As a result, the child of her family couldn't learn anything. They obviously did it according to the behavior of Harvard children, but their faces were green as soon as the test scores came out. Thinking about the huge cost he paid for this educational method, his face became gre

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The family members wanted their children to get into a good university, so they bought the learning method of a student who was admitted to Harvard for a lot of money from the student's mother.

I want to use this to allow my children to read good books, and I will also get a Harvard exam, but at least I hope to get to Tsinghua and Peking University .

As a result, the child of her family couldn't learn anything. They obviously did it according to the behavior of Harvard children, but their faces were green as soon as the test scores came out. Thinking about the huge cost I paid for this educational method, my face became greener. Others raised caring little cotton jackets, and I was so rude!

almost carried myself over.

has been in the news and has also caused many people to empathize with to , because there are so many similar encounters!

I hope my son will become a dragon, and my daughter will become a phoenix. My parents hope that their children will be a top student, so they looked at various top student development routes, and even the food they ate exactly the same as the top student.

, and small companies that want their company to go to a higher level are desperately learning the various rules and regulations of large companies.

As for those individuals who want to make money, they blindly admire the thinking of some business tycoons...

This phenomenon is actually very common, but the problem is, You may be able to learn other people's behavior, but you can never learn other people's motivations, do you understand? What

may do the same, but because the people who do things have different motivations, the results may be very different.

Motive is what really matters, not that behavior!

Motivation is the deep essence, and behavior is the superficial phenomenon.

What you want to learn is the motivation of others, and what you think about should be why others do this, not what others do!

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Many people copy other people's behavior patterns when they are not thinking about deep motivation. They cannot be said to be very bad, but they must not be said to be very smart!

What does it mean if you are willing to learn a person’s behavior pattern?

at least means that this person is better than you in some aspects, right? At least he has won your recognition, right?

Otherwise, why would you learn his behavior?

Will you learn how beggars beg?

So, what does the behavior pattern of a person who is better than you mean?

shows that this behavior pattern is likely to be the most suitable for him after he thinks about it.

But the key is that this pattern may be suitable for him, but it is not the most suitable for you.

And some people are just the opposite, they are night-time personality. The peak of their energy in the day may be the few hours before going to bed. All his behavior patterns are done according to their personality habits.

, and some people have a morning personality, and the peak of their energy in the day is the few hours of getting up early.

At this time, if you are a night owl and want to learn other people's morning behavior, I somewhat suspect that you have a tendency to be masochistic! When

, what matters us is the result, not the process.

For example, the goal of both of you is to pass the final exam, so what is important for you is to get that goal, not to worry about what time I have to get up and what time to eat. Are these really that important?

What really matters is you that exam or what process you care about?

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What you learn may be the same as what others learn.

For example, you all learn finance.

But your final result may be due to different motivations, and then the results are very different.

Because a person has a mine at home, they want to learn finance by themselves and then bring funds directly into the market. After entering the company and spending money, they will become a manager.

You don’t have a mine at home. At the beginning, what you think is to learn finance and then become a financial migrant worker.

Your various behavior patterns may be similar, but your result will be much worse.

At this time, you have to think clearly that My person who doesn’t have a mine at home has the same behavior pattern as someone who has a mine at home. Is it because I was wrong or he was wrong?

There is another situation, that is, the extreme mismatch of behavior patterns directly creates a shadow.

For example, parents at home give their children various ways to learn.

As a result, the child cannot learn. You stipulate when the child turns off the lights and brushes his teeth on time. The child just doesn’t want to learn.

But if you change the behavior pattern, maybe your child's interest will come up.

You can learn other people's behavior, but you can't learn other people's motivations.

The motivations are different. Even if you learn your behavior, what if you?

is not yours, it is not yours after all!

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