Introduction: Why does the man’s uncle sit on the wedding banquet? How should my uncle and father-in-law arrange a seat?
Marriage is a big thing in life for anyone. Moreover, in order to have a happy life, there are many things to pay attention to when getting married.
, especially in rural areas, when getting married, you have to invite relatives and friends to have a wedding banquet, and everyone will have fun and celebrate together. When it comes to holding a wedding banquet, there are very detailed arrangements for the seats at the banquet, and , and my uncle is the guest that must be invited when holding a wedding banquet.
As the saying goes, "Born of Thunder God, uncle on earth" , among many relatives, uncle has the highest status. Therefore, when holding a wedding banquet, many places have the rules to let my uncle sit on the table. do you know why? Then if my uncle and father-in-law are at the same table, how should we arrange a seat?
Is the uncle's status higher than that of uncle? Why are my uncles sitting in the seat?
Here I want to tell you one thing first, there is such an old rule in most parts of the country, that is, when the man gets married, the uncle is the guest that must be invited, and if the uncle is present, they will basically sit in the seat. If the uncle doesn’t arrive and the uncle’s son arrives, they will sit in the seat, because it represents the uncle.
Some netizens were curious. My uncle is my mother's brother or younger brother, and my uncle is my father's brother or younger brother. Why do my uncles sit on the table during banquets, especially on special occasions such as wedding banquets? Is my uncle closer than my uncle?
It is very necessary to explain to you here that in ancient times, relatives were not what most people now understand. They are composed of two parts, namely "kind" and "kind". Among them, "kind" refers to inner relatives, that is, those who are related to oneself, such as one's own brothers, father's brothers, uncles, etc., are all considered relatives. Therefore, my father's brother, that is, our uncle, was considered relatives in ancient times.
and "rel" refers to "external relatives". From the name of internal affinity and external relatives, it can be seen that there is a gap. Relatives of the outer world generally refer to relatives who only get in relationships through marriage. For example, the mother's brothers and sisters are all relatives, and naturally the uncle is also relatives.
After getting married, I became relatives with my wife's brothers and sisters. However, such relatives are married because of marriage. If the marriage breaks down, the relatives will be broken.
As the saying goes, "One generation relative, two representatives, three generations and four generations cannot recognize each other", it refers to the relationship between "external relatives".
, but the relationship with uncle is different, so even after many years, it is still a family. This is an innate relative and is related to blood at heart. Whether it is the first, second or third generation, it cannot be eliminated. Because these relatives share the same genealogy, even if we are gone, future generations will remember these.
So, the result is clear at a glance who has a higher status or a uncle. But why did my uncle sit on the table at the man’s wedding banquet instead of his uncle?
Actually, this is easy to understand. Because the man's wedding banquet was coming, his uncle came to attend. His identity was a guest, and he was also a very noble guest. used to be the saying "My mother is the eldest uncle". Uncle is the mother's support in her parents' home and the representative of her family.
In ancient times, women had a low social status, but if a woman had a prominent family status or had a wealthy family background, then no one would dare to bully her. When she suffers any grievances at her in-laws' house, her uncle is her last backer and will help her support her. Therefore, when his uncle attended his nephew's wedding banquet, he was the representative of his mother's family, and his identity was very unusual.
Although the uncle has a high status, they are all their own family members, and they usually come to help entertain guests. It was natural for my uncle to attend the wedding banquet and to entertain guests well and let my uncle sit on the table. This is also the way to entertain guests from ancient times to the present. How can the guests come to the house, but the host and the guests go to the banquet with the guests, isn't this a joke?
How should my uncle and father-in-law arrange a seat?
generally does not happen. In my hometown, whether it is the man's house holding a wedding banquet or the woman's house holding a wedding banquet, the arrangement of the seats is very particular. Generally, the man's uncle sits at the same table with some guests, and basically lets one of the uncles accompany him. And the relatives of father-in-law and other relatives would sit at another table, so naturally they arranged for their parents to accompany them as representatives.
However, sometimes this happens, the uncle and father-in-law sit at the same table at the same time. In this case, the arrangement of banquet seats is indeed a bit tricky. However, most places still abide by the saying "Thunder God in the sky, uncle on the earth", and means that the uncle is still on the seat. But if the uncle is more modest and his father-in-law is older than his uncle, he will often let his father-in-law sit in the seat.
Some people may be more curious, why did the nephew get married, and the uncle goes to the seat, but grandparents? Because in ancient times, people like grandparents were usually older and the transportation was not convenient, so they did not attend grandchildren's wedding banquets, so the uncle was the representative of grandparents. But if grandparents go, they must have been in the seat, and there is no controversy.
is OK, I will end with you today. Finally, I want to take the exam for everyone. If it is the woman’s wedding banquet, will my uncle also sit in the table? Especially since the woman’s uncle and the man’s uncle both came to attend the wedding banquet, how should we arrange the seat? Everyone is welcome to exchange and discuss in the comment area.
