Especially when it comes to money, you can always see people's hearts through love. But sometimes, you have to chat because if you don’t talk about your relationship, you can only stand still, or go through your own relationship and never talk to each other.
So, if you want to be happy after marriage, it is enough for women to "overestimate both".
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First: Don’t overestimate the other party to change for yourself
As we all know, if a man loves you, he will definitely be willing to make some changes for you.
For example, I used to have many bad habits, but later I changed them one by one to adapt to you; I also liked to eat spicy food in the past, but now I have eaten spicy food for you a lot less often. This change in
usually happens when you first start. After all, if he wants to be with you, he must make some contributions. No matter how much he gives, he will not care.
However, when you are together for a long time, you are still expecting the other party to change for you. This idea is actually very unrealistic.
Because once he feels safe and knows that you will not leave him, he will naturally become self-righteous and will not be as fresh as before.
So, he began to turn a blind eye to your efforts and hard work. You kept busy in the kitchen, cooking and washing dishes, while he was lying on the sofa, either playing with your phone or watching TV.
or he is reading a book in the study, you are watching TV shows in the living room, and you two do their own things, and will not disturb each other, and will also give each other some space for freedom.
Just like now, there are many couples who choose to sleep in separate rooms and live together in normal times, but some habits are too different from each other. At this time, in order to reduce conflicts, the couple will keep a distance and respect this difference.
This is actually not a bad thing, because you can't expect the other person to change to what you want. Most of the time, you are tolerating each other's shortcomings. If you tolerate them more often, you will inevitably have resentment.
It would be better to leave some personal space for the other party and yourself. The relationship between you will also return to the state of being the same as before and return to the state of talking about everything.
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Second: Don’t overestimate your in-laws treat you like family
After marriage, many women think that since they are married to their husbands, they should also treat their in-laws as family members. Therefore, they will deliberately please their parents-in-law and find ways to get closer to each other.
Usually, I treat my in-laws’ relatives as relatives of my own family. When I see something happening at my in-laws’ home, I always rush to help me out.
believes that as long as they treat them like this, they will treat themselves with all their hearts and hearts, just like their own family.
You do this with kind intention, but you should also understand that no matter how good you are, in the eyes of your parents-in-law, you are still an outsider in the final analysis, and are far inferior to your own son.
If you are lucky and meet a reasonable in-laws, you will naturally be happy, but not everyone will treat you as a relative and will be close to you.
can have a good relationship with them, after all, you can't look up and see them, but you must also know how to set boundaries and not interfere too much and participate in the personal life of your parents-in-law.
After all, there is still a difference between mother-in-law and mother. No matter how fierce the argument with mother, they will not remember each other's grudges afterwards, but mother-in-law may not. It may be a long time later, mother-in-law will still turn over old accounts.
If you really have an irreconcilable conflict with your mother-in-law, it will have a negative impact on the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
If the mother-in-law always blows the wind next to your husband and the husband is still a person with weak ears, then your marriage will definitely have problems.
For a happy family, you must put the relationship between husband and wife first and don’t look forward to your in-laws too much.
As long as your husband and wife have a good relationship, the husband will naturally reconcile the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law from your perspective, and all problems can be solved.
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Don't underestimate the power of communication
Many men and women will have this idea when it comes to marriage: I am unhappy, even if I don't say anything, he knows how to understand me; if I am in a bad mood, he will definitely feel it and will take the initiative to comfort me.
So, they entered the marriage with this idea, and they were obviously angry and unwilling to tell each other, but they still wanted the other party to see that something was wrong.
As a result, the other party found nothing, and when they came back, they played with their phone or went to bed, you will start to think more, thinking that the other party doesn’t love you.
But the real situation is that the other party just came home working overtime and just wanted to come back and rest. And it was normal for the bad mood, so it was adjusted in a while.
But what he didn't know was that you just need his comfort. If one doesn’t say one, the other is lazy, the crack will appear.
Loving someone does not mean that the other party can understand what you think. Even an old couple should communicate in time. If you don't do this, a small thing can affect your relationship.
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Don't underestimate the power of money
Since two people choose to get married, there must be relevant considerations in terms of economics. However, since the couple had children, they had to work and take care of the children. Even if the elderly were helping in the middle, they would be unable to obey you.
At this time, some women will choose to take care of their children at home for the sake of their families and put the responsibility for making money on men.
But people's hearts have always been fickle and no one can guarantee that the other party can keep you sincere. Maybe he is very affectionate to you now, but after a few years, he has no feelings for you.
In order to deal with this kind of marriage change, women must have some money in their hands. That is not only money, but also the confidence you refuse. You don’t have to choose to compromise for money, or go further and further on the wrong path.
Not only that, only when you have money, will you have the right to restrain men, so that men can always understand that if they do something that hurts you, you can leave at any time. Only in this way can he be afraid of you.
Although feelings are indeed very attractive, feelings are also the most fragile. No matter how good the other person is to you, you must always be sober.
Only by not begging for the other party and not despising yourself can you gain freedom of marriage.
