Recently I saw a female civil servant netizen with emotion: "Is a female civil servant from a poor family unworthy of marriage?" The female civil servant was born in 1995 and now works in a public institution with a total annual income of 100,000. There is no car or house, and he thinks he looks ordinary. The personality is not perverse, healthy, and no bad habits.
But one of her most troublesome things is that her family is not going well. Her family members took turns to become seriously ill since she was young. Later, her father was cut to the neck by a cutting machine, and she has not recovered. Both of her brother-in-laws died unexpectedly. There were three fires in the home, and two of her three nieces and daughters were low-minded.
Her parents are farmers, and they are relatively old, so she can't do heavy work anymore. Her elder sister is not well and very lazy. She now needs to support two elderly people, and she has to take care of her sister (sister's children study, rent a house, see a doctor, pay phone bills, change electric car batteries, and study secondary school tuition. Civil servants, because my sister does not have any income except for the monthly subsistence allowance), all these have caused the economic pressure of female civil servants to be particularly great. Say no to my sister. The child was sick and waited for the money to be admitted to the hospital. Because she didn’t buy a house or a car, she also had some money in her hand. It seems that I feel sad not to see a doctor for my child. Moreover, she also relies on her brother-in-law to pay for living expenses in college. Without her brother-in-law, she would not have the current job. She felt that she still owed them. At present, she has not saved a penny for two years after working three years ago. This year, she has saved more than 60,000 when she is lucky at home. I don't know if there will be any accidents in the future.
Relatives also introduced her to two college graduates who worked in private companies, but they were unwilling to visit her home after seeing them. In fact, she is quite satisfied with them, and thinks it's fine. Maybe it’s because the situation in her family is too severe, and everyone is discouraged! This female civil servant is really hit now, she feels depressed, and she always wonders if she is unworthy of getting married, she often sighs with inferiority. At what level should I lower my mate selection criteria to find a partner?
Seeing the situation of the female civil servant,I have deep sympathy for her! What kind of family she is born into, and her appearance, are not up to you! You must adjust your mentality and live optimistically! At the same time, I personally think that she should not be too anxious to find someone. After all, now When the man came and saw that to marry her, he might have to bring her sister, nephews, nieces, and six parents, plus the man’s parents and future biological children. Even if there is only one, two people will have to raise nine people. , Not having an annual salary of one million in the family may not be enough. Naturally, many people will be scared off! I suggest that the female civil servant can try to find another partner for her sister, so that she can feed them. It does not require wealth, as long as she has enough food! Then consider buying an old-age insurance for your parents to solve the worries of the elderly and you! The road will naturally become wider and wider!
In short, in the face of hardship, you can't just shrink back and be passive. You must actively think of ways to solve the problem step by step. That's the best policy! Do you have any suggestions for this female civil servant? Welcome to leave a message to share!
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