao Zhang had a smooth life before he was 35 years old. One day, he suddenly fainted and was diagnosed with advanced uremia.
The company let him suspend his work and recuperate. has lost his income, and his mortgage, car loan, and medical expenses have made him both desperate and collapsed.
Seeing that his family's savings were getting less and less, he was unwilling to fall into depravity and decided to do something he could do.
He began to try to adjust his mentality, not only insisting on morning running to enhance his physical fitness, but also using the time he spent in the hospital to learn entrepreneurial knowledge.
2 years later, he successfully started his business, not only improving his physical condition, but also achieving compound interest.
It is not easy to face difficulties, but giving up on oneself will only make things even more difficult.
It’s not that others carry the burden on themselves, it’s that they are carrying heavier deadline pressure.
Friends all say that Lao Zhang was a blessing in disguise, but they didn’t know that it was self-discipline that gave him strong resistance to stress.
When the marriage is unhappy, stop the loss in time and stop the internal energy of mental confusion.
When work is not going well, face it calmly and assume the responsibilities you deserve.
When the pressure is too high, sweating in the gym, eating well, and sleeping well is to regain energy.
Self-discipline is never a hard work, but a regular thing with a normal mind.
The more self-disciplined a person is, the easier it is to control his emotions and let himself get out of the predicament smoothly.
Scott Parker believes:
When a person feels that he is valuable, he will take self-disciplined behaviors to take care of himself and cherish himself, rather than give up on himself.
Self-disciplined people will never give up, but try to try better ways to solve problems;
will not put the blame on the outside world, but will affect the external environment by changing themselves.
Everything you experience is not accidental, but inevitable that makes you better.
The more difficult life is, the more you need to be self-disciplined In this life, peace in life is a wish, and suffering is the norm. Only by truly understanding and accepting the facts of life that are suffering from many hardships can we face them calmly.
" Shawshank's Redemption ", the male protagonist Andy was sentenced to life imprisonment for being accused of murdering his wife and love rival. After his repeated complaints in prison were invalid, he secretly vowed to regain his freedom.
He spent 20 years, with a small stone hammer and a poster, he dug a tunnel to light and freedom on the prison wall.
Not only does he remain optimistic, he also brings hope to others.
In order to establish a library in the prison and improve the spiritual life of his inmates, he insisted on writing letters to the state legislature every week and finally received funding for expansion.
not only insists on taking the inmates to read every day, but also helping the inmates obtain diplomas.
In order to have a strong body, he insisted on exercising in a small prison every day until the night before he escaped.
If others had given up, Andy knew very well that only self-discipline could save himself and completely change his destiny.
Scott Parker said:
Self-discipline in certain aspects can only solve certain problems, and only comprehensive self-discipline can solve all problems in life.
In his book "The Road of Few People Walk", he proposed that in order to achieve comprehensive self-discipline, the following 4 principles need to be followed:
Principle 1: Delay the satisfaction
Qian Zhongshu said:
There is a pile of grapes, some people start from the worst one until they eat the best one;
Some people are the opposite, the more they eat, the more they eat, until they are desperate.
Keep hope at the forefront forever, don’t seek temporary comfort, face pain, and enjoy more happiness after pain.
Perform to exercise every day and not overeat. Only by doing this can you have a strong physique.
Go to bed early and get up early every day, don’t stay up late to watch videos or play games, and develop habits to keep your energy healthy.
devote yourself to your work, don’t complain about doing more and getting less, so that you can get higher treatment if you improve your abilities.
Principle 2: Take responsibility
People who are used to evading problems will become the biggest problem themselves.
The more immature the mind, the more you will wait for others to solve your own problems.
Only self-discipline can help us face the difficulties in life calmly. The way to change
changes is to assume the responsibility you should bear: "This is my problem, and I will solve it." If something goes wrong, adjust your mindset, let go of panic and anxiety, and do your best to remedy the losses.
Self-discipline is a responsibility and the best way to mature our minds.
Principle 3: Be loyal to the facts
" Analects of Confucius·Learn and " Zeng Zi said: "I examine myself three times a day: am I not loyal to others? Do I not believe in friends? Are I not familiar with my spread?"
" Zeng Zi's "I examine myself three times a day" reflects the spirit of self-discipline.
In this era of information explosion, only self-discipline can remind yourself to be sincere and loyal to your heart, so that you can gain a foothold and gain a place.
If you lose your truth, even if you succeed temporarily, you may not be able to persevere in the future trivial matters.
not deceive others, nor do you deceive yourself, so that you can see the problem and find a solution in your reflection.
The more mature a person is, the more he pursues truth from facts.
Principle 4: Maintain balance
The highest principle of maintaining balance is to know how to give up.
If you choose an attitude towards life, you must willingly give up other options.
And in the midst of rapid progress, I cannot kill myself and forget the people and things around me.
The correct way to do it is to discuss with your family, allocate time reasonably, and maintain a balance between home and work.
self-discipline is a flexible constraint mechanism.
Mature self-discipline is the ability to accept suffering and solve problems rationally.
This ability requires continuous training to achieve self-healing and growth.
at the end Feng Lun once said:
A person's greatness is not to lead others, but to manage yourself well.
In life, we are used to being strict with others but are infinitely tolerant of ourselves.
In fact, only by managing your own life first is a person's greatest capital and ability.
Self-discipline can not only stabilize us, but also allow us to face and solve problems in life bravely.
Investing in yourself with self-discipline is the only way to eliminate anxiety and pain.
Which level you want to reach in your life often depends on the degree of self-discipline.
The more self-disciplined you are, the more you can hold your destiny firmly in your own hands and live happily and stability.
knowing that you should do it but don’t do it, or don’t do it well, can make people feel anxious. The solution to
is to take yourself out of the state of "thinking too much and doing too little", blocking distracting thoughts, and starting to act.
Do what you urgently want to achieve, even if there are many difficulties, you have to try it.
Self-disciplined people will not escape when faced with difficulties. They will calmly accept the troubles brought to themselves by the problem until they are solved.
The more self-disciplined a person is, the less likely he is to have bad emotions.
Self-discipline is the only way to relieve pain Yu Minhong said:
Life difficulties have no end. What we need to do is to work hard in the middle of difficulties and do what we can and should do.
Life always comes up with a sudden problem, which catches us off guard. Either face it bravely or put it on the ground.
Self-disciplined people will adjust their mentality and start again.
Because life will not take the initiative to give you what you want, it will only give you what you deserve.
My friend Lao Zhang had a smooth life before he was 35 years old. One day, he suddenly fainted and was diagnosed with advanced uremia.
The company let him suspend his work and recuperate. has lost his income, and his mortgage, car loan, and medical expenses have made him both desperate and collapsed.
Seeing that his family's savings were getting less and less, he was unwilling to fall into depravity and decided to do something he could do.
He began to try to adjust his mentality, not only insisting on morning running to enhance his physical fitness, but also using the time he spent in the hospital to learn entrepreneurial knowledge.
2 years later, he successfully started his business, not only improving his physical condition, but also achieving compound interest.
It is not easy to face difficulties, but giving up on oneself will only make things even more difficult.
It’s not that others carry the burden on themselves, it’s that they are carrying heavier deadline pressure.
Friends all say that Lao Zhang was a blessing in disguise, but they didn’t know that it was self-discipline that gave him strong resistance to stress.
When the marriage is unhappy, stop the loss in time and stop the internal energy of mental confusion.
When work is not going well, face it calmly and assume the responsibilities you deserve.
When the pressure is too high, sweating in the gym, eating well, and sleeping well is to regain energy.
Self-discipline is never a hard work, but a regular thing with a normal mind.
The more self-disciplined a person is, the easier it is to control his emotions and let himself get out of the predicament smoothly.
Scott Parker believes:
When a person feels that he is valuable, he will take self-disciplined behaviors to take care of himself and cherish himself, rather than give up on himself.
Self-disciplined people will never give up, but try to try better ways to solve problems;
will not put the blame on the outside world, but will affect the external environment by changing themselves.
Everything you experience is not accidental, but inevitable that makes you better.
The more difficult life is, the more you need to be self-disciplined In this life, peace in life is a wish, and suffering is the norm. Only by truly understanding and accepting the facts of life that are suffering from many hardships can we face them calmly.
" Shawshank's Redemption ", the male protagonist Andy was sentenced to life imprisonment for being accused of murdering his wife and love rival. After his repeated complaints in prison were invalid, he secretly vowed to regain his freedom.
He spent 20 years, with a small stone hammer and a poster, he dug a tunnel to light and freedom on the prison wall.
Not only does he remain optimistic, he also brings hope to others.
In order to establish a library in the prison and improve the spiritual life of his inmates, he insisted on writing letters to the state legislature every week and finally received funding for expansion.
not only insists on taking the inmates to read every day, but also helping the inmates obtain diplomas.
In order to have a strong body, he insisted on exercising in a small prison every day until the night before he escaped.
If others had given up, Andy knew very well that only self-discipline could save himself and completely change his destiny.
Scott Parker said:
Self-discipline in certain aspects can only solve certain problems, and only comprehensive self-discipline can solve all problems in life.
In his book "The Road of Few People Walk", he proposed that in order to achieve comprehensive self-discipline, the following 4 principles need to be followed:
Principle 1: Delay the satisfaction
Qian Zhongshu said:
There is a pile of grapes, some people start from the worst one until they eat the best one;
Some people are the opposite, the more they eat, the more they eat, until they are desperate.
Keep hope at the forefront forever, don’t seek temporary comfort, face pain, and enjoy more happiness after pain.
Perform to exercise every day and not overeat. Only by doing this can you have a strong physique.
Go to bed early and get up early every day, don’t stay up late to watch videos or play games, and develop habits to keep your energy healthy.
devote yourself to your work, don’t complain about doing more and getting less, so that you can get higher treatment if you improve your abilities.
Principle 2: Take responsibility
People who are used to evading problems will become the biggest problem themselves.
The more immature the mind, the more you will wait for others to solve your own problems.
Only self-discipline can help us face the difficulties in life calmly. The way to change
changes is to assume the responsibility you should bear: "This is my problem, and I will solve it." If something goes wrong, adjust your mindset, let go of panic and anxiety, and do your best to remedy the losses.
Self-discipline is a responsibility and the best way to mature our minds.
Principle 3: Be loyal to the facts
" Analects of Confucius·Learn and " Zeng Zi said: "I examine myself three times a day: am I not loyal to others? Do I not believe in friends? Are I not familiar with my spread?"
" Zeng Zi's "I examine myself three times a day" reflects the spirit of self-discipline.
In this era of information explosion, only self-discipline can remind yourself to be sincere and loyal to your heart, so that you can gain a foothold and gain a place.
If you lose your truth, even if you succeed temporarily, you may not be able to persevere in the future trivial matters.
not deceive others, nor do you deceive yourself, so that you can see the problem and find a solution in your reflection.
The more mature a person is, the more he pursues truth from facts.
Principle 4: Maintain balance
The highest principle of maintaining balance is to know how to give up.
If you choose an attitude towards life, you must willingly give up other options.
And in the midst of rapid progress, I cannot kill myself and forget the people and things around me.
The correct way to do it is to discuss with your family, allocate time reasonably, and maintain a balance between home and work.
self-discipline is a flexible constraint mechanism.
Mature self-discipline is the ability to accept suffering and solve problems rationally.
This ability requires continuous training to achieve self-healing and growth.
at the end Feng Lun once said:
A person's greatness is not to lead others, but to manage yourself well.
In life, we are used to being strict with others but are infinitely tolerant of ourselves.
In fact, only by managing your own life first is a person's greatest capital and ability.
Self-discipline can not only stabilize us, but also allow us to face and solve problems in life bravely.
Investing in yourself with self-discipline is the only way to eliminate anxiety and pain.
Which level you want to reach in your life often depends on the degree of self-discipline.
The more self-disciplined you are, the more you can hold your destiny firmly in your own hands and live happily and stability.
