Today, the domestic violence of Yu Xiuhua by her young boyfriend has aroused heated discussion in the public opinion. Then I am thinking about a question. As a famous female poet who is rich and talented, if she can be treated like this, then how can ordinary women be treated in

Today, Yu Xiuhua ’s domestic violence by her young boyfriend has aroused heated discussions. Then I was thinking about a question. As a famous female poet who is rich and talented, she can be treated like this. How about ordinary women in marriage? The status can be imagined.

So, what is the most important thing for a woman?

Love? reputation? money? Or something else?

Let’s first look at a famous fable.

It is said that in the Western Middle Ages, King Arthur was defeated in the war and he was taken prisoner. Then the king of the other side respected King Arthur very much and said, I ask you a question. If you can answer it, I will let you go. .

The king's question is very simple: What is the most important thing for a woman?

King Arthur couldn't answer, and then his most loyal Knight of the Round Table was a warrior, handsome, capable, and loyal. In order to save King Arthur, he said to the king: You give me three days, I will find out the answer, and you let my king go. The other king agreed.

The knight asked many people, including old men, wise men, women, and leaders of various professions, but no one gave him a satisfactory answer. Later, someone told him that there was an omniscient person living in the dark forest. The witch, she can definitely answer this question.

The Knights of the Round Table then traveled through the forest and found the witch. The witch looked at him and said I can answer you, but I have one condition, that is, you must marry me.

The witch was old, ugly, smelly, and had only one tooth, but the loyal warrior agreed without hesitation in order to save his king. He brought the witch into the palace, and the two held a grand wedding. The witch revealed the answer in front of everyone -

What is the most important thing for a woman? It is to control your own destiny.

You also think this answer is great, right? This is an irrefutable truth.

So King Arthur was free, well, the knight was sent to the bridal chamber, but strangely, he saw that the one lying on the bed was not the old, ugly and smelly witch, but an extremely beautiful fairy. He was shocked.

The fairy said: "I am the witch. I will give you a choice now. Do you want me to be the beautiful fairy during the day and the old and smelly witch at night? Or vice versa. I will be the witch during the day and the witch at night." I am a beautiful fairy?”

So, what will you choose?

When a psychologist called their disciples together to discuss this issue, all the students began to discuss it enthusiastically. Some people say that I choose daytime because I want to save face, right? How can I be with an old and smelly person? Some people say don’t worry about face. At night, there is an old and smelly person lying next to you. , how can you accept it, it’s hard to choose, right? How did the

knight choose? He looked at the witch and said: "The most important thing for a woman is to control her own destiny. This question is left to you. You make the choice. I will accept whatever you choose." After saying this, the spell was lifted, and this What did the witch choose? She said, I will always be as beautiful as a flower. This is a happy ending, right?

But the most important sentence here is what we should all remember - Women must have the ability to control their own destiny, and do not give it to others casually, otherwise you may give up the right to harm yourself. Handed over to someone else.

So, let’s go back to the matter of Yu Xiuhua’s domestic violence. The reason why Yu Xiuhua was domestically abused is that she has not completely controlled her own destiny, at least not in the matter of love.

Judging from her past records of this relationship, she cherishes it very much and devotes herself to it. She completely gives herself to the other person and goes all out for it. Even though she knows in her heart that this relationship will not last long, she is unwilling to hold back. , thus giving others the right to harm themselves.

But we don’t have to be too harsh on Yu Xiuhua. After all, the beater is the first person to be condemned. We don’t have to worry about Yu Xiuhua’s future. For a female poet, although she is physically disabled, after she experienced this incident , you will definitely become more independent mentally, and hold your destiny firmly in your own hands just like you did when you bravely divorced for the first time!

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