Since last week, I have been following a hot search:
In the video, the screams of children are heartbreaking, and you can feel the despair just across the screen.
After the incident, Li Yang was still in class.
Like most abusers, there is no punishment and life is as usual.
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We are still angry and heartache about this, but we still know this kind of thing at this moment, strong8span8.
Today I interviewed 4 friends. They have men and women, but without exception, they are all victims of domestic violence.
I want to know what they have experienced and how they reacted to violence.
I was raped by my mother for more than ten years.
Small to go home a few minutes late, to skip class to Internet cafes. Many reasons will cause a brutal fight.
Pull your hair against the wall, slap it, slap it with a wire, and hit it with a stick.
As soon as her expression collapsed, she began to close the door and look for tools, and I started to tremble.
I know that I can't escape the beating this time.
I really want to be like a captured soldier in a TV series, unyielding and irritating and saying to her: "You fight, you can kill me."
But, it really hurts, I can't do it.
It’s useless to run away, beg for mercy, and cry sorely. It’s useless to say too many mistakes, and it may cause her even greater anger.
The only chance to breathe is that she gets tired and stops.
Whenever this time, I will pray in my heart, pray that she will stop the fire this time, pray that she will not hit me again.
I remember very clearly that a friend came to me before school and I was being beaten.
She stopped and said to my friend, XXX is still okay. You will go to school later. You should go first.
I was panicking around,I couldn't cry even if I cried, it was no different from being stripped and standing in front of a friend at that moment.
It’s all contradictory, she can’t kill me but she will treat me very well when she kills me next second. I.
I will kill her for the last time, and I will stare at her for the last time I will be beaten by strong_span .
She was furious and beat me with all her strength.
Say okay, you are going to die, so let's die together, no one should live, I raised you so big to make you suicide.
She lost her strength, and she started crying again. Counting the goodness of her to me over the years, she said why I always disobeyed.
I listened indifferently and angry.
After this, she never hit me again.
I think it was probably because I said that I was about to commit suicide scared her. She didn't dare to really drive me to death.
I have never felt the pain that I had never been so embarrassed when I didn’t know how to put these experiences down.
Every time I see words like domestic violence and assault, I pretend that I have never experienced it.
some time ago I saw that girl’s suicide note wrote:
strong, and the strong back is . The pain is most painful on the legs when being pulled by a belt or wire, then on the back, and finally on the arms.
my whole body is still,Those panic, crying, and despair that have never forgotten began to writhe.
I even envy this girl, because in my youth I have had this idea countless times and use my death to avenge everyone.
Over the years, I have become especially observant of words and emotions, and I have repetitive emotions. Sometimes I suddenly become angry like her, and sometimes I suddenly feel sad.
Happy people use their childhood to heal their lives, and unfortunate people use their lives to heal their childhood. Probably I am the best example of this sentence.
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He just hates me for being illiterate, useless, ashamed, and unable to give birth to a son.
He likes to hit me the most,It was a slap in the face.
was beaten so hard, leaving the black marks on my face for a week or two.
The most serious one was when he was beaten to a concussion and went to hospital.
At first, it was not that I had never resisted, but how could a woman of 1.5 meters and 52 be able to fight against a man who has never resisted.
After a few fights, he was beaten even harder.
It’s not that I have never thought about divorce, and we cried and called with my sister. We both cried bitterly over the phone.
But what can be done?
In our village where good things do not go out and bad things are spreading thousands of miles away, if you divorce, you will not only be ashamed, but the spit stars of the villagers can drown you.
He even hit with his daughter.
Our mother three made him feel unhappy, so she started to noisy and started.
When I had a second child after a caesarean section, I was lying on the hospital bed and couldn't move, so I asked him to breastfeed the baby.
He put the baby bottle directly in the child's mouth, without holding his hands.
The nurse scolded him, saying that this would choke the child to death.
Just because she is a girl.
Later, he gave birth to a son. He looked more at ease and didn't lose his temper too much. He spoke to our mothers well.
Now he basically doesn't do anything, maybe he is older,Coupled with the liking, the temper will naturally be much better.
Still the same sentence, how can you stay alive?
Since I can remember, my dad has been alcoholic.
When he drinks too much, my mother will be beaten.
At this time, my mother always locks us in the room.
Outside the door is the frightening beating and cursing, and inside the door is the howls of breathlessness from my sister and me.
Actually my mother left many times, but was finally persuaded to come back.
These relatives said to me and my sister more than once, "You have to be good,Don't make your mother angry, or there will be no mother in the future.
I think these adults are ridiculous, do they really think they have done something good?
not only pulled her back into the quagmire time and time again, but also made the two children feel guilty. The bad outsiders are in the mud.
They know that my mother can’t bear me and my sister, she can’t take us with us, let alone leave any of them.
p2p My dad is getting old now, and drinking too much makes his hands tremble to the point that he can’t even hold his chopsticks sometimes. Well, he finally stopped drinking.
After he stopped drinking,I found sadly that my dad can be a good person.
But in the past ten years, he has been the dream of our family.
Me, my mother and my sister, no one wants to talk to him, many times he is like a wandering soul in this family.
Sometimes I think he looks pitiful, but I can’t help but forgive him.
This matter of domestic violence, I cannot forgive it.
The ex-husband called me "your parents who only used me to be gay"
At that time I just wanted to test him, but I didn't expect him to hate me so much.
In a few seconds,I was slammed against the wall a few times by his head, and then fell heavily to the ground.
mother-in-law wanted to stop, so he grabbed my arm and dragged me to the bedroom.
I cried and grabbed the door frame.
Three years ago, we met through a friend's introduction. He said that I am gentle and quiet, and I think he is steady and reliable.
The two families thought it was a marriage that was right in the right place, and I didn't find any early signs.
The day I returned from the hospital after giving birth to my son, he used the excuse to say that he was afraid of affecting the child and moved to the guest room.
He spends far more time out than at home. Even if he doesn't go out, he locks himself in the room.
until that time,I found that the phone on his desk didn't turn off the screen, I couldn't help but flipped through WeChat and found that the chat content inside was ambiguous, but the opposite was obviously a man.
I didn't have a chance to watch it, but he caught it right away.
He grabbed the phone, glared at me like an enemy, and then went out without saying a word.
From that day on, he neither spoke to me nor looked at me at all.
I don’t know if you have ever watched a movie. A woman has been violently violently by her husband all the year and finally collapsed and committed suicide.
I said, one day I will do this too.
He faintly returned three words: that is the best.
He did nothing but he wanted me to die.
I saw it on the Internet,The probability of co-wives being subjected to domestic violence and cold violence is four times that of a normal marriage.
But I want to say that the act of cheating on marriage is itself a kind of violence.
surging news said that many women can’t leave their homes immediately, and they are complicated. The most important point is that they will reflect on whether they have done something wrong? Even doubt, is this domestic violence?
But domestic violence is not just a kind of physical violence, mental violence , sexual violence, and economic control are also in the category of domestic violence.
Today we have compiled a few points on how to identify the psychological characteristics of domestic violence + self-help guidelines for domestic violence for your reference, prevention, and help.
13 Tiao's psychological characteristics of domestic violence:
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If you or Friends around you are experiencing domestic violence and need help:
@Life Times _span10 _span8 is the most violent war in the world.Domestic violence is not far behind. "
Domestic violence is not just a physical injury, it brings long-lasting psychological damage, and even affects a person's life. We have tried our best to protect ourselves.
But the crusades and sanctions that should be faced by domestic violence have not come.
p0span 8 Victims can often hear the comfort of others:
"He didn’t mean it either. He quarreled at the bedside and at the end of the bed. It’s love to beat him." _strongspan Let's live it, you are gone, what will your child do?
"You kid, can you still have trouble with your parents?" Whose children grow up without getting hit? "
wraps violence in the name of love and the name of home,It seems to have the legal right to implement it.
As long as you are the husband, father, or mother of someone, you can use violence to deal with this person at will without paying any price.
but it is not just a crime committed by others, but domestic violence is not just a crime committed by others.
The " Anti-Domestic Violence Law of the People's Republic of China " was officially implemented on March 1, 2016. If domestic violence constitutes a crime, criminal responsibility can be investigated in accordance with the law.
Domestic violence is not a private matter, and the muddy mud is never for her/him's benefit.
If you have a friend who is experiencing domestic violence, please understand, support, and help him. If necessary, call 110 for help.
Don’t persuade her/he to be patient.
interview / never drink milk tea Zola
planning / Ginger Ginger
visual / Richcat
Note: The picture comes from the network & film and television drama "You are a good boy", "Don't talk to strangers" & @生活时报
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