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I have a colleague, a girl, 33 years old, unmarried.
has never been in love until now. Every time we talk about love and marriage, she said disdainfully, "What's the point of getting married?" I think it's good to be alone. You see, the divorce rate is so high now, it's better to live alone. Starting a family is very stressful, and mortgage loans, raising children... It's scary to think about it. If a man has a bad habit, it's too terrible. Every time I hear her say this, I wonder, an older single woman has never been in love, so why is this portrayal of love and marriage? Although I think it's good to be alone, I don't agree with her views on marriage and men.
I couldn't help but look at her from head to toe, and I couldn't help feeling sad for her. In terms of family background, I was born in a poor rural family, my parents divorced, my mother was not here, and in terms of appearance, I was not very outstanding. In terms of education, an ordinary undergraduate degree, and in terms of ability, I received a salary of thousands of dollars and did odd jobs. I don’t know where such a person with an ordinary appearance and lacks the ability to come from the confidence that he has to claim to be single for the rest of his life. How sad it is for a person in his 30s to not know himself correctly!
I analyzed her objectively and found that she had these fatal flaws, which may be the reason why she has not been liked by a boy yet.
1. Like to complain
All people in our company know her problem. Basically, they complain from work to get off work. Either there are too many things and sales matters are too difficult, or they can't contact anyone, or they are very annoying, and there are problems. What you often hear is, why do you look for me in everything? How can there be such a person? Oh my God, I just sat next to her three months before entering the company, and I was almost depressed. I was wondering why such a person can still sit here to work, which is completely to damage the company atmosphere. Later I understood that everyone knew her problem. This person is also an old employee of the company. The company started from scratch and has been with her until now, so the leader also gave her face. As long as the other people don't protest, they turn a blind eye.
For themselves, people who love to complain are expressing their feelings and opinions, because they can't hide things in their hearts, and they relieve stress by complaining and try to get responses from others. However, for those who have just met her, others do not know her nature and will only think that this person's whole body is full of negative energy, who is willing to be with a person full of negative energy.
2. The standard for choosing a partner is high
As the saying goes, "What pot is equipped with a cover, what kind of porcelain work does not take on without that Diamond ." What it means is to know yourself correctly, know how much you weigh, and find a partner who is similar to you, because you are too low and others look down on you, and others cannot reach you. In ancient times, it was important to be of equal status, and there is still some truth to this day. The standard she requires is 175-180, she is only 160-165, she requires a house, a handsome and well-educated person, and she doesn't smoke. Her annual salary is probably 200,000 yuan. These conditions are not considered as sacrificing. The key is that she requires others to have a sense of character, responsibility, responsibility, consistency in their values, common hobbies, and people she admires feel that these requirements are normal, but no one can satisfy every one! Even if I guess I can't live my ideal life.
Men who can make money ignore their family, while men who take care of their family cannot make money. We are all ordinary people, as long as they like, have responsibility, and are responsible. As for whether they smoke, whether they can cook, whether they look good or not, they don’t think it’s important. We often say that she is because she hasn’t met someone who breaks her bottom line, but they insist on these conditions.
3. Speak sarcastic and mean
People like this are just to be straightforward, but their emotional intelligence is not high. According to her own words, she speaks out loud, but others don’t think so when they hear it. She only thinks that this person is uneducated and has low emotional intelligence.For example, newcomers don’t know how to use company printers. Such people would say, did your company not have a printer before? You won't even use this! As soon as these words were said, they demonstrated her ability and satisfied her vanity and confidence, but it was you who was hurt. No matter how difficult it was next time, you would not speak to this person. Do you think this kind of person will have a good reputation? I have made up for this idea. If my colleague got married, she would definitely talk to her husband like this. Didn’t your mother teach you when you were a child? Have you not learned it when you were in school? You don't even know this, you don't even have this common sense, and then you are the same with her child. Why are you so stupid... Oh my God, you are a person who is looking for a sense of existence in the next life. Maybe the other person can understand you at the beginning and tolerate you. Over time, people are emotional animals. Who can guarantee that they will endure you and give in to you for the rest of their lives? Therefore, women must learn to speak more. Communication is too important. Language hurts you cannot imagine. Many couples and couples are hurt by language because of poor communication and hurt each other, and eventually they part.
4. Strong personality
There is nothing wrong with strong personality
But use the right place. If you fight for trivial matters all day long, it will be meaningless. A sensible woman knows when to bow her head and when to raise her head. If she keeps tilting her head, how can anyone empathize with the other party ? When we get along with others, whether it is a couple or a partner, we should learn to be tolerant and tolerant.
My buddy has recently divorced. He complained to me: "Where am I a man? Where is my husband? I am simply her slave. If she asked me to face east, I can't face west. She said one, I can't say two. She was so tired! Last time she watched TV, she said he was thirsty and asked me to pour a glass of water. She happened to see the wonderful place. I poured water for her a minute late. She was furious and thought I didn't value him and insisted on letting me give an explanation. This kind of life is too difficult. He is usually capable outside. In her eyes, I can't do anything well. What's the point of living like this?"
This was what he complained to me on WeChat. Obviously, his wife is too strong and men have no dignity. In the eyes of many people, being strong means being selfish, arrogant, and being unreasonable always feels that he is right. Others are wrong. He can't listen to other people's advice. Such people are unpopular.
5. Self-righteous
likes to refute other people's opinions. As long as they have different ideas from their own opinions, they will stand up and shout a few words. It is very unpopular. Mature people are always good at obeying other people's opinions. Even if they are different from their own opinions, they can remain silent. The self-righteous social circle will become narrower and narrower. Except for those who are aware of their roots and who have grown up together since childhood, basically people who will leave slowly. Strangers are even more unlikely to accept such a person to become friends. You don't even have a chance to leave a good impression on others. How can you have a boyfriend?
Women must cultivate both inside and outside, and must know how to maintain decent external beauty, while taking into account rich and implicit inner beauty.
When you are excellent, you will naturally meet a person with a bright light; if you are just an ordinary person, you can only meet an ordinary partner. Know yourself correctly and manage yourself hard. There is no perfect person in the world. Whether in love or marriage, you need to understand, tolerate, and tolerate each other. Don’t expect others based on your own requirements, give others respect, and respect yourself. You will definitely meet people who want to walk together on the road of life.
A beautiful appearance needs to be based on the inner, and a full inner needs to be reflected by the gentle outer surface. Only by having both can one achieve a woman with a substantial charm, gentle and powerful.
