Sister Zou, a 56-year-old rural woman, has lived for most of her life, serving her husband and her son, but she has never thought about how to live for herself.
01 marriage
Sister Zou, she looked outstanding when she was young, but because she was a rural household registration, in the 1970s and 1980s, in Suzhou, there was a big difference between rural household registration and urban household registration. Generally speaking, People with urban hukou are not willing to marry young people with rural hukou. Unless, the man either looks ugly or the family conditions are extremely poor, and the urban hukou female youth is unwilling to marry him, and he will have to drag him until he is very old before he is willing to let the matchmaker introduce a rural young girl to make do with the marriage. Sister Zou falls into this category, she just put a flower of her own on the cow dung for a paper account. I asked Lao Huang, who is 8 years older than her, to be her husband. Sister Zou said that being ugly is not a problem at all. She doesn’t care about his ugliness as long as she gets married. The biggest drawback is that she is a gamble. Ghost, as long as there is a penny in his pocket, he will think of a way to help you lose.
Lao Huang works in a formal unit. Sister Zou has no job. She has to rely on Huang's salary to support her family life. However, Huang's money must be used for his gambling capital to go to the financial gambling. To get a little money to support the family's livelihood, of course, there are no conflicts. When the trouble is big, she often suffers from the fist of Lao Huang. Sister Zou is sad and wronged, but for the sake of her son, she has to work hard to maintain it no matter how difficult it is. In this family, one person reluctantly pulled his son up.
My son finally got admitted to the university. She was in her 40s that year. Sister Zou borrowed money everywhere so that her son could enter the university smoothly. She had to prepare living expenses for her son every month. At that time, she talked about cash. Since the son can’t pay for his son’s one month’s living expenses, she pays her son once a week. Every week, she is looking for her son’s 200 yuan living expenses in endless distress, doing processing work, helping the restaurant to wash dishes, what hard work Tired work has to be done. Lao Huang couldn't count on it, so he could only rely on himself to support it.
02 The son is older
In his second year of university, the son suddenly told his mother that he should not send him money every week.When he was rich, he would post it. It turned out that he had a wealthy girlfriend. The girlfriend was from a wealthy family and could help Xiao Huang. He also introduced her to her father’s factory, where he could do odd jobs during the winter and summer vacations. Sister Zou is of course happy, and her son has finally grown up. She can breathe a sigh of relief. At this time, she found that her temples were pale.
03 Son getting married and having children
Sister Zou’s happiest life may be the day her son gets married. The daughter-in-law is the lady of the wealthy family, because their family conditions are very different, and the woman has only one condition As long as you are willing to be the door-to-door son-in-law, the wife will come to all other marriage arrangements. No house or car is a problem. Sister Zou agrees without hesitation. As long as the son has a good life, we don’t care, and we are not able to give it to him. A better life, only by the conditions of the woman, the son can live a good life. The scenery when the son got married makes Sister Zou burst into tears with excitement. She has had a hard life all her life, and now her son finally has a bright future. NS. Sister Zou, who is more than half a hundred years old, is satisfied. She has had enough poverty and she no longer has to worry about her son.
After a year, the son adds another grandson. Although the grandson does not have the surname Huang, Sister Zou still runs as the grandson of the Huang family. She is obliged to take the grandson. Taking the grandson at the son and daughter-in-law's house is like being a nanny. It's different, but she is very happy, in her own words: it is also my happiness to be able to serve the juniors. In addition to taking the grandson, she also serves the daily life of her son and daughter-in-law, but she has no complaints. She feels that being an old mother is justified. Two more years later, she added a second grandson. She is even busier. Although busy, she is still very happy. The woman’s parents are also very open-minded. If the second grandson is to be given your surname Huang, Sister Zou I feel that this is a gift from the woman, and she is even more busy with her family's work.
I have been busy year after year. She has lived in the house of her son and daughter-in-law for more than ten years. She is already an elderly person in her 60s, and her workload should not be less than that of an ordinary nanny.
04 The family has changed
Sister Zou is busy with the housework of her son's family of four every day.He also has to serve the retired old Huang. The old Huang still has to go out to gamble every day. He goes out early and returns late. He has bet on the old Huang for a lifetime. He is 70 years old. He has gambled on his salary and lost his body. He has high blood pressure all the time. He never took medicine. Finally, in the middle of the night, he suddenly fell from the bed when he suffered a stroke. Sister Zou sent him to the hospital and was half of her body paralyzed. Old Huang finally couldn't get up. Sister Zou started to serve Lao Huang for a long time.
Sister Zou has worked harder, but she still takes care of her son's family while taking care of Lao Huang.
05 Daughter-in-law
Sister Zou has always been grateful to her daughter-in-law, because of her, her son leads a prosperous life, because of her, her two The grandson does not want to live the hard life of their father when they were young, just because of Sister Zou’s gratitude, and because of Sister Zou’s unrepentant dedication. Her daughter-in-law really accepted it with peace of mind, and her mother-in-law was busy helping them every day. For housework, not only did she have no words of thanks. During Huang’s hospitalization, her mother-in-law was too busy to go home to cook. She called takeaways, and her mother-in-law occasionally rushed home. Her daughter-in-law would not ask "Have you eaten the meal?" Before I had time to eat, I rushed to the house and was busy cleaning up the messy house. My daughter-in-law ordered a large table of seafood takeout. She only ate with the two children. When the mother-in-law finished her work, she saw that the daughter-in-law did not leave any food on the table and dumped them into the trash can. She saw that there was still half an uneaten watermelon in the trash can. Sister Zou looked at the mess in a wooden manner, but she was sad but did not say a word. The grandson said, "Grandma, have you ever eaten?" Sister Zou said with tears, "Grandma can't eat." If she really is the old mother of this family, the compassionate host might not let the old mother work hungry, right?
06Life
In Suzhou, and even in China, there should be many women like Zou Jie. Zou Jie said that when she got married, she just listened to the arrangements of her parents and did not dare to have her own. Thoughts, later married Lao Huang and gave birth to Xiao Huang, so he didn't dare to think of divorce. Now he has two grandchildren, and he has no self.
Even if the daughter-in-law didn't give her food, she swallowed her anger and dared not tell her son. She said she didn't want to embarrass her son.Now she hopes that Huang will get better soon. When she can stand up, Huang will not gamble anymore. Huang's retirement salary can be given to her. She will have more and more wealth on hand. Hope, my son's company will grow bigger and bigger.
Enduring is what she has been doing all her life, enduring it while looking forward to it.
She will be someone else's person all her life, when can she be herself? Maybe she must have regrets in her heart, but she never seemed to regret it. This is a tough woman!
Is there such a woman by your side? Let's discuss it together!
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