Author: Qiqi
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"I'm just sad that I can't live with you" has a sentence in: Time is always the best medicine, and after a long time, I finally let it go. Yes, I agree deeply that time is our best medicine. No matter any injury you suffer in your relationship, it can be cured and smoothed by time, and time can also help us and take away those for us. Bad memories take away the concerns and longings that we once could not let go of.
Although it is easy to fall in love with someone, it is difficult to let go of someone. After all, sometimes it may only take one second, one day, or even a month to fall in love with someone, but you want to truly let go of someone in your heart. , but it takes one year, three years, or even ten years, a lifetime. So the greatest luck in life is that you can meet a really right person at the right time. However, if you are lucky enough to be like this, after all, there are still a small number of people, and more of them meet at the wrong time. When you get to the right person, you either meet the wrong person when you are right.
However, no matter which of the above two loves is difficult to bear fruit, there will not be a perfect ending. Even if you two love each other, there will be no fruit. Therefore, you both You should learn to let go of the other person and let go of this relationship. No wonder some people say that many people will meet several lovers in their lifetime and experience several relationships. Only when those wrong love and wrong people can they start a new beginning if they truly let go of them in their hearts.
You should know that in love, the best way to completely let go of a person is to not disturb, not entangle, and not contact the other person. You can let time dilute all this, even if this person has loved him deeply. But the people will slowly let go of the past as time goes by, so that they can no longer remember the appearance of this person, and can't remember the past of the two of them. In the end, of course, the two of them have no enthusiasm for rekindling their old love.
In fact, to be honest, when a person truly loves another person deeply, he must still hope that the other person can live a good life, and even in order to make the other person live happily and happily, he is willing to compromise himself. If you two are the two of you If there is really no way to get together. If two people are really destined to have no results, then sometimes it is a wise move to learn to let go and let the other party find their true happiness.
After all, when you love this person deep down, you will not just want to have the other person selfishly, want to turn the other person into your own person, go through all the ups and downs with yourself, and want the other person to be able to be forever Protect by your side and never leave. Don’t forget, there is another deep love called: no longer contact!
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No longer contact, you will slowly walk out of each other's lives;
"breaking connection" is the so-called non-connection. Only when you two can truly no longer contact, can you slowly walk out of each other's lives;
"breaking connection" is the so-called non-connection. Only by truly walking out of life between you can we completely draw a clear line between you. From now on, this person is this person, and you are yourself. You two part ways and are not in contact. Of course, this is the only way. Only then can you two completely let go of each other and let go of this relationship.
To be honest, since you two are destined to be unable to have results and are destined to have no ending, you should no longer disturb each other's life and get entangled with each other. Then to put it badly, it is to be right for yourself. His irresponsible behavior obviously has not thought about the consequences. And if you do this, it will not only not help, but it will also infinitely increase each other's helplessness and pain, which may also cause her to be disgusted with herself, so she hates herself. Don't want to see yourself.
No matter what, no matter whether you two cannot fall in love or no longer love each other, you should no longer contact each other, and you should no longer continue to appear in each other's lives. Don't bother each other, and disturb each other again, and then you will stop. Connect.
no longer contacts, and there will be no emotional interaction;
In real life, the main reason why many people cannot let go of one person and a relationship is that they still have some emotions in the two people. The concern and dependence above always feel that this person needs himself, he also depends on himself, and he is even more concerned about himself, and he is the same.
Two people always maintain some emotional interactions with each other because of these emotional concerns and dependencies. So if you two do not cut off all emotional interactions, they will always keep following each other. Stay in touch, no matter whether you have anything or not, you always send messages to the other party and say whatever I miss you, I want to see you, I dreamed of you last night and waited for words, then you will definitely not be able to disconnect and will make yourself again. Sleeping into the vortex of emotions that should have been let go, I can never get out.
Only when you two don’t contact each other, you can truly break off the connection, and there will be no emotional interaction. The two have no emotional sustenance, no sweet words, no concern and dependence on each other. From now on, Only by completely breaking the connection in the future can you truly let go of the other person and your relationship.
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No longer contact, there will be no longer any concern in life;
everyone knows that loving someone will care, and caring for someone is the basis of love. The reason why you can't let go of this part has always been unable to let go of this part. In love, I still can't let go of the other person, because I still care about him, still care about everything about him, my mood and feelings, my every frown and smile, and even my every move Once you move, you will even think randomly, and you will be delusionally thinking that he has the same emotions for himself, but he still can't let go of himself in his heart.
may also be because of this, so I can't help but want to contact the other person on my own initiative, want to care for the other person, always want to know where the other person is now, what are they busy with, and who are they with whom they are with. , How is your mood today? Are you unhappy or wronged? But don’t forget that these too much care and too much contact will only make you unable to let go of the other person and the relationship.
So if you really want to let go of the other person and let go of a relationship, you must make up your mind to stop contacting the other person. From now on, you will no longer care about this person. Don’t pay too much attention to him anymore. Don’t ask about his Xiaoxin in his life, and don’t browse his circle of friends again, really do it, don’t care about everything, don’t care about his life, and truly be calm about him. There will be no more turbulence.
no longer contacts, and will fade out of memory and forget completely;
Miyazaki Hayao Teacher once said: Some things in the past don’t have to be forgotten, but you must let go. I agree deeply that in our lives, everyone will experience many things and meet many people. Not everything, and everyone can get what they want, so we must know how to learn to "be able to take it and let it go." We should all learn to let go of the six words ", especially those who love but cannot, or cannot love themselves, or do not love themselves.
Only do this, when you let go of the past, start a new life, have new things to do, meet some new people, develop some new stories, when you have new life goals and ideals to achieve, With new interpersonal relationships, you need to maintain and develop. Once you have something to do, you will not have the time and time to remember the past, and gradually you will forget the other person and the past.
And as long as you two are disconnected, people who no longer contact and no longer have any connections will gradually develop with the passage of time, the relationship will no longer be, and the relationship will fade, and gradually you will You will forget the other person, not only will you no longer miss the other person, but you will no longer care about the other person in your heart, and you will no longer care about and pay attention to the other person's life, so that you can truly and completely forget the other person and forget the past.
Even if you think of the other person sometimes, there will be no more turbulence or ups and downs in your heart, and there will be no more emotions. Instead, you can be calm, calm, and not move any emotions, which means You really let go of the other person completely and let go of this relationship.
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Master Hongyi once said such a philosophical saying, the difference between giving up and letting go is: giving up is sacrifice that originally belongs to you, and letting go means letting go of those that have never been yours.
In short, when you can't let go of someone in your relationship, it doesn't necessarily mean that you still love the other person. It may be that you are unwilling to lose the other person, or you are used to having the other person's life, so you are unwilling to leave the other person. I am unwilling to face my own life alone, after all, it is because I can't get out of my mood and cannot truly let go.
However, to be honest, no matter whether it is feelings or other things, only when we truly let go of the past can we truly look forward and can we welcome all people and things in the future with the best attitude. After all, in the end, we will talk about it. , after all, we must live in the present, not in the past, and still look forward, rather than falling into the past and unable to get out of it.
Only when you make up your mind to break off contact with the other party, and the two no longer contact each other, will gradually be able to completely let go of the other party over time. Only by doing this, Only by regaining oneself, starting a new life, no longer live in the shadow of past life, no longer be obsessed with people who should not be obsessed with, and thus truly letting go of oneself and the other person.
Because if you can't get out of it, still fall into the quagmire, still can't let go of the other person, and you can't let go of the past, then you are torture yourself and make things difficult for yourself. You can only think clearly about this, when you understand, and at the same time you take it lightly. , you can truly let go of the other person, let go of this relationship, and all the past, so that you can start your new life and welcome your new beginning.
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In your opinion, is truly loving someone to "let go"?
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Author introduction: Qiqi, self-media blogger/100,000-plus-explosive author/Weibo contracted self-media; a warm and vicious Libra girl with a co-existence of rationality and sensibility, loves to write and write, and is good at talking about love; Welcome to follow me and would like to share an interesting and meaningful life with you, and to be independent and change with you. If you like my text, you might as well like, forward, and collect it!
