Yesterday Double Ninth Festival , the daughter-in-law is going back to her natal family. I said this is a festival for ancestor worship. Your parents are still alive. Why don't you go back and join in the fun? Wouldn’t it be better for our family to eat delicious food all the time at home?
The daughter-in-law said that it was my natal family. I said that this matter must be taken care of, and that what is not supposed to be returned cannot be returned.
Later, under my persuasion, the wife finally compromised and honestly ate at home, but she was still a little unconvinced, saying that everyone is equal now, why I still have to listen to you.
Is everyone really equal?
I said you go to work every day, are you equal to your leader? My daughter-in-law says that she is a leader, how can she compare with her leader? I said that’s good, let’s not compare with the leader, then you are the leader of the class, you have to listen to you in this group, you do the same job, why you are the leader of the group, and the salary is higher than others Two hundred more, are others equal to you? My daughter-in-law said that I work neatly and work hard. This is a reward given to me by the leader.
I said that's ok, you can let the child and her grandmother go to work at your place too, just give me some salary. My wife said she is too old. I said, let the children go. My daughter-in-law said that the child still has to go to school.
Look, the age is too old, and the younger one wants to go to school? It is said that everyone is equal? Moreover, the family lives together, eating and drinking together, and spending a lot of money every day, but neither the elderly nor the children can go out to make money, and the money that should be spent every day cannot be less. What should I do? You can’t drive the old man out of the house and let him fend for himself; the child is born on his own, and he is reluctant to throw it away. You have to spend money for him to go to school, and you have to pay for his marriage in the future. No matter how much money you spend, you will be willing to use it on your child. Are you willing to spend your money on the elderly? You see, a family eating at the same dinner table treats the elderly and children differently. Does this make everyone equal?
In fact, everyone’s equality means that everyone has the right to choose independently. You can choose whatever you want to eat, sleep and play peas. No one can interfere with you. I can’t force you to sleep if you want to eat. I can’t force you to sleep if you want to sleep. You go to dinner, so everyone can be equal in choice; but you can’t decide whether you can do the behavior you choose and how you should do it.It's like eating. You want to eat potatoes, the elderly want to eat cabbage, and the children want snacks. What do you do? Does every dish have to be prepared and brought to the dinner table? More than three hundred days a year, three meals a day, can you bear it? Therefore, there must be a "head of the family" to decide what to do to maintain the normal order of family life. If everyone is the "head of the family", then it will not be "a lot of people are confused, but there are too many chickens." "Egg"? How do you live?
Where there is a family, there must be contradictions. This is human nature. There is no need to treat it as a scourge. It is inevitable that the family will stumble and even be noisy, but is the contradiction that can be resolved still called contradiction? As the head of the family, a man must be able to afford it, and if he can offend his wife, he can make her happy. This is a man's responsibility.
Later my daughter-in-law said: Okay, let's listen to you. I can't tell you the truth but I won't be able to turn over in your life.
If you can't turn over, it didn't make you suffer. Hey, is it true that every daughter-in-law loves to be stupid!
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