Text/An Dongyue
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I have heard this sentence: "The more thorough the contact information is, the more unforgettable the past will be. It seems very determined and carefree, but in fact it feels so uncomfortable."
About many people are like this. After ending a relationship, they say goodbye to the past by deleting the contact information, and at the same time prove that they must forget the past, let go of the past, and start over. It seems that the more thoroughly you delete it, the faster you can forget it.
However, what can be deleted is the contact information in the phone, and what can not be deleted is the memories in the mind and the attachment in the bones.
A reader left a message saying: "I feel that I am really neurotic. I have deleted him, but I still think of him often. I even enter his number in the search bar from time to time, find his WeChat, click on his avatar to see if I can see a little of his circle of friends. I don't want to do this, but I just can't control myself. How can I really forget and let go?"
love someone is not easy, but it is difficult to forget someone. If you have deep affection for a person and have paid a lot for him, it will be even more difficult to extricate yourself and will take a long time to heal.
However, time may slowly reduce the pain, but it cannot slowly make the deep memories lighter. The person you have loved deeply will still miss and miss him.
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A well-known writer said: "The best way to forget a person is time and a new love. If you can't forget it, it is that the time is not long enough and the new love is not good enough."
It is undeniable that time and a new love have helped many people forget their old love and start a brand new love life. But this is not absolute. No matter how long the time is, no matter how good the new love is, it will never be forgotten. It will always occupy a corner of the heart and will miss it for a lifetime.
People's rationality and emotions often "fight", and their strength is equal and equal. When reason prevails, many things can be handled calmly, and when emotions prevail, many things are not controlled by oneself.
So, people are always very conflicted, so conflicted that even themselves feel ridiculous.
However, this contradiction and absurdity are common in most people. From this perspective, it is actually very normal. Therefore, there is no need to make things difficult for yourself, just face your true heart calmly.
The so-called face of the true heart calmly means not forcing yourself to forget or let go, but adjust your mindset and reconcile with everything in the past.
Reconciliation is not that I no longer remember, but that even if I think about it, I no longer feel pain in my heart. You will still miss, recall, and feel, but you will not be entangled, and you will not be unwilling to give up. In this way, the best ending is.
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If you really can't forget someone, then keep it in your heart, miss it occasionally, and recall it occasionally. Don’t think that this is not good. This is wrong. The reason why people are human is because of their feelings. Who can really forget anyone you have truly loved?
People may experience many emotional experiences in their lives, but the unforgettable love is often only once. The reason why it is unforgettable is that the appearance of that person has brought great changes to himself. This change is obvious, not only others can see it, but also you can feel it.
And, this change is good and bad, and because you are in it, you often know that you cannot do it because you are trapped too deeply.
The love in my youth is passionate, crazy, impulsive, and rebellious. For the love in my heart, you can break the rules and do many unusual things. Looking back many years later, I might even feel incredible, but at that time, I really didn’t think so much, but just followed the feeling, because of love, I love.
It is precisely because of this passionate love that it is unforgettable and unforgettable for a lifetime.
Even though I have made mistakes for love, I have paid a lot, endured a lot, and lost a lot, I will never regret meeting and falling in love.
There is a kind of love that is unforgettable and unforgettable for a lifetime. That is a destined fate and a destined disaster.I can't escape, I can't escape, I can only meet with the circumstances, and be content with the circumstances...
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Author: An Dongyue, a freelance writer, writes heartfelt words with warm strokes, and I wish to meet you in the deepest world. Welcome to follow.
