A letter from a reader said:
I particularly hate myself now because I have fallen in love with someone who I cannot get at all because the other person is already married and he loves his wife and children very much.
He and I are colleagues. At first, I didn’t think he was special or attractive. But after working together for a long time, I found him more and more attractive. I can’t put my finger on what’s so good about him. I just feel comfortable with him. It's very comfortable to be together.
In the beginning, I just admired him simply, and even felt that it was very happy to see him every day.
once secretly filmed some of his daily actions. When I feel depressed, I feel better when I see the short videos of him secretly filmed.
Perhaps people are too greedy, and gradually I started to have the idea of taking him for myself, which made me start to show some behaviors in front of him that were beyond the relationship between colleagues, such as asking him to dinner and bringing him lunch.
Every time at this time, he would talk about his wife. Even when I invited him to dinner, he would deliberately bring his wife with him.
I know he is rejecting me in disguise.
Recently, he has shown affection to his wife in front of me more and more frequently, which caused my mentality to explode.
Actually, I understand the truth: I shouldn't like him at all, but should appreciate him from a distance, but I can't control my emotions.
I hate myself so much and feel that I am so cheap.
what should I do?
Muzi Li emotional analysis:
Regarding life, in fact, we want a lot of things.
When we were very young, we felt that a toy or a candy bar would satisfy us;
When we were in school, we might feel that a pair of brand-name clothes and a pair of high-end sneakers would satisfy us;
After working, We may feel that having a house, a car, and a certain amount of savings can satisfy us.
Have you ever noticed that the toys and candies we loved once were nothing but childish in our current sight? But we used to rare and cherish it so much.
means that as people grow older and have more, they become more greedy.
Love is actually like this: what you can’t get is always considered the best.
The key is that when it comes to love, we also need to make choices. Especially when we fall in love with someone we know we can’t get, we must learn to detach and always remind ourselves that the other person belongs to his wife and children. .
Remember: the earth is not your home, and not all the people and things you want can be yours.
For this reason, you must calmly face the cruel reality that you will never get some of the people and things you want to have in this life.
In fact, your current state is extremely embarrassing and painful.
Therefore, the most rational thing to do is to force yourself to get out of this unrequited love. If you have to immerse yourself in it, you deserve the pain.
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