I watched everyone chat in a group that day and talked about love, marriage and family. For love, some friends say that love is a gift in the snow, but I hope that love is the icing on the cake. The feeling of giving charcoal in the snow is more biased towards the fact that the other person has given you good material and spiritual satisfaction, and only then has you become a good person. The icing on the cake is that both of us are very good individuals, and together we become better.
Sending charcoal in the snow is addition, and icing on the cake is multiplication; sending charcoal in the snow is weaker and stronger, and icing on the cake we are evenly matched; sending charcoal in the snow is given, and icing on the cake is that I have a brocade and you have a flower, and both sides have their own from the inside. the power of. Think about it, which one do you want more for love?
For love, girls want to love each other more sweetly. This is also the foothold of many romance novels and film and television dramas, so the female image portrayed is either weak or silly and sweet, and then cooperate In a relatively poor family, the girls’ joy, anger, sorrow, and joy will all fluctuate according to the way boys treat her. The happiness at this time is equivalent to being given by others. If the other party stops giving, your happiness will not last. .
is just like the definition of happiness for women in today's society is marrying a rich husband who loves you, and having a pair of smart and lovely children. The emphasis is on the happiness given by other people's external forces, while ignoring the joy of self-determination. But I think the beauty of life is the strength of self. This strength is not aggressive strength, but the self-giving power that I firmly believe that I can make me find my own in this complicated world. joy!
I recently watched "Meeting the Unknown Self-Urban Body, Mind, and Spiritual Training Course" by Zhang Defen. Zhang Defen, the chief spiritual writer of the Chinese-speaking world, is the pioneer and founder of books on the spiritual field in mainland China. Zhang Defen graduated from the Department of Business Management of National Taiwan University. He has worked as a news reporter/anchor for Taiwan TV Company for many years and obtained a master's degree in business management from the University of California, Los Angeles. Since 2002, she has been inspired and guided to quit her high-paying job to concentrate on yoga and various spiritual growth courses. Teacher Zhang Defen wrote in the book that Happiness is triggered by external things, and joy is blooming from the inside to the outside. Self-growth should be more inward thinking. The power of internalization can make you more happy and joyful Every day!
So, what can we do if we want to strengthen our internalization power? I found some methods in "Meeting My Unknown You", let's learn together!
1. Take care of yourself and be responsible for us
It is written in "Meet the Unknown You", Take care of yourself The most important thing is , worrying about our relatives is actually an irresponsible act of harm. Like parents disciplining their children, are they afraid that they will lose their face when they go out; do they expect the children to bring glory to their parents’ ego; do they project their parents’ fear of the unknown and unknown in the future on the children and aggravate them burden. Asking so many relatives, is it caring, or putting more pressure on the other person? I hope that we should better manage ourselves inwardly. When I am good, we will be good, and the world will be better.
I have a classmate who started with her boyfriend in high school. She treats her boyfriend very well and always puts each other first. I live frugally, but spend a lot of money to buy gifts for my boyfriend; I don’t participate in class activities, so I go to my boyfriend’s school to visit him when I have time; my boyfriend is taciturn, doesn’t say hello to her friends, and basically doesn’t talk to her very much. The family talked, but still defended the boyfriend and never complained.
But every relationship seems to have a seven-year itch. When my boyfriend broke up with her for some external reasons, my classmate’s world collapsed, and the feelings I had been maintaining were suddenly broken up in the air and disappeared instantly. . She gave up money for her, Time, friends, and family, thinking that they have found their eternal support point, but they just think they are.
always said that time can heal all the scars. More than ten years have passed in a flash. Let’s take a look at my classmate. Now she has a job she loves and buys some small luxury goods for herself. Will come out alone to eat and go shopping with us. After paying attention to her heart and managing herself well, she met her husband and had a pair of children. From the tight days before to now she has a little comfort of her own. Now she is beginning to lose weight again. She looks a lot like Ariel Lin. She is a cute girl who loves to laugh. I want to say to her "Better because of you, you smile so beautifully"!
2. Learn to surrender, and enjoy the opportunity to turn the corner
In "Meeting the Unknown You", the protagonist Ruo Ling has the best sales performance, the company I did give this number one to another colleague, and at the same time I found out that when her husband had an affair, she was unfair, angry, and hated. But the old man told her that the biggest reason for people's suffering is to resist the facts, learn to surrender, and not to resist in vain. Life gives you experience and also gives you an opportunity to grow.
Ruoling tried to surrender, the company gave her a tie for first place, and later changed to a new position she likes in the personnel reorganization; in the marriage, facing her husband’s derailment, she did not cry or make trouble, and finally her husband Zhiming said to try again Try, and willing to accept the help of marriage experts.
书中说 The advantage of surrender is that when you accept the present and don't waste your energy to fight, things will often turn unexpectedly , and you realize that the original struggle is really wasted effort. Recalling my past, when I cut my salary and joined a company as a logistics specialist when my career was low, my heart was very uneven, so when facing colleagues who joined at the same time, I easily started to complain about the new company. I also said that I didn't want to do it, just to give myself a release.
But, what you say casually, others don't listen casually. A colleague in the same period sent an email to my immediate leader, telling me that I had plans to leave and she wanted to transfer from a warehouse assistant to my job. Later, the leader and personnel talked to me and told me the cause and effect. At the moment, my mind was buzzing and I really wanted to tear up that colleague, but a sensible voice told me that we must never let the villain get aspired. This job is today. I can't throw it.
So I did not refute or say anything bad about that colleague. I expressed my reflection and I am sorry that I have brought too many negative emotions to work, and I still complained among colleagues. This is what I did. Bad place. But I did not slack off for this job, and at the same time I asked the leader to supervise my work. Fortunately, I didn't have a perfunctory job, and I worked harder later, so I quickly got the recognition of the leader. I became a supply chain supervisor from a logistics specialist, and my salary was doubled several times. As for the colleague who sent the e-mail behind, I didn't blame her, just distanced herself a little, and it didn't take long for her to leave the job.
I was fortunate that I paid attention to the present and surrendered at that time, so I got the job opportunity later. So When something bad happens, please accept it first, pay attention to the moment, and you will see your own light when you walk.
Third, never criticize, good luck always after calm
"Meeting the unknown self" Ruoling found every time I watch The elderly are always so comfortable, because the elderly is a person who is not critical and accepts you completely. At the same time, past students of the elderly said that he maintains a happy and peaceful heart every day, not attached to external things, but his career is thriving, and many good luck can't stop him.
There is a colleague in my previous job, everyone buys a cartoon watch online, I chose it first, she has been hesitant, and other colleagues reminded me that I have already selected one. She was very angry and said why I couldn't choose another one, and then said that she was not happy to buy it. When the watch arrived, she looked at it and said,It turns out that this watch is so big that it is not appropriate to buy it if you are too skinny.
A colleague resigned, and she wanted to assign the customer to a few active salesmen to follow up. She went to the boss first to pick out the customers she thought was the best. There were three German clients competing for the same project. She chose one of the most competitive clients that year and kicked the other two to me. But unexpectedly, the company he chose had problems that year, and the following orders were getting fewer and fewer, and the two customers that I mentioned to me, one of them accepted the big project in an all-round way, and the amount of orders increased significantly every year. One family changed the runway, and they did well.
At that time, I was the best dish in the company. My parents told me that newcomers should be more calm and accept more and less opinions, so I accepted everything that was given to me. I finally found out that did my own peace. Instead of criticizing people and things outside, I was favored by God and gave me a lot of luck.
"Meeting the Unknown You" is a book where you can learn physical and spiritual practice, telling us that we should do more Thinking inwardly, because there is no one outside, all the external things in are the result of our inner projection. So, please check yourself first, find your true inner self, and talk to yourself, in order to better face the outside world. With a complete inner self, it will reflect the happy outer world.
Before, whenever I encountered a problem, I always wondered why God treats me this way, why they treat me this way, I blame everything on the outside, and ask why they didn't give it to me. A little joy. And now I, I try to think inside and understand that all external things are projections from my heart. If I want to change, I should start with myself, so that I can feel my joy!
