Interpretation of emotional topics will take you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional troubleshooter, but you must know how to let yourself go!
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Once betrayal is discovered:
The kind of person who directly admits it is still a "person";
The kind of person who has clearly betrayed is still People who don't admit it are "ghosts";
The kind of people who betray but don't admit it and shirk their responsibilities are "Rakshasa";
The kind of people who betray and still pretend as if nothing happened, leaving the original wife unable to guard against them, are like six reincarnations. Can't find them all!
A consultant who was deeply traumatized after experiencing betrayal said to me:
"Teacher, you don't know, I always thought that my marriage was very happy. When I saw other couples quarreling and having conflicts, I still I used my business methods as a guide. Later, the moment I learned of the betrayal, I was completely shaken. They all sat down.
To be honest, I really don’t know why our so happy marriage could be a relationship that has gone through seven years of betrayal!”
Yes, in real life, many people think they are very happy. Only later did I realize that along the way, the clown was just myself.
To love someone and choose whom to combine with, trust is a must, but "defense" in the heart is also a must!
In interpersonal relationships, there is a very popular saying: "You must not have the intention to harm others, and you must have the intention to guard against others."
This sentence can be said to be applicable to any kind of relationship! Especially, it is more "useful" in the relationship between men and women.
Often your overestimation and trust in your partner is the root cause of your betrayal.
If you have a certain reasonable line of defense in your heart, you will be alert to the details of daily interactions, and betrayal will not come in the form of a "sudden visit", making it difficult for you to accept!
people will ignore details only when they lose their reasonable vigilance.
In relationships, it is not advisable to be overly sensitive, but I also advise you not to be an overly trusting person. Otherwise, you will be in trouble if you encounter betrayal by a high-ranking person!
Betrayal is difficult to detect once you happen to meet an overly trusting partner. In particular, some betrayers are good at pretending in their words and deeds. Isn’t it true that the first wife has always been self-righteous and intoxicated in happiness?
If there is a rank in betrayal, the betrayer who behaves like this is really the "king":
is as good to you as ever, and even gets "better"!
In many relationships that have experienced betrayal, almost a large part of the original spouse, They are all the last ones to learn that they have been betrayed.
The person in front of me has always been very good to me, even better than before, and the relatives and friends around me also concealed it "for your own good". Therefore, after I knew that I was betrayed, I realized that the betrayal had been acting for a long time, and everyone was "watching the show".
In a relationship, the happier a person is, the harder it is for him to maintain normal sanity in the face of betrayal.
This polar opposite feeling of ice and fire is the bone-gnawing pain of the original wife.
Low-level betrayers will directly show various abnormalities. For example:
cannot go home on time, will carry strange objects or smells with him, has no patience with you, dislikes and suppresses you in every possible way...
But high-level betrayers, this is not the case.
A high-level betrayer will not only let his original spouse control his own time rhythm, but will also give his original spouse full respect and care in all kinds of communication and interactions.
It’s just that high-level betrayers will naturally pass on their betrayal behavior to their original spouse in the form of meetings, meetings with clients, people who are familiar with the original spouse, etc. in their own time rhythm.
Moreover, at every time point, the original wife can "check the post" without any mistakes.
No matter what decision the original wife makes, the high-ranking betrayer will also strongly support or make rational suggestions!
The biggest reason why many first wives find it difficult to believe the facts or throw all their hatred to the third party after learning that they have been betrayed. It's because:
In all the perceptions of the original wife, the high-ranking betrayer has always been a "qualified" lover and someone who loves him deeply.
But the fact is that a person who betrays you will not love you. I don't even care about your feelings!
The betrayer betrays you, but treats you kindly and better, simply because the betrayer knows how "important" this marriage relationship is to him. After the behavior of
, there will be traces. Although high-level betrayers will treat you "in every possible way", they are nothing more than diverting your attention and making you relax your vigilance.
Remember:
Once a person betrays you, you can never really "check" him/her all the time. You should be aware of this when your occasional unexpected checks are repeatedly rejected.
High-ranking betrayers, after being discovered, will evade important matters and talk about the necessary existence of other members of the opposite sex, so as to appease the person in front of them and disrupt the attention and awareness of the original wife.
So that when the original wife perfectly transfers all the intuitive attention to the insignificant person, the high-ranking betrayer immediately cuts off contact with the insignificant person of the opposite sex in order to express his "affection and single-mindedness".
Just like that, the beautiful, happy, and solid marriage and love relationship "continues" again.
However, those who truly betray, even if they have a high rank, will still inevitably leave traces in the details.
Someone has done countless verifications in an attempt to get the "truth that betrayers will feel guilty", but it turns out that:
A person who betrays you will not feel real guilt.
The reason why he betrayed and pretended to be a qualified lover was just because he didn't want to lose the current relationship, not because he loved his original wife so much.
I have to say that after some people betray their feelings, they use very clever disguises and are not easily discovered. However, as long as the first wife remembers "don't trust too much", she will notice.
In this realistic and desire-filled present, no matter who you face, you must be cautious.
However, in the relationship between men and women, because it will directly affect the rest of a person's life, you must be extra careful and cautious when facing the person next to you.
When facing feelings, the most tolerant way to get hurt is to use the psychology of first meeting to feel the "emotion" of long-term relationship.
All betrayals are premeditated. All changes in love and marriage relationships do not happen overnight.
In this changing world of love, while being yourself wonderfully, you must establish an independent personality and have the ability to live a truly independent life, so that you can cope with all "emotional changes".
Love is the purgatory of man in this world. Be it love or friendship, only when you meet the right person at the right time can you achieve success!
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