Guest: Luo Yu, professor, doctoral supervisor, vice dean of the School of Psychology, Guizhou Normal University, deputy director of the Center for Mental Health Education and Counseling, member of the Emotion and Health Psychology Professional Committee of the Chinese Psychological Society, and member of the Technical Professional Committee of the Ectrobrain-related Technical Professional Committee of the Chinese Psychological Society.
Host: Myoyang
Recently, the Ministry of Education responded to the "Suggestions on Opening Compulsory Courses for Family Tutoring and Family Style in Higher Education Institutions" proposed by the National People's Congress representative, and said that colleges and universities are encouraged to strengthen psychological education in love. In his reply, the Ministry of Education stated that it would encourage colleges and universities to strengthen psychological education in love and family ethics education, improve students' expression, communication and communication skills, and guide students to establish a correct view of love, marriage and family.
For colleges and universities to strengthen psychological education in love, if the course starts from the first year and runs through the entire university stage, what aspects should the course content involve? How does the teaching format change?
Luo Yu: From the teaching content part, first of all, you can figure out what love is, and then you can know what education should be carried out. From the famous theories from China and abroad and the views of famous scholars, love mainly includes passion (sexual passion and romantic passion), intimacy (trust, communication and mutual assistance), and commitment (loyalty, responsibility and planning). It is appropriate to develop these three aspects.
One is passion. College students are young, energetic, full of passion. At this stage, students have a high sense of sexual awareness, so students should be taught to correctly view sexual and sexual and sexual behavior-related issues, and should not be overly addicted to romance, and recognize that the main responsibility and main business are learning.
The second is intimacy. Including trust, communication and mutual assistance. How to trust each other in an intimate relationship, how to engage in benign interactions, and grow each other instead of consuming each other in an intimate relationship.
Third is a commitment. In close relationships, in addition to passion and intimacy, there is also responsibility and loyalty. Responsibility includes responsibility for oneself, responsibility for the other party, and responsibility for the relationship. In addition, students should be taught how to face setbacks in close relationships, such as common problems such as broken hearts.
Hand from the perspective of teaching formats, there are many forms of teaching in universities now. No matter which form, it is OK to do it around the above three topics. For example, teaching, case sharing, group activities, etc. can be carried out. Match the best form according to the content, and this also requires the teacher to grasp it according to the characteristics of the students.
Meoy: Love psychology education classes involve a person's psychology, emotions, family, privacy, etc. What qualities do you think teachers who teach this course well should have?
Luo Yu: Taking "cultivating morality and cultivating people" as the fundamental task, you can take a good love psychology course. Love psychology classes are indeed a bit unique, but this is also part of personal development and is part of development psychology . Therefore, teachers with a psychology foundation can take this course as long as they prepare carefully.
listeners asked: My mother said that love that does not aim for marriage is a hooligan; my roommate said that love that aims for marriage is. Should we be in love be for marriage?
Luo Yu: Think about this issue from a different perspective, and there will be no conflict. From the perspective of parents, I hope that my children will get married and live a happy life; from the perspective of children, talking about a love without burden is also a happy life. There is no problem with both, and everyone can understand it by thinking from the other person's perspective.
When discussing the topic of "whether love needs to be for the purpose of marriage", it is necessary to understand the true definition of "love" and "marriage". We will find that different people have different internal real definitions of "love" and "marriage". Even when everyone treats the same thing, one party names it "love" and the other party named it "marriage", and had a lot of quarrel.In my opinion, there is no distinction between good and bad in these two definitions. Everyone has the right to choose the way they want. If you want to avoid disagreement with your future intimate relationship partner, it is best to first check with the other party clearly what each other views on love, marriage and future.
What kind of relationship do we develop with a person in the end? It is not easy to make accurate promises at the beginning of the encounter. What is more appropriate is that by contacting this person more and understanding the other person, we also discover our needs, and experience whether our state in this relationship is what we like, and make decisions together on the premise of respecting and understanding each other, perhaps a more sincere and responsible attitude. In short, whether a relationship and a partner are suitable for you or not, everyone must try it out in person.
Love and marriage are very personal and staged things, and will be affected by the external environment of this stage, our past growth experience, personal prejudice, and even physiological reasons such as our brain development and hormone secretion. Therefore, we believe in and respect our choices, but also maintain a certain degree of openness in case of future changes.
"Love Listening" is a psychological healing interactive program broadcast by Guizhou Radio and Television Station. broadcast guidance , the winner of the "Golden Microphone" Award nomination award of China Broadcasting Host and Guizhou Comprehensive Radio Host Yuyang, the winner of the "Model of the Times" of the Central Propaganda Department, the psychological counseling teacher of the No. 3 Middle School of Baiyun District, Guiyang City, and the blind female teacher known as "Helen Keller in the Mountains of China" Liu Fang, the guest host.
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