Let me ask you a question first, Are you happy after marriage ? Among the many consultations I took over, I found that many sisters had high expectations for marriage before marriage, so they chose to go full-time as soon as they got married.
However, as the marriage age becomes longer and longer, I find that the relationship with my husband becomes worse and worse. So today we will talk about what to do if is not good and inseparable from marriage? Women like
have a special adjective in our professional marriage consultation field, called paste the floor .
In other words, you are trapped in the issue of your income, but because you cannot get the love of your husband, you are in a very tangled state of .
Do you think of a question every day: "Do I want to divorce this?" Teacher Hu wants to tell you that L marriage can only solve your current emotional problems, but it cannot solve your actual problems.
You can choose not to divorce this, but what can you choose to do? leaves this feeling of suffocation between each other , so how do you do it specifically?
The first very important thing is that you need to reduce your expectations and dependence on men
In other words, you have to recognize the reality of . is the relationship between you two, which is no longer as good as before.
So what else do you do? If a man comes home late, he won’t call you. After he gets home, he won’t help you with any housework. He will be bothered with these trivial matters and get angry. He will toss and turns at night and can’t sleep. I tell you, it’s not necessary.
Just reduce your expectations for this man , what should I treat him as a? It’s just a partner in life. It’s best if he can help. If he doesn’t help, we can’t let it go, do our part.
Another aspect is that depends on . Because of your own income problem, men may often talk about this matter: "Do you think what contributions you have made to your family? Isn't it all I support you?"
has been around for a long time, have you noticed? You lack the ability to make independent decisions in big and small matters. Even if you buy a lipstick or a skirt, you have to ask your husband for your opinion. After relying on this kind of , men will think that you have no value for .
This involves the second point we talk about , that is, you must learn to win respect for yourself
The reason why men often complain about you, accuse you, and suppress you is because you do not respect yourself enough.
He brainwashed you every day and said: You have made no contribution to this family, and you just hypnotized yourself like this, as if you feel that you have achieved nothing, but is this really the case?
You can choose to do something like this, leave home for a few days and give yourself a vacation. Look at how a man can leave you, and his life is as comfortable as before? The cleanliness and tidyness of the house, three meals a day, especially for children.
In the past, he thought: How hard and busy I work outside, what things at home are all simple. You asked him to try to take care of the child for a few days, and do you see if he can withstand this pressure?
In other words, Only when you can truly establish your own value will men respect you, and you are evenly matched at this time.
Because the family itself requires the cooperation of two people. It does not mean that if you don’t earn Q, you will not contribute to this family. This requires you to show your own attitude and tell the other party clearly.
