Author丨Windowsill
Girls who are not in the same category can often prove one thing: This girl has her own ideas and pursuits, and will not go with the flow, nor will she deliberately force herself to squeeze into some circles she doesn't like.
To be honest, it may be easy to say if you want to do this, but if you do it, it often seems more difficult.
After all, people have social attributes and need to communicate with the group. For some people, they can find the value of their existence and the fun they want in the group.
Not everyone can enjoy loneliness.
Therefore, people with this mentality will restrain their own personality and smooth themselves out their original edges and corners just to make themselves look no different from others. People like
are more likely to be accepted by a group in the short term, because everyone may have common preferences or goals on the surface.
When I was reading, I had a deeper understanding of this.
At that time, I was in the second year of junior high school, and there was a girl who transferred from another place to our class. She didn't know anyone in the class at that time. In order to make herself look sociable, her behavior even made a little pleasing. She agreed no matter what others said. For example, she said she liked what others said, and she also said she also liked it. At the beginning, she used this method and soon had her own friends. I often saw her go to the bathroom with a few girls.
But over time, her mentality not only did not have any positive effect, but instead made the girls who had been playing with her a little despise her and always gave her all the trivial matters that she didn't want to do, such as helping with homework, sweeping the floor in the afternoon, etc.
, and she did not gain any friendship in the end.
Therefore, blindly expressing oneself is not only unable to realize one's wishes in friendship, but also in all aspects of life, which is no exception.
Anyone who is ultimately respected is because of his self-respect - respecting his own ideas as an individual, truly accepting himself, and not infinitely wronging himself for others.
After saying the word "六国" and then go back to the initial topic, why do girls who are not sociable often get married well?
Then we need to apply girls with an unsociable mentality to intimate relationships.
The reason is also very simple - If a person understands what he wants and can not be affected by the external environment and stick to his own choices, then they will most likely get what they only have.
Especially in intimate relationships, your expectations in your heart are more important than anything else.
Some people have no opinions at all when choosing the other half. They are listening to what others say, this is to make suggestions, this is to make suggestions, this is to tell you what kind of person you are looking for, and that is to tell you what kind of experience you are looking for.
These things may make sense, but they may not necessarily apply to you.
Because everyone is not only in life, but also in relationships. If you pursue differently, the people you choose will definitely be different.
So, you have to ask yourself what you value most in your relationship. If this person has something you value, then you don’t have to adopt other people’s opinions.
In the final analysis, this is your own life. In this world, no one should know yourself better than you.
I have a high school classmate who is the kind of unsociable girl. This has been the case since she was studying. At that time, we might still deliberately pursue a group of friends, but she had already started a lonely life.She would not deliberately wait for someone to go to the classroom in the morning, nor would she have to go to the cafeteria with some people during lunch.
She is casual and willful. In addition to having a little more interactions with people in her dormitory, she usually basically only has the classroom and the canteen, and she will not deliberately make friends with anyone.
I was in the same dormitory with her at the time, and the bed was close to each other, so I would chat with her sometimes. She was always very rational and when the time came, she would inevitably stop talking and go to bed.
unlike the rest of us. Sometimes we are talking about a topic and are still talking quietly in the middle of the night. Sometimes two people squeeze into a bed, not for anything else, and are afraid that speaking will affect other people, so that they can communicate with the lowest voice.
Anyway, she is the only girl I think who is unwilling to societe.
Two years ago, she got married.
I was surprised to find that the type of groom, whether it is in terms of appearance, height, or her own comprehensive conditions, is basically similar to the person she described to me in high school.
She had never been in love in high school, but she told me about her ideal type. I didn’t expect that she actually found one of them in the end.
She is really rational and has clear goals from beginning to end. Since her incompetence in her student days, she has long laid the groundwork for her later choices.
Those who understand what they want and can be determined will be difficult to marry badly.
Maybe some people think that there are inevitably some realistic factors in their choice process, but this is normal. There are very few absolutely pure feelings in this world.
is difficult to exist, so those who pursue feelings too much are often disappointed in the end.
She is also recognized by our high school classmates as a good marriage. Outsiders think that it is mainly because her husband has a strong financial ability and is also very good to her. Her happiness after marriage is basically written on her face - how a person's life after marriage can be largely seen from the person's mental state.
She thought that marrying well was the person she found was completely her ideal type.
On the contrary, those who are always pushed away by other people's ideas may start to live in a mess in the process and then get married inexplicably. Whether it is good or bad is also said by others, and their happiness has long since slipped away.
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