The most insurmountable gap between parents and students is the gap in communication: students chatter about their own schools, and parents chatter about their own dentures . There are 108,000 miles between them, and the donkey's lips are not right. Non-intersection communication like
often occurs after students go to college. Due to space limitations, parents cannot be able to accompany students to eat, drink, defecate, and sleep every day like they did in junior high school. Students’ experiences and experiences in college sometimes like to share with friends, and parents also want to listen to them. , but it is a common saying to answer the phone: Have you eaten? How about class?
After a long time, students were disgusted and felt that parents could not keep up with the times so much. So the number of calls gradually decreased. Even if there were calls, the content would cost a living. The parents who were who wanted to talk but were still restless on the other side of the phone, but were nervous, could not see them.
Some students and parents are stubborn, and both sides ignore each other when they disagree. ’s heartbroken parents are even more angry and block their daughters who go to college. , then is this really wise?
"I am very kind to you, you only think I'm annoyed." The mother blocked her daughter who went to college, and was full of sadness
A mother posted a message saying that she blocked her daughter who went to college. The reason was "I'm tired, I don't answer every time I call, I don't reply to the message, and I only think of me if I ask for money."
This is a parent's accusation against the students, and the disappointment is beyond words. The parents just lamented that they worked hard for many years to support students to go to college. From elementary school to university, it all depends on themselves. "I am very kind to you, and you only think I'm annoyed." In the end, the relationship between each other is stiff and full of sadness.
In Chinese-style education, most parents set their own responsibilities to be responsible for students' educational issues, and the law also stipulates that parents have the obligation to allow students to complete nine years of compulsory education.
In the process of students' education, parents have endless thoughts. choose a school, find a good teacher, and it takes extra tutoring for any subject, rebellion during adolescence, intense study in high school, and then applying for the college entrance examination. This is only a small part, and parents need to do it themselves.
If the student goes to college and only knows that he has no living expenses every month, he calls him, and the parents' concerns are all excluded by the students. Is really busy with academic studies? But I don't want to reply.
Maybe this is a single mother. Students have many unscrupulous measures to grow up in such a family, but in the comment section of the mother of , you can see that many normal families will also empathize.
Many parents empathize with them. Not only college students who have lost their talks with their parents, but also middle school students
"My daughter is 22 years old. In addition to asking for money, she doesn't contact her normally and doesn't let her talk when she doesn't go to work. She even quarrels and blocks her." This is what a parent of a college graduate said. Students go to college and lack communication. If they don't work hard after graduation, they only know how to ask for money. Parents are really helpless about such a "giant baby".
"My son was fourteen years old and was obsessed with electronic products last semester, and almost made me angry." This is the accusation of a parent of a junior high school student. In a critical period of study like junior high school, he did not focus on learning, the teacher did not listen to the management, and the parents resisted as soon as they said it. There was no way. There are many students like
, but parents cannot block it. In these seemingly failed cases of education, parents are expressing their sadness. In fact, from another perspective, students may feel embarrassed, but they just don’t know how to tell them.
No slap in the face, the sadness of Chinese parents, both sides should reflect on the lack of high-quality communication between parents and students. students have grown up, and their world is filled with learning, games, and making friends, but parents are unaware of it. They also talk to students about trivial matters all day long. Students with good attitude respond a few perfunctory words, but they have bad attitudes and slam the door and leave, so parents should keep up with the times.
Middle school students in the rebellious period must learn to give space. Where does the students’ resistance come from? Parents have no idea, and even students cannot accurately determine what they are angry about. Maybe it is because of their poor grades, maybe it is because of their distant friends, or maybe it is because of their physiological development disorder. It is unrealistic to ask students to be "good boys" at this time, and it is feasible to give appropriate space for them to digest on their own.
A mature college student cannot avoid the fact that he has to experience the "hot face and cold butt". Long Yingtai said that the parents and children are in a relationship, but it is just that he keeps watching his back gradually drift away in this life, so there is no need to chase him. But what the author wants to say is, parents who try to keep up with the pace of college students, study new memes on the Internet, and want to get closer to students, how can students bear to get away from them?
Both parties should work hard for further harmony between each other. They cannot simply ask one party to give their whole heart. When it is time to reflect on themselves, they should reflect. Blocking students in may be an impulsive behavior in anger. Not talking to parents may also be a temporary uneven mood for students, but parents and children should be in a good relationship. Why bother and relatively speechless?
Topic today: Do you have good communication with your child? (The picture is from the Internet, please contact us to delete if you infringement)
