Married to the younger sister from the south, she once again invited her parents to live there for a while. Because the house they bought this time is surrounded by mountains and rivers, in the suburbs, the whole environment is similar to their hometown.
But without exception, Mom and Dad refused again, on the grounds that they didn't have time, and they didn't want to live in their hearts.
Two years ago, I would still say something to my parents, accusing them of not appreciating and wasting the filial piety of my children. But this time, I also agree with my parents: Don’t go anywhere, staying in my hometown is the most worry-free.
It turned out that when parents are getting colder and colder towards their children, it is not that their love for their children has decreased, but that they are really old.
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In the world of parents, only the wife is left.
I don't know when it started. In the world of mom and dad, only the wife is left.
In the early years, they were still worrying about helping us with our children. Their daily theme was to cook the children’s favorite meals, but as their grandchildren started to go to school, they had fixed content in their daily lives and they lost a lot. Opportunities to interact with children.
Even on weekends, children will return to them at most to eat a meal, and the happiness of having a baby and grandchildren has been quietly far away from them.
As sons and daughters, we are all busy in our own way. Even when we call to greet our parents, we always hang up in a hurry.
So, their world, only their wife is left. Go out together, go to work together, walk with relatives together, surround the stove, cook meals for two people... Years of tacit understanding, so that they no longer need too much verbal communication, just a look, or A small action can "understand" the other person's mind.
Sometimes, I can't help but sneak photos of my parents: Mom always acts as a "commander", and Dad always refers to it. It's just that they are old and thin in the lens, and they are a little hunched, and they walk a lot slower than before.
I can't believe it, but my parents are getting old faster than I expected.
That day, my mother had to be hospitalized because of a fall in the vegetable field, but my father couldn’t accompany her because of a bad cold, so he told me again and again: "Don’t blame your mother again, don’t be right She shook her face. If you were rude to her, you won’t go back to this house next time.”
After saying this, my dad hid his face and wept. The look of distress and reluctance is like a sharp blade. It stung me raw.
Wife and wife, companionship for a lifetime, probably, only when life gradually comes to an end, can you have the deepest experience, as long as you can go hand in hand with your favorite person, you will be fearless and fearless.
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Parents are getting cooler and cooler with their children, which is another way of loving.
Once upon a time, every Chinese New Year, Mom and Dad would prepare large and small packages of "local goods" and mail them to the little girl so that she could taste the taste of hometown.
In the past two years, parents seldom send them any more. The vegetables and fruits they grow can't be eaten, so they sell them in the market. Although they can't sell them for a few dollars, they are always happy. Once, when it was raining lightly, both of them got soaked in their clothes, and they were reluctant to go home.
that time,I severely criticized my parents once.
In the end, my mother only said faintly: "I planted it myself, and you don't want it. Why don't you let it sell?" At that moment, I was speechless.
Which parent does not long for his daughter-in-law to be around her grandchildren's knees, and which parent does not long for their children to go home often? When reality cannot achieve this simplest wish, mom and dad can only try to change themselves.
Each is safe and does not disturb each other. When parents understood this cruel truth, they began to work hard to adapt to this kind of life.
There is nothing wrong, and I no longer hope that my children can go home or make phone calls. Of course, I rarely take the initiative to call my children. If you can get together during the holidays, you can get together. Table hearty dishes. As long as the children show the taste of missing their hometown a little, they are ready to prepare happily. It seems that the children's approval is obtained, and the souvenirs sent will be more fragrant.
They stop nagging and nagging. They are living more and more themselves, so that they don’t need their children to intervene in their lives as a last resort. They use this “do not disturb” way to give their children. Deeper care.
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Don’t be fooled by the coolness of your parents. When everything is still in time, go home often.
How long have you had a good chat with your parents? Are they used to looking at your face to live their lives? Once they find that you are in a bad mood, if you rush to your mouth, they will swallow it again.
How long have you had no dinner with your parents? Every time there is always your favorite dish on the table, are you willing to spend a whole day,Make a meal that suits their taste?
How long have you not been walking with your parents? The elderly who walked with them occasionally have their children accompanied by them, making them envious. This time, let mom and dad be envied by others too.
Mom and Dad’s various kinds of coolness, many of them are false.
They have long been accustomed to telling their children about the good and not their worries, just like us who had just left home and went to the society.
They are used to not going anywhere, not only to save money, but also for their children to return home at any time, and they have steaming meals.
They have long been accustomed to as long as their children have a good life, it is better than anything, for fear that they will cause trouble to the children again.
Therefore, they stubbornly want to stick to their hometown, stubbornly want to work in the field, and stubbornly want to make small money that no one looks up to.
Because, only then, they will not fall into deep loneliness, and they will not be disturbed by longing and longing for reunion. They have to live a good life in a way they are familiar with.
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Concluding remarks:
If your parents are here, there is still a place in life; if your parents go, there is only a way back in life.
If one day, you find that your parents are cold and colder towards you, don't blame them, because they have sent too many "signals" of love and they have been "shielded" by you.
Now, the only thing they can do is to do everything possible to make you less worry about them. In fact, they are really old and really need the warmth of their children.
Author: As the wind is as light as the clouds.
your happiness,My blessing.
picture comes from the Internet.
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