A couple goes from falling in love and getting married to having children. From the freedom and sweet talk of the original two-person world, they transition to the daily daily necessities of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea and the hard work of raising their children. The novelty of marriage gradually fades away, and many real families are added to their lives. contradiction.
After several years of marriage, there is no freshness. If mixed with other conflicts in the family, quarrels between husband and wife, conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, financial reasons, etc., if they cannot be resolved in time, these conflicts will accumulate and deepen, leading to conflicts between husband and wife. There is a gap between them.
At this stage, family conflicts cannot be resolved in time. As time goes by, the husband and wife cannot avoid complaining about each other, and even often quarrel, leading to divorce.
So sometimes when I think about it, I feel that I am actually lucky. If they had gotten married early, I don't know if two young people in love would have been able to keep their original intentions until the end. It's like I knew an editor before. She was the same age as me, but she was already the mother of a child. I have been married to my husband for three years, and from time to time we show affection in our circle of friends. In the eyes of others, we are definitely an enviable family. But later she told me that she accidentally found out about her husband's cheating. She couldn't sleep all night for a while, and her bedside table was filled with medicine for depression. I remember asking her, "Then how did you come out?" She also pretended to be relaxed and said, "You haven't come out yet. Now let's do our own thing." When the girl said this It's quite cool, but the tiredness in his eyes is also real, and the despair in his heart is probably also real.
When we are in our early twenties, it is difficult for us to understand what is really important, but many people meet the person they love most in their lives at that ignorant age. So I entered the marriage ignorantly, and waved goodbye to that person at the end of my youth. I think I can never be the kind of person who lowers the bottom line and disdains loyalty just because they exhaust their passion in marriage.
