[Foreword] Recently, I was invited to a school to teach rule of law classes to teenagers aged 14-17. In the process of preparing lesson plans and materials, I thought about it over and over again and after requesting instructions and authorization, I still felt that this class was external law and inner: the surface was legal education, but the inner focus was on psychological counseling and psychological education to prevent crime.
I think the essence of the crime of minors is the psychological problems of the parties involved, which leads to a series of rebellious words and deeds frequent occurrence, which makes the teacher frown and annoyed the local police.
So, in the end, I decided: 's lesson takes criminal records as the main line. While popularizing legal provisions, it will give a certain degree of psychological hint to these young adults who are prone to restlessness to reduce their psychological burden during adolescence and prevent them from going on the path of crime as much as possible. They will know the law, abide by the law, know themselves, and know how to choose. In the process of learning independent growth, they will learn to be awe, know to cherish, and not forget to be grateful.
Continuing with the previous issue, recording some content about psychological counseling in the classroom (all cases taught in the class were cancelled to replace them) for readers.
...I will reveal some behind-the-scenes stories to my classmates that you don’t know. Most of the time, the police officers and school leaders and teachers of the public security organs and police stations really give the students who are fighting again and again opportunities, and those who rewrite their own lives. Because, after a conspiracy of a fight, the little adults who participated in the fight will never have room for a turnaround in their lives. Don’t think that the police and teachers have no way to do anything to them. To be honest, the only parents who really have no way to do things to the children in are their parents. The teacher and the police just couldn't bear it. We don’t want to take our children who are studying, their life path is bleak because of a fight. Perhaps the well-intentioned behavior of the police and teachers was misunderstood or dismissed by some students. The repeated tolerance and kindness became the reason for them to become more and more coaxing and gathering to cause trouble.
There may be classmates who say, I am just like this now, the police station has registered, can I still get better in the future?
I, like you, have youth. The difference is that I have passed the best age, and you are just in your youth.
Just like what I said at the beginning of class, I need it. In fact, I like your youth blooming all over the world, and I can't bear to regret seeing your youth leave you in full bloom.
What you choose, you have to bear the consequences of your choice. No matter good or bad, no matter joy or so, no matter good or evil. Our choices are not right or wrong, because everyone has an absolutely different life. And how we view, how we treat, how we think, and how to realize our choices are the key.
I think your parents and teachers want to watch you laugh in the highlights of your youth. No one, including yourself, likes to be arrogant and cynical in their youth.
In fact, I personally think that it is not a bad thing for students to have cynical thoughts, but your experience and experience are not enough to make you do cynical behavior.
…There are many emotions during adolescence, including the most important psychology of wanting independence, wanting to be recognized, and wanting to be self-esteem.
I will help you analyze it later and find the objective reasons for you. I will tell you that whether you fight or fall in love, the cause of your psychological problems is not yours. I say this, will you be surprised? Would you be a little secretly happy?
I think the following words will be the best reason for you to face your past selves, because you didn’t understand the past, but from today on, from now on, if you know these, you will naturally change and face yourself.
I have seen many cases, but most of them cannot be shown to you. Most of them feel confused and regretful. Some people are in love and hate, and a very small number of people are ignorant and fearless. Just like the case made the trial staff feel sad and heartbroken.
Whenever faced with such cases and scenes, I always wonder why these children committed crimes, what is the reason for , which leads to their young age, watching others live a colorful life in the world, is framed in a narrow circle just as soon as their beautiful life begins, and walks through their own life?
Their psychological problems have attracted great attention in our fields of law, sociology, psychology, etc.
...I have come into contact with some members of minor criminal groups. Their emotions and words and deeds are very violent. These people are generally more impulsive. They are strict discipline on schools and families and will have a rebellious mentality. These people like to get together with so-called brothers and friends to play games and drink big wine.
In fact, everyone has had a rebellious mentality, but a very small number of people have failed to distinguish their rebellion from their mischief. Some people always think that if you don’t make a fuss during the rebellion period, what is it called rebellion? I regard illegal crimes as rebellion, and the deeper they fall.
We have all experienced the rebellious period. Some people believe that speaking back, cursing, and beating people are essential words and deeds in the rebellious period. I say that these behaviors are called: uneducated .
We say that during the rebellion period, rebellion is dependence. During the rebellion period, we want to gain independence and autonomy. But beating and scolding is not called rebellion, but a traitor. Students, think about it, can independence and freedom be the same as being uneducated? Therefore, don’t regard the words and deeds that are “not stingy” as a rebellious period, as that will only make friends laugh.
I was rebellious during my adolescence and during my school days. I had a record of not going home for half a year, but I was quite obedient. I hid in the dormitory to read books and read everything, Chinese medicine, Huangdi Neijing , law, mathematical statistics, computer, zodiac signs, martial arts, romance, Sixth Patriarch Platform Sutra, Tao Te Ching, Dream of Red Mansions series, Anti-Fengshen Bang, Shushan Sword Heroes..., read novels in the school library, avoiding parents' nagging. Or go to Baitaling’s bookstore and rent ten novels for one dollar, and read all Yong’s Jin Yong’s in one go.
The essence of rebellion is actually to avoid growing up and expect freedom, autonomy, and independence. It is a period of fantasizing about having all kinds of pride and abilities without giving.
This is also the psychological inducement that teenagers are prone to taking shortcuts to commit crimes. When children have psychological entanglements and conflicts, the family, schools, and society do not help them balance the psychological concept of right and wrong, values and outlook on life, and become a booster for minors to commit crimes. (The recent incident in the cinema is very popular on TikTok. ▲ This is because parents have not helped their children to balance the views of right and wrong, values and outlook on life. Fortunately, society has educated the father and son)
... Adolescent children desire independence but cannot be independent, so emotional impulsiveness and herd behavior psychology have become mainstream.
Students, like other creatures, occupies an important position in the lives of all creatures. When we were young, I would say that I wanted to pee, which is one of the manifestations of the awakening of independent consciousness. Until adolescence, our independent consciousness will be enhanced to the greatest extent with physiological changes. This independence is something that everyone has and is necessary for our growth. This is human instinct, the instinct of the inheritance and evolution of organisms.
For so many years, when I was communicating with special groups, I found that those who do not want their children to be independent are actually our parents. I'm talking every day, son, don't drink, daughter, dye my hair back black. ...The children's drinking and dyeing their hair are actually just learning to be independent through imitation.
So, students, teenagers who drink, dye their hair or engage in any other indecent behaviors are not legally irrelevant from a moral system, but from a psychological point of view, these behaviors only prove one thing. Children are learning to be independent and grow up in the way they think is appropriate. However, this way of growing up is not very understandable and accepted by parents, teachers or other adults.
Use drinking as an example ▲…
In other words, you use your persistence to express your subconscious independence.
... Teenagers have a particularly strong sense of self. At this stage, minors desire independence and hope that adults or peers will recognize that they have a certain status and realize their so-called dignity.
Children at this stage are unwilling to accept the constraints of their families and schools, and like to do things independently according to their own wishes. However, our education model, whether it is school, tutoring, or social education model, has adopted a distrustful attitude towards minors. I don’t believe that you can do your homework independently, I don’t believe that you can get rid of your mobile phone’s control over you, I don’t believe that you can wash the dishes, I don’t believe that you won’t go out to fight, I don’t believe that you will speak well, I don’t believe that you will study hard, I don’t believe that you can get along with your classmates normally, etc. These distrusts are actually saying that I don’t believe you are growing up. These words are inconsistent with the self-awareness and independence of adolescent children.
When adults cannot correctly view the awakening of these little adults, they cannot see or look down on the growth of these minors, are looked down upon by parents and teachers, and are looked down upon by the elder brothers and sisters in society. When their self-awareness is suppressed by adults and they feel that they cannot break free, these minors may use their words and deeds, especially their behaviors to express themselves in the face of their peers, to show their independence and release their repressive emotions. Come on, baby, there is nothing that cannot be solved by fighting.
Therefore, the proportion of campus bullying in minor crimes is gradually increasing, ▲
... When facing our parents and teachers, the most common phenomenon is that as long as we open our mouths, no matter what we say, children are unwilling to listen, do not like to listen, or even do not listen.
In fact, adolescent teenagers are active in thinking, like to think independently, and be good at imagination. Especially now that our Internet is developed, the era of self-media has arrived, and it has become saturated. Our TV and art programs are rich and colorful, providing a platform for teenagers and our minors to imagine that is out of reality, but they actually don’t have much experience in participating in various practical activities. They just saw it on TV, where did dad go, where did mom go? Where did the child go? Where did you go? The students did not know whether the TV was a real event or a story made up to increase the ratings. Although they do not know which ones are real and which ones are fictional, because they lack the necessary moral concepts, their personalities have not matured, and they lack evaluation criteria for right and wrong, good and evil. Therefore, there is no way to make a correct judgment on some pseudo-cultural phenomena that intentionally mislead their views, and the violent activities on TV, so it is easy to reverse right and wrong and embark on the path of illegal and criminal activities.
... The child, 8 and 9 years old, has obviously shown symptoms of rebellious puberty. Especially when parents ask them to do whatever they want, they must do whatever they want. In other words, some children beating and scolding their parents and threatening their parents and elders with extreme behaviors to achieve their needs, so as to achieve other goals. (2 cases ▲)
Students, in fact, in many cases, when facing willful children, parents no longer work whether they say or fight. We saw this news online (there are videos of sending children to the police station online).
I personally do not agree with for using police to discipline their children for parents, but I agree with the police who can scold their parents according to the "Family Education Promotion Law". Students who are interested can learn the newly implemented family education law this year and find relevant provisions.
The reason why I can say these words here is because I think you are adults. I hope that after you become an adult, start a family, and have your own children, you can remember this sentence. Parents should not care too late for their children's willfulness. is too late, it is recommended that parents try to start language education, literacy education, selection education, etc. for infants and young children as much as possible. OK, it’s a bit beyond the syllabus. Can the students’ little hearts and thinking keep up?
... Teachers and parents should see what kind of person the friends the children are dating are, because minors will cause illegal and criminal activities due to their herd mentality. This kind of crime is not only because of not understanding the law, but also depends on psychological effects.
Many group activities, such as groups of friends in groups of three or five, and one of them has conflicts with others, then if his companions are impulsive, they will agree with their behavior regardless of right or wrong. From this perspective, we can also use the children's psychology to judge their behavioral cognition. The suspect Chen Mouzhi is an adult, but has not reached the psychological level of adults. When they beat others, they clearly show their psychological state, which is an immature psychological state of a minor. The other seven accomplices were afraid that their companions would look down on them. In order to show that they were a member of this group, they would beat others with their partners in a herd manner...
... Family education , social atmosphere, school education, are all in it, playing a crucial role for minors and family education. The impact of family education on the psychological and behavioral patterns of adolescents and minors is the most important.
In campus bullying incidents, factors of social atmosphere, school factors and family factors account for 1/3 of each. Among the psychological factors of minors' crimes, family factors account for 70% or even more. We know that children have the most contact with their families whether during school or at home before they reach the age of 12, and the lack of family education has become a breeding ground for minors' crimes, such as excessive spoiling, lack of care, and improper education and guidance. ▲
…▲Once someone commits violence, you might as well see if his parents are violent or supportive. (There are many examples on the Internet, when a child hits someone, grandfather laughs.)
is precisely this inappropriate education and guidance. Many families ignore the cultivation of children's healthy personality in . Especially now, many families only attach only importance to intellectual education. From the perspective of literacy and morality, they instill in children that they must not suffer any loss. If others beat you, you must beat them back. If you lose, don't come back. If you hurt your parents, pay them for them.
Over time, when some violent methods cannot satisfy these children's psychological sense of gain, and some bleeding cannot satisfy them, they either form gangs and join the underworld or search for, collect, watch, spread, and imitate the bloody behavior of terrorists online.
I won’t talk about other laws. The Counter-Terrorism Law promulgated in 2015 stipulates that only if the dissemination is spread, the maximum detention can be imposed for 15 days and a fine of 10,000 yuan.
... The atmosphere and environment will affect people's emotions. Even students who are relatively good at studying often get together to talk about bad things will make people go to extremes. This is human social psychology, and this psychology is by no means a unique psychology of "poor students". …▲…
…In many cases, we cannot control our emotions and words and deeds well. Some classmates may be thinking, Police Officer, you said it easy, can you control it?
I tell you, I can't control it many times. So you don't have to think that you are useless. Ha ha.
So, you just need to understand: control and not control emotions are two different modes of thinking and behavior, and there are two completely different results. You control it but don’t control it, which is different from the result of you not wanting to control it at all and wanting to indulge yourself.
Our parents and teachers may often say that when emotions fluctuate, we must learn to be self-control, learn to be patient, learn to communicate, be positive and optimistic, if we can't afford to offend, etc. In fact, our starting point for adults is correct.
Just classmates, you have to say: We are in adolescence, we have more reasons than you adults that can’t control our emotions, we also want to control our emotions. But I can't control it.
... I can clearly say here: people are normal for emotions, but not abnormal for emotions. venting emotions is an instinct, and being able to control emotions is a skill.
… Small ways to control emotions is recommended to you.
The first way to divert attention. ...Don't use morality to judge this kind of mentality good or bad. This kind of attention shift lies in the fact that we transfer the people who do things to what people do. Each of us, especially minors and teenagers, needs and desire to grow up and be independent. Only by distinguishing people and things clearly can we say that we have psychologically met the necessary conditions for maturity and independence.
… Not against things, not against people, (using parents nagging to do positive and negative examples ▲▲)
The second type is exercise. exercise is a tried and tested way to relieve stress, it is the source of dopamine , the power generation, and a convenient way to eliminate bad emotions.
...▲Three kilometers are used to treat all kinds of disobedience, five kilometers are used to treat all kinds of internal injuries, and ten kilometers are used to ensure bright sunshine. …
… In the past 10 years, it has been popular in many universities ▲…
The third type of mark your feelings. ... There is nothing in life that you can’t let go, life can only go through.
… In fact, we are often alone. Many times, loneliness has benefits to the state of mind ▲.
... During the period of controlling emotions and behaviors, when emotionally speaking, it is difficult for students to absolutely control their words and deeds. However, when you take action, you should think about what kind of grace is and what kind of hatred is. Are the kindness of your friends really greater than the kindness of your parents who raised you, and do the hatred in front of you really affect your happy life in your life?
…In fact, most of us cannot perfectly control our emotions, and I am no exception. But if you really can't control it, I absolutely support you to vent. Students who just want to lose their temper and want to take action, when you vent your emotions, you must follow three coexistence principles. If you remember these three principles, you will most likely not commit any crime. The three golden principles of are:
does not harm yourself
does not disturb others
does not destroy the environment
does not destroy the environment
As for how to implement these three principles at the same time, after class, you can discuss what are the behaviors that take into account venting emotions and not committing crimes.
