The children of my friend’s house are particularly excellent. They don’t play Go, painting, calligraphy, and dance every day. They have all kinds of certificates all over the wall. Their academic performance is also very good. They are often the top three in the class and are spoken by the teacher.
is also a child, but he is not enterprising. He is stubborn when criticizing him, so he can make his mouth beaten and refuse to start writing if he wants to do his homework.
In order not to waste your child, I went to a friend's house. I felt deeply at home. It turned out that I did not give my child a good environment.
Excellent families can create a good growth environment for their children, give them the right guidance, and fully realize their potential.
is affected by a good family environment, and the children of friends are outstanding and become "children of others".
What kind of environment does their home create? Let’s learn about it together.
Equal and friendly atmosphere
Liang Qichao is well-known as an outstanding reformer in modern history, but he has a more enviable identity, which is the father of nine children.
And these nine children all became talents and are known as: three academicians in one school, and all nine sons are talented.
Liang Qichao became the most successful father in modern history.
The reason why young eagles can soar in the clouds and fight in the sky is their protection and guidance.
Unlike the traditional concept of "a filial son comes from a stick", Liang Qichao often uses an equal way to talk to his children.
When he was studying in Japan, he often wrote letters to his eldest daughter, and the content was to tell his experiences in the tone of a friend, so he had feelings and feelings. This is even more true after returning to China. There is little gap between his children and him, and they have a harmonious relationship with each other.
Such children who grow up from a family are peaceful and confident, and are full of imagination about the future.
Nowadays, many families educate their children by "roaring". Parents stick to their elders' attitude and educate their children from a high point everywhere, which can easily make their children develop a rebellious mentality or even rebelliousness.
When the child is facing you everywhere, deliberately not learning, and often makes trouble, he will waste time on detours and affect his future success.
The atmosphere of reading
Dong Yuhui said in the live broadcast:
The importance of reading is self-evident, but many parents give their children mobile phones and tablets, or play with their own mobile phones, but ask their children to read more.
Colleague told the situation of her child. She usually works a lot of overtime and it is difficult to take care of the child, so she lets her father take care of her.
But every time I go home from get off work, I either see my child’s father sleeping or playing with my mobile phone, and the child also learns to look at the tablet in a pretty way.
For this reason, she quarreled with her child's father many times, but she still did her own way. The child is increasingly dependent on electronic products and refuses to learn.
As a last resort, she and the company applied to get off work one hour early, and for this hour, she planned the time to read with her children.
Every night she would spend one or two hours reading picture books for her children, tell stories, and discuss together. Gradually, the children fell in love with reading, no longer clamoring to look at their phones, and their learning progressed quickly.
Children's self-control ability is very poor. If parents cannot create a reading atmosphere, they will learn well and become addicted to the virtual world and cannot extricate themselves.
Writer Haruki Murakami once said a passage in " Kafka by the sea":
One of the important reasons why the children of friends mentioned at the beginning of the article are excellent is that they have a strong reading atmosphere. After dinner, the whole family will read together, subtly affecting the children.
Conclusion
The famous philosopher IELTS Bells wrote in his "What is Education":
The family environment is that tree, that cloud, that soul, to create a positive family atmosphere for children, to let equality and friendship penetrate into the heart, and to make reading a habit.
