In recent days, the child’s midterm exam scores have been reduced. My best friend Yuanyuan shared with me that she said that her daughter, who was in the second grade, had 97 in Chinese and 98 in mathematics. Before the exam, she asked her to review, and her daughter patted her chest and said confidently: "I don't need to review at all, I can get 97 or 98 points." As a result, I really got this score.
I just wanted to say that this result is good. Yuanyuan said anxiously that even if she had one exam, she would be fine. You don’t know, her grades are nothing in the class? There are more than ten children who get the double hundred exam, and there are nearly 30 students who get the single subject of 100. Her grades are only average in the class.
Yuanyuan said that after the results came down, she and her daughter analyzed the test paper and found that the wrong questions on the paper were all not very good at mastering them. For example, if the Chinese strokes were written incorrectly, her daughter usually did not pay attention to the writing of the strokes.
When she said to her daughter, "If you write carefully as required, the score will not be lost, and you will be able to get 100." The daughter looked at her seriously and said, "Didn't you say that it would be great if you score 97 or 98 points. I happened to get the exam. Isn't that enough?"
Yuanyuan didn't expect her daughter to ask her back like this, and was choked by her rhetoric all night. After thinking about it, she didn't know how to answer. This can be considered as digging a hole for myself.
Because she remembered that her daughter didn’t get the full mark in the final grade of the first grade, she was very frustrated. In order to comfort her, she told her that the score was already very good. I really didn’t expect that since my daughter had listened to it and remembered so clearly, would she blame myself for digging a hole and making her daughter unwilling to make progress?
After listening to my best friend’s sharing, I really want to laugh. Many parents should have dug up pits like this, including myself.
If you are a parent, you really don’t care about your child’s scores, and it’s okay to say anything when comforting and encouraging. However, if you clearly care about scores and say something different to your heart for comfort, you may be slapped in the face. The key is that children will often be confused and don’t know what to do.
can be seen, it is particularly important to be cautious in words and actions at this moment. So, how can parents say that it can not only make their children feel comforted and accepted, but also inject them with motivation to work hard and make progress?
01. Pay more attention to the advantages of children. Do not evaluate scores
Generally, when children receive unsatisfied test papers, they will be very disappointed and even cry. At this time, parents may unconsciously comfort their children, saying that it doesn’t matter, the score is not important, as long as they master the knowledge, mothers will always love you
In fact, the best way to comfort their children is to not directly evaluate the scores, but to carefully look for highlights on the test papers and find all the improvements, such as neat handwriting, rare questions done correctly, wrong questions done before, and beautiful sentences.
Parents praise their children from the bottom of their hearts and sincerity to let their children know their efforts. Parents have seen it. This may be warmer than the saying "Love you forever" and can comfort and heal their children.
More importantly, this will allow children to learn a growth-oriented thinking pattern. When dealing with future exams, they will not first look at scores or rankings, but will find that they have done better than before, and constantly discover their own shining points. Children will have more strength to make themselves better.
02. Help your child analyze wrong questions and find room for improvement
When parents comfort their children's emotions, pay attention to the wrong questions on the child's test paper and analyze the reasons for doing wrong.
Have you noticed that after seeing the wrong questions, whether it is the teacher or the child, the summary after the exam is often caused by carelessness to get the simple questions wrong.
In fact, it is useless to just remind children to "not be careless". Helping children analyze the parts that cause points to be lost is the "right way". For children in lower grades of primary school, the missing points may include misunderstanding of the question, wrong writing of the strokes, misreading the question and irregular writing of the pinyin letters.
, which seem simple and lose points, can't be solved by "not careless"? Each of these items needs to be improved by helping children improve. For example, the stroke error is because the literacy foundation is not laid, and the error in the comprehension of the question may be a problem of reading ability, and more reading is needed. From the wrong questions on the test paper, analyze which knowledge is not mastered by the child and which knowledge still needs to be consolidated.
For children who have just entered primary school, they also need to take their children to do more homework when familiarizing with the test rules and deduction requirements, which can also avoid losing fewer points.
03. Help your child develop improvement plans and solve problems together
Parents help their children find the problem of losing points. After clarifying the room for improvement, they need to sincerely tell their children that if they want to get better next time, they must make some efforts. Then parents and children develop learning plans and strengthen exercises based on weaknesses.
If the question is wrong, then find some different types of questions and do a few with your child every day, from easy to difficult, and practice makes perfect.
For example, if you look at missing questions, it reflects your learning habits. For this, every time you do the question, parents can make a solution step with their children, first draft it, check it carefully, and then copy it carefully after there is no problem.
Just think of ways with your child, help your child take action and try to solve problems. The child will slowly experience: he can find ways to solve problems, make things better, and can also achieve goals through his own actions.
just stick to it like this. It is natural for children to get good scores, and it will make children more confident and optimistic, and will make them feel that it is not scary to do something wrong, because they can improve themselves, so they will not be blindly anxious and at a loss when encountering difficulties in the future.
So, when the child has a pair of calm and intelligent parents as a backing, the possibility of the child getting a good score will greatly increase. When parents get their children's test papers, they should also remember that they are parents, speak well, and do well, and don't let themselves fall into the pit.
