Author: Xu Zhen
There are many strange things every year, and this year there are a lot.
Recently, a teacher in Hangzhou who had been teaching for 14 years found that the sixth grade children actually looked at the romance novel , and exclaimed repeatedly: "In the past, only a few students read youth novels, but now they have become a 'micro climate'. This is the first time I have met!",
The teacher's reaction was so surprised that this matter once became a hot search. This reaction made me dazed for a moment and pondered for three seconds. Is this year in 2022 or 1922?
is already 2022. Is it still new for primary school students to read romance novels?
Take a look at the comment area again, and the netizens are indeed laughing in a haha.
"Who did not come here like this..."
"This is too normal. I just practiced writing by reading romance novels..."
Someone has the courage to self-destruct: "When I was a child, I opened the door to the new world, which is much more extraordinary than in the sixth grade. Don't scare the teacher to death."
Many teachers say that it is better to be silly than to be muddy. Reason, I went to the bookstore in a corner and questioned the staff of the bookstore: "Best-selling books are best-selling books, famous works are famous works, and there are special booths, so why should they be placed in a mixed manner?"
"Parents think their children are reading carefully, but the famous works are placed in the same booth as romance and danmei, which is simply unpredictable!"
Picture: Romance and famous works are adjacent to
What should I do? It is nothing more than guarding against romance, and it cannot be guarding against the works of famous masters.
Then why should we guard against it?
After repeated reviews and serious publication, what kind of virus culture dish is it? It is necessary to open a quarantine area specifically for the opening of a quarantine area?
But if the teachers are just guarding against romance novels, they seem to be wronged.
What they are guarding against is clearly the love element in the novel.
Don’t believe it? Let’s see the evidence!
One volume " Dream of Red Mansions " , how many teachers can explain the metaphor of Baoyu giving Daiyu homemade old veil after being beaten? In the teenager version of "Dream of Red Mansions", there is only Jiao Da , which is cursing, and the sentence "The one who takes off the ashes, the one who steals the brother-in-law steals the brother-in-law" is completely deleted.
One volume "Border Town" . The teachers said all the Xiangxi styles, but they would not explain the Cuicui 's sentence "This person may never come back, maybe he will come back tomorrow."
So, even a classic work must be strictly guarded and "severe love."
Parents and teachers are most afraid of their children’s romance, so they will follow suit and directly have moral decline. I write love letters today, and hold hands tomorrow. When it comes to the next day, I don’t know what to do.
So, they said to their children like chanting scriptures every day, "What kind of love is not love, they are all bastards. Love is inferior, only reading is high."
But it has always been like this, is that right?
Australian educator Steve Bidalff Once analyzed the psychology of adolescent children:
10-13 children are in the favorable period of the opposite sex. The development and changes of the body make them curious and confused about the opposite sex, and they will also be confused about whether their own ideas can be understood by the opposite sex.
Simply put, having a good impression of the opposite sex and being curious is a normal manifestation of this age group, both physically and psychologically.
According to the survey data of Zhihu , 73% of junior and senior high school students are curious about the opposite sex.
Little boy and girl, seeing the opposite sex feels good, the deer in her heart jumps around for a few times, which is normal.
Even if they don’t read romance novels, they will still have a good impression of the opposite sex when they get older.
A normal psychological phenomenon for normal people. When it comes to teachers and parents, how come they become tigers?
Chinese people seem to be always ashamed to talk about love.
When in elementary, junior high school and high school, love is explicitly prohibited by many parents.
When I arrived at university, my parents vaguely relaxed the ban on love, but they still had to remind me to not delay my studies because of love.
Once you enter society, your parents' attitude will undergo a 360-degree change. I wish you would go on a blind date this month and get married next month. It is best to have three more years to hold you in five years, have children and daughters, and actively respond to the national call.
thinks so beautifully.
When the child wants to ask, how to respect the opposite sex and how to fall in love?
The elders started to practice Tai Chi again -
"Don't two people live together? Don't mess with those who love each other and are stupid."
The elders kept silent, resulting in many people not knowing what is the right love and what is the right sex.
But children always need love lessons!
The Ministry of Education recently responded to a suggestion from the National People's Congress deputies meeting, expressing its active support for colleges and universities to offer family style education classes and guide students to establish a correct view of love, marriage and family.
Even the Ministry of Education believes that students need love classes.
love, it should talk openly and learn sincerely.
Not long ago, Wuhan University opened "Love Psychology", and the scene was extremely popular. Students who cannot squeeze into the classroom must also listen to the class when squatting on the window.
Fudan Professor Liang Yongan discusses love on B station, and is also widely popular among young people and has gained tens of millions of views.
However, it was too late to put the love class in college.
According to the survey data of Phoenix Charity, among the 3,676 respondents in 16 provinces, 198 young people aged 12-15 have had sexual behavior. But among them, 19.99% of people do not understand the knowledge of safe sex; 54.87% of people only know a little about safe sex.
The more ignorant you are, the more likely you will be to go wrong.
Because of ignorance, a 14-year-old girl gave birth in the bathroom. A 16-year-old girl didn’t even know whether she was pregnant.
Because of ignorance, a male college student's way of getting to know the opposite sex was to put foreign objects into the other party's cup.
When you are ignorant in youth, you avoid talking about love and sex. When tragedies take shape, a sect accident happens, and a person does not want to fall in love, you will exaggerate and make people learn love online - it's too late!
Love, is it shame? Is it a hidden pain?
The sixth grade is a bit of romance novels. What a big deal.
is all in the sixth grade. It is abnormal not to even read romance novels.
Teacher said that we should filter out good romance novels and guide children to be optimistic about good romance novels.
I smiled when I looked at it.
is the age of young Ai. Which child has no pounds of reverse bone ?
, which is a thousand eight hundred servants who have been checking layer by layer, can all be integrated into " West Chamber ". Can children still find a romance novel that "parents are not allowed to read"? The more parents ban, the more energetic the children will become. They will hide secretly and dig three feet into the ground to find the "banned books" in their mouths.
Moreover, is the romance novel that parents filtered out by themselves really attractive? The school has recommended all four classics, and how many students are really willing to read this kind of "school recommendation book"?
and parents also feel that lets children read romance novels, which distorts their views.
I just want to ask,
Can you really become a god after reading the novel of cultivating immortals?
Can you really commit a crime after reading the detective novel?
Can you really go over the wall after reading martial arts novels?
Don’t think of children so fragile. One or two romance novels cannot determine whether a person’s future is degenerate.
21st Century Education Research Institute Dean Xiong Bingqi sent three questions to expose the hypocrisy of parents:
"Parents are not worried about their children reading romance novels, so they should ask themselves a few questions: html l4 Do you have to accompany your children in daily life? Do you have to provide sex education and puberty education for your children? Do you have to read with your children? If parents can persist in accompanying their children, read and share with their children, these are not a problem. "
If parents can talk about love with their children openly and satisfy their children's curiosity during adolescence, why are they still worried that romance novels will teach their children badly?
Parents should take responsibility for educating their children, and don’t blame them for romance novels.
It seems that every once in a while, parents or teachers will jump out and shout loudly as if they discovered a new world: "There are students reading romance novels again!"
The ancients said that food and sex are also true.
But there are always teachers and parents who "lived in ancient times" who avoid talking about love and sex, and even students "dealed" with this romance novel.
ignores the normal emotional needs of human beings. Is it still educating people? That is suppressing human nature! It would be better to admit directly that you want to train a group of machines that can get married and have children after giving instructions.
When faced with romance novels, blindly banning and avoiding taboos is by no means the best solution. It is better for teachers and parents to follow the trend of romance novels and teach their children what love is and what sex is.
just read novels, just read love, what are you afraid of?
· Reference:
- "Teacher discovers that reading romance novels has become a trend for sixth grade children, experts: No need to make a fuss", Jimu News
- "The "Most Beautiful Spring and Summer" 2019 Adolescent Sexual Health Education Survey Report", Phoenix.com Public Welfare
