comes from the story of a lady
In our real life, there is always a kind of women who seem to be very loving but very selfish. I would rather hollow out my own small family, but also subsidize my natal brother and take care of my maiden brother for life.
They control their younger brothers eating and drinking Lazar, marrying wives and having children. Even her natal brother and children go to school to get married and have children. For such a sister, we affectionately call her: Fu! younger brother! magic!
Of course, "Helping the Demon" is not the Voldemort in "Harry Potter", but an older sister with a fearless spirit of sacrifice.
And such a "magic" is also the biggest killer that affects the marriage relationship!
The following article will talk about this elder sister, who was also asked by her relatives to take care of her younger brother unconditionally, but she resolutely stated her attitude and never be a "helping brother".
Parents owe kindness, and daughter pays back for mother
Yu Yao is 36 years old this year. There is a medium-sized advertising agency in Chengdu. She has a successful career but is unmarried. Yu Yao said, “I have a car, a house, and a career. I don’t rely on men, so I won’t do it." Buy a house for my brother.
Actually, Yu Yao is the only daughter in the family, and this younger brother is just the younger brother of the aunt’s family, so why did her mother let her buy a house for her cousin? The reason has to start with Yu Yao's female sleeping.
Yu Yao's grandmother only gave birth to two daughters due to physical reasons. Yu Yao's mother is the eldest sister. At that time, the economic conditions were not good, and there were very few families able to study. Yu's family was one of those families that tried to support their daughters in school.
However, some people find it easy to read books, while others find it even more difficult. Yu Yao's mother and auntie are examples of these two extremes.
Yu Yao's mother was clever and easy to learn until she went to university and became the only college student in the entire town.My aunt dropped out of school early because she didn't want to go to school. Later she stayed at home and hired a son-in-law to take care of her parents.
Therefore, over the years, Yu Yao's mother has always felt that she owed her sister. After she was able to work, she began to help her sister's family. She also paid for her nephew's college expenses. After graduating from my nephew, the work was arranged for him.
For this reason, Yu Yao has talked about her mother more than once, saying that such bottomless help will only make others gain an inch. But the mother thought it was her sister who owed her sister.
Actually, the conditions in Yu Yao's family are not very good. When Yu Yao was 10, his parents divorced, and Yu Yao grew up with her mother. Yu Yao has a very independent personality, reads, and never worry about her mother until after work and entrepreneurship. So the mother's heart is more on her natal parents and sister.
Three years ago, Yu Yao's grandparents passed away one after another. Yu Yao's mother also suffered from diabetes complications and was admitted to a nursing home. But even so, Yu Yao's mother did not forget to instruct Yu Yao to take care of her aunt's cousin.
My son got married, and my sister offered to use my sister’s house as a wedding room.
Last year, the cousin who had negotiated for two years was about to get married, but the woman offered to have a house in the city to get married. The aunt came to discuss with Yu Yao's mother, saying that she would let her sister's house be loaned to her as her son's wedding house, and that she would return it to her if she had money to buy a house in the future. Anyway, she doesn't live now, and she's also empty when she's empty.
Actually, the house was ready to be rented out, but seeing her sister come to ask, it was for the nephew's marriage, and Yu Yao's mother agreed.
But when the aunt's family moved in for less than two months, the marriage between the cousin and the partner fell through. The marriage was gone, but the aunt didn't mention moving away, so she stayed calmly.
For this reason, Yu Yao wanted her mother not to pay so blindly on more than one occasion, but every time her mother replied to Yu Yao that she only had a sister as a relative. Later, Yu Yao simply stopped asking about those things about her mother and aunt's family.
My aunt’s request again,I hope that my sister will use 2 million to buy a new wedding room for my younger brother. It is said that the girls are pretty, and the cousin likes them very much. The two were in love for 3 months and talked about marriage.
The girl asked for a gift of 280,000 yuan, a house of more than 100 square meters in the city, and the name of the woman. My aunt’s family was very embarrassed. This requirement was too high and the family didn’t have the conditions, so I persuaded my son to give up.
My aunt found Yu Yao's mother again, but when faced with her sister's offer to borrow 2 million to buy a house, Yu Yao's mother said that she could do nothing. Her pension also had to pay for the nursing home, and she didn't have much money in her hands.
My sister saw that her sister refused, and quickly said, "Isn't Yu Yao opening a company? Isn't it a trivial thing for her to have 2 million?" Yu Yao's mother said, "I haven't asked about my child's company for all these years. But I heard that it’s quite difficult. Recently, all walks of life are in a downturn.” “Then you help me call Yu Yao, let’s not talk about borrowing money, just say you miss her, let her come and see you. , I'll wait for her here." Yu Yao's mother had no choice but to call her daughter and plan to come and visit this weekend.
Early on the weekend, the aunt brought her cousin to the nursing home of Yu Yao's mother. This time she did not empty-handed as before. She raised a flower basket and bought some fruits.
When I arrived, I had a affectionate relationship with Yu Yao's mother, and I just said how good this wife is about to get married. Yu Yao's mother only echoed twice occasionally.
At about 10 o'clock, Yu Yao arrived. As soon as he entered the door, he saw the aunt and cousin next to his mother. He was taken aback for a while, and then greeted them calmly.
My aunt started to talk to Yu Yao about this daughter-in-law who is about to pass the house. Yu Yao said, congratulations, my aunt, tell me when I get married, I must wrap a big red envelope.
My aunt said, "The marriage is coming soon, but now we are experiencing some difficulties. The woman wants us to buy a suite in the city, but now we don’t want to pool the money. Yu Yao, auntie knows that your business is quite big now, or else Borrow 2 million yuan for my aunt’s turnover,Let your cousin get married first. If you have money, you will be taken care of. "
Yu Yao didn’t get angry after listening, she said, "The company is very difficult now, because of the epidemic, it has been unable to receive orders and has been unable to make ends meet for several months. I still want my aunt to help me, since Now that my cousin wants to get married, then I don’t want to embarrass you. Even if I’m in trouble, I will get a big red envelope of 20,000 yuan for my cousin to get married. This is the heart of my cousin. "
After hearing what Yu Yao said, she knew that it was impossible to talk about today. Although she was upset, she didn't want to offend Yu Yao, so she took her son who was hesitant to talk and left.
My younger brother started to complain, "What's wrong with such a big boss who used 2 million to buy a house for me? I'm still the only seedling of my grandfather's family, and my aunt doesn't help me, so it's no wonder she can't get married when she is 36. "
Yu Yao, who was planning to go out and give her a gift, sneered and turned back to the room after hearing these words. As for these words, please don't tell her mother. Mother is not in good health. Saying too much will only make her sad.
As for the aunt’s family, when the mother was alive, she was walking around as an ordinary relative. If her mother died, she would not be with them afterwards.
Conclusion of the article:
" 易经_ There is a proverb in "Span3span", "Doumi raises grace, bears rice raises enmity."
means that at the critical moment when a person is about to starve to death, you give him a bucket of rice and let him survive, and he will be grateful for Dade, Treat you as a benefactor; but if you keep helping him, he will develop dependence and take your help for granted. Once you don’t help him one day, he will treat you as an enemy.
Yu Yao's mother and The aunt’s family is like this. The mother’s contribution to the child’s family is taken for granted. If you don’t help, you will be ill-spoken. It is okay to help between relatives, but to help is also the kind of person who knows how to be grateful and know how to score. People, as for those white-eyed wolves who are still talking about you if you don’t help, stay away as soon as possible.
"The crowd is huge,The wolves are on both sides; in the great world, the poisonous snakes hide. Warm snakes, feed unfamiliar wolves; keep your eyes open, you have to guard against. "Your kindness requires rational sharpness.
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