The ancient saying: "He who loves others, he always loves him; those who respect him, he always respects him." In interpersonal communication, approaching and alienating, likes and dislikes are mutual. Therefore, in interpersonal communication, the principle of interaction must be followed first.
Especially in a blind date, if a man can put himself in the other side, fully understand and respect the woman, the other side will naturally treat you as his own person, and will trust you invisibly. A successful blind date is logical. thing.
1. A 64-year-old man watched a blind date show and fell in love with his wife at first sight because of one sentence
64-year-old Ding Shoubao retired from Wheel Factory and has a monthly pension of about 3,400 yuan. After his wife passed away, he lived alone. His The life motto is "It’s no use keeping money, it’s devaluation" . We can see from his words that his financial situation is very good.
It turned out that after the house where Mr. Ding lived was demolished, he compensated him with a sum of money. He spent 620,000 to buy an 80-square-meter house for the elderly. Invested in an old tube building. It is said that there is already a building next to this suite, and his investment can once again see hope. Therefore, Mr. Ding is a business-minded person. After retirement, he leads a very leisurely and comfortable life. The only thing that makes him regret is that his life is rich but rich. No one shared with him.
A classmate told him that there was a blind date show that was very popular. He opened it to see a lady named Yu Changyan who was going on a blind date. At that time, the matchmaker asked Ms. Yu what kind of person was she looking for? She replied: "Find someone who can take care of each other".
has never experienced the hardships in life, and cannot say such empathic words. After the death of his wife, Mr. Ding made him deeply feel the loneliness of no one’s loneliness. So Ms. Yu’s simple sentence instantly touched Mr. Ding’s sensitive nerves. He felt that this woman was kind-hearted and decided to take this lady home and let him take care of it.
Mr. Ding did not sleep all night, so the next day he called the program team to specify to see Ms. Yu Changyan.
Confirmed by the matchmaker, Ms. Yu is currently single. I heard that a man hit herself on TV. Ms. Yu was surprised and happy, so she agreed to come to see her at home.
2. Buying a pair of shoes to give away the woman has a profound meaning, and the courtesy is light and righteous. It shows sincerity
Mr. Ding is a caring person. I heard that going to see the woman is like a young man who is in love for the first time. He is nervous and excited. He knows he can’t. Go empty-handed and discuss with the matchmaker to buy a pair of shoes for the woman. The meaning is: "Follow me in the future."
Some people say that humor is a beautiful and healthy quality, and it is one of the essential elements for the popularity of big things.
Mr. Ding speaks humorously and does things vigorously. He wants to buy a pair of ladies' shoes that are easy to walk and light. Although he doesn't know what size the other party is wearing, he thinks it can be changed if they are not suitable. Even the matchmaker was moved by his sincerity.
matchmaker suggested that he buy a pair of white for Ms. Yu,Mr. Ding thinks that the white is too clean and it will appear dirty after two days of wearing. After careful selection, he chose a pair of black couple shoes with the same color as his own in size 38. It can be seen that Mr. Ding is a very particular person, not only has a cheerful personality, dare to speak and love, but also has a delicate mind and is very assertive. Once the goal is determined, it is not easy to be changed, and he is the dream lover in a woman's mind that she wants to marry.
Although a pair of shoes is not expensive, the courtesy is light and righteous. It also represents Mr. Ding’s heart. If you want to start a relationship, we can usually tell from a small gift he bought. The respect of the woman.
It can be seen that Mr. Ding has very strong communicative skills. Some people have said that "If a person has a hard time trusting others, then he is unlikely to have healthy relationships." Indeed, in interpersonal communication, trust between people is mutual. Therefore, Mr. Ding moved the woman with his sincerity.
After the two parties met, the matchmaker enthusiastically introduced them to each other and asked Mr. Ding to take out his mobile phone and let Ms. Yu watch the video he recorded. It turned out that Ms. Ding Changyan’s blind date video was kept in Mr. Ding’s mobile phone. Just because he liked it, he watched each other’s programs repeatedly and wanted to see a real person. The words of the matchmaker can say Ms. Yu laughed, this laugh is very similar to Mr. Ding, both of them are cheerful and enthusiastic, and there must be something to play.
Mr. Ding said that he watched the blind date show only after being introduced by his classmates. As soon as he turned on his phone that day, he suddenly saw Ms. Yu’s episode of this show. Seeing Ms. Yu’s heartfelt truth, he felt this The person is very nice, so I wonder how can I take this person home?
He saw that Ms. Yu in the show was particularly feminine,It was as kind as an acquaintance of his own. For this reason, he specially recorded Ms. Yu's video, and opened it every day when nothing happened, even to the point of obsessiveness. Only when the two met this time.
3. The shoes were small, but the woman was moved: Wear new shoes and take a new path
talked and laughed, both felt good. After sitting down, Mr. Ding brought out the shoes he chose for Ms. Yu. , I hope she will stroll to Yitonghe. This behavior surprised Ms. Yu. She did not expect that Mr. Ding was not only affectionate to her, but also very warm-hearted.
Seeing Mr. Ding took out the shoes, she involuntarily asked: Do you know how big my shoes are? Can you feel it?
What is needed between men and women is a kind of heart. To be honest, buying shoes by watching women’s videos is unlikely to be 100% suitable.
Ms. Yu said that she wears 39 travel shoes and 40 leather shoes. It seems that Ms. Yu has a pair of big feet. Mr. Ding is particularly sorry that he chose the wrong size. He said that he had never spent money to buy shoes.
Now that you buy it, let's try it. Ms. Yu can't go in, she really bought a small one, but seeing Ms. Yu's happy smile, she is very satisfied with Mr. Ding's intention. Isn't it what she wants to be cared for and loved by others?
The matchmaker did not forget to remind Mr. Ding to talk about the meaning of buying these shoes. Mr. Ding said with affection to the lady: The meaning of buying these shoes is to follow me. ,Take the new path . Ms. Yu answered with her hearty laugh: "wear new shoes and take a new path."
In interpersonal communication, how to use the shortest time to win the trust of others requires some skills. Psychologists once said that showing one’s inner world to the other person is a way to bring them closer together. Therefore, Mr. Ding's words are undoubtedly the best temptation. A very casual sentence "Follow me, take a new path" , and the distance between the two was narrowed in one go, and Ms. Yu responded happily.
Ms. Yu was very happy during the entire blind date. The matchmaker asked Ms. Yu privately how she felt after receiving the shoes? Ms. Yu said that the other party was very caring.
Although Ms. Yu is only 61 years old this year, it may be related to her personality. It seems that her face is younger than her actual age, and she is easy-going and easy to approach. Regarding the small size of the shoe, she said that who knows who wears the size of shoes. Mr. Ding also decisively stated that he would buy a person for a change.
The matchmaker is really a great assist at the critical moment, and the iron must be hot. Here, the matchmaker asked Ms. Yu if he would change with Mr. Ding. Ms. Yu also generously said: Wear new shoes, take a new path, and change Chant . So everyone hit it off, the three of them went to the mall together, and Mr. Ding played his heroic qualities again.Just let Ms. Yu choose the shoes she likes.
Some people say that whether a man loves you or not depends on your attitude towards spending money on a woman. Therefore, Mr. Ding is really a person who will come. From buying shoes, meeting to trying on shoes, changing shoes, Ms. Yu is amused from ear to ear. EQ is indeed high.
4. The man’s sincere words make the woman very moved. Is this love “worth it?” All the emotions that can drive people to approach, cooperate, and connect with form are called associative emotions. The more associative emotions, the more compatible with each other.
Therefore, Mr. Ding’s atmosphere and demeanor in front of the female side show that his field control ability is particularly good. It also fully shows that Mr. Ding is good at communicating and interacting with people. He has his own unique social skills. Buying shoes and changing shoes made us see his excellent quality, noble personality and unpretentious wisdom and talent.
After changing her shoes and returning home, Ms. Yu shared her concerns to Mr. Ding. It turns out that she has an old problem, and she loves to breathe in bed at night, so she is afraid that it will affect the man's rest. Because she and her daughter sleep together at night, and her daughter sleeps lightly, which always disturbs her. So she was frank about her problem, and she was afraid that Mr. Ding would marry a daughter-in-law and go back. Because of her reason, the two of them were separated to sleep, hoping that the other party would understand.
Unexpectedly, Mr. Ding answered “Yes” decisively, anyway, watching TV over there, sleeping here. He said that as long as it is someone he recognizes, he is willing to change for love. He wanted to give Ms. Yu happiness for the rest of her life.
Mr. Ding is a real person,It can also be seen that he really likes women. Both of them are too old to say who will go ahead first. He assured Ms. Yu that if she gets old and pulls her trouser pocket, I will take you to the bathroom and wash it for you. You vote, I can do this. He didn't want Ms. Yu to wash him. The open and bright words moved Ms. Yu completely. She couldn't help asking Mr. Ding: Is worth?
There is always no right or wrong in life. To love someone is not worth or not, only you are willing or not.
Mr. Ding said, “It’s not worth it. You’re not a couple. How many times can you live. What is yours and mine? Where can I put so much money? , Come next month. Ms. Yu was moved by these words again. This is more generous and humane than those who speak sweetly but are afraid of spending money with their spouses.
After all, the shoes are also changed. What is the opinion of the two? The matchmaker also urged. Ms. Yu smiled and expressed her position: is wearing new shoes, so what are you talking about? and Mr. Ding is even more definitive: "stay here" , the two have a successful blind date.
5. In blind date, people with high EQ will understand emotional investment
Mr. Ding’s sincerity moved Ms. Yu,People are not easy in this life. If you can meet someone who treats you well, you must cherish it. Therefore, the two people can have a successful blind date. On the one hand, both of them want to find a company sincerely. On the other hand, it is Mr. Ding's persistent pursuit of love and respect for the woman who have obtained this love.
1. Men have high emotional intelligence and win beautiful hearts
Mr. Ding, whether he is a business acumen or a persistent pursuit of love, will act as long as he recognizes the goal, so such a person is easy to succeed. Because they are very assertive, dare to love, think and speak. He has no lofty, weeping actions, but every simple sentence reveals his sincerity. For example, "I want her to take home" and the meaning of buying shoes is to go with me. The words of caring for the woman made people want to cry. It was his high EQ words that touched the heart of the other person.
Mr. Ding is successful in his career, but he is not open, speaks well, and is not too aggressive. He has a delicate mind and puts himself in consideration for the other person. This is a man who hurts people to his bones. So as soon as they met, they were moved to the heart full of joy, and the two of them laughed and laughed during the whole scene. I have to say that Mr. Ding's ability to control the field is very strong. It is precisely because of his perseverance to find and a sincerity that he won the hearts of beautiful people.
2. To love someone is to tolerate and understand
The criteria for evaluating people, just look at one’s self-cultivation and behavior to know whether it is plastic. Mr. Ding not only has good economic conditions, but he also has nothing to say. One cannot pretend to be sincere. Mr. Ding doesn't talk much, but every word is on the heart of the woman. It's not just spending money for him to spend it casually. You see that he is very capable of grasping people’s psychology,As a 61-year-old divorced woman, living alone with her daughter, she knows the difficulty and difficulty of living, so it is impossible for her to be lavish.
And he said that he would take care of the woman and wash her up is even more touching. A man who can say such heart-wrenching words shows that he really loves this person and does not want to grow old. The other party is affected because he feels distressed. Hearing that the woman was panting at night, he understood that this is a man's attitude toward tolerance and love. Shows a man's grandeur, mind and a man's sense of responsibility and responsibility.
3. Learn to invest in emotions
From Mr. Ding’s blind date, we have seen that he is good at investing in emotions. When we meet at the woman’s house, we all know that sincerity is good. A pair of shoes represents his right. The respect and affection of the woman, so we often want to express our respect and sincerity, not through the amount of money or material.
Learning to invest in emotions will often make the other person change their views a little bit in their contact with him. It is said that Mr. Ding’s face is better than that of a lady, his hair is all white, and he does not care about dressing, but he uses his own Sincerity and wisdom have won the blind date. In this process of deepening the feelings, it is the woman who trusts him more and more. Eventually achieve the effect of getting twice the result with half the effort.
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