In the TV series " Xiaoshede ", in order to allow his son to enter a good middle school, Tian Yulan kept giving his son various tutoring, reviewing and writing questions since kindergarten.
Amid her various anxiety, her son was also on the verge of collapse every day. In the end, the child overturned the exam table, tore the exam paper, and gave depression to Tian Yulan as a reward for her "working" over the years.
The mother collapsed in the play, and the child collapsed even more; everyone was worried about watching it outside the play.
Some people say that such cases are too extreme, and reality should rarely be like this.
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"In the Name of Children" shows us a mother who cares about her children's future. Under the background of Chinese-style education, learning to reconcile with herself is the most important practice for parents.
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Yang Liu has never been to college, she only went to a technical secondary school. After graduation, I married my boyfriend and lived a heartless life and was happy.
After having a son, Yang Liu was careless and didn't think about anything. She just felt a little tired of taking care of her newborn son.
Until her colleague, Sister Shen, instilled her parenting philosophy in her: how to prenatal education, how to get the child to attend early education classes, how to send the child to a foreign-teaching English class when he was four years old, how to let the child learn Olympiad mathematics, how to let his son learn Go, in short, you must not let the child lose at the starting line.
After listening to Sister Shen’s parenting story, Yang Liu found that she was too out of date. From then on, she began to follow her example and chase her.
Before his son went to kindergarten, after get off work every day, Yang Liu began to educate his son in advance. First, I bought a lot of early education materials myself, and then started to output to my son.
When it comes to choosing a kindergarten, Yang Liu is not satisfied with ordinary kindergartens. She took the child into the principal's office, showed her early education achievements to the principal, and sent the child to the provincial demonstration kindergarten.
After entering the provincial demonstration kindergarten, Yang Liu heard that there was a better bilingual kindergarten, and each class was equipped with a foreign teacher, so she sent the child to the bilingual kindergarten through the way.
In kindergarten, the child cannot read English and his academic performance cannot keep up. Yang Liu disagreed at all. She started to tutor the child again and found a tutoring teacher, so that her children must receive the best education.
After going to kindergarten, in order to allow her children to go to the best elementary school, she spent money to buy a school district house despite her husband's opposition. Unexpectedly, before entering the school, the primary school re-divided the school district, and the second-hand house they just bought was classified outside the school district house.
Yang Liu went to find an agency that sold the house, made a big fuss, and scolded them for committing fraud. However, the matter of re-dividing school districts is not something that the agency company can decide, and it is useless to scold them.
has no choice. You still have to go to key primary schools. Now you can only find relationships and pay school selection fee , and you can still get in.
Little people have their own way. Once they were in a accident, Yang Liu found a way, but she still sent her child to a key elementary school.
Every time I choose a school, it is a war. When the child enters a key elementary school, Yang Liu thought she could breathe a sigh of relief, but what she didn't know was that the more difficult thing was still behind.
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Yang Liu's son's academic performance is not particularly good, and he can only get middle and lower scores every time.
Seeing her son’s grades, she thought that it would be another problem for her son to enter a key junior high school in the future, so she began to find ways to pave the way for her son.
Once during the summer vacation, Yang Liu just wanted to find a place for her child to settle down, but she actually met a famous local Olympiad tutoring class. It is said that students who took the exam in this cram school can be admitted to the best candidates for key junior high schools.
Yang Liu seemed to see hope and began to concentrate on tutoring his son for his Olympiad mathematics.
The child doesn’t like Mathematical Olympiad at all. He was punished by the teacher for his poor academic performance in the class and was criticized by the teacher in public. The child didn't want to go after two days of attending, and said to Yang Liu, "If you ask me to take this Olympiad Mathematics class again, I will commit suicide."
Yang Liu comforted her son while finding the reason why her son didn't want to go to the Olympiad Mathematics class. In the end, she interfered with the school and changed her son to another class.
However, changing classes cannot save the child's grades. After the first training session, the child's grades were very poor, and the school directly sent a notice of dissuasion to the child.
In order for his son to continue to attend the Olympiad mathematics class and get good grades, he was admitted to the key junior high school selection. Yang Liu thought of a way to give a red envelope to the teacher in the training class, and finally the child stayed.
Yang Liu completely ignored the child's feelings. When she was constantly paving the way for her children with her own methods, her marriage also had a serious crisis.
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Yang Liu and her husband Su Liang are both ordinary employees and their salary is not high.
Yang Liu is constantly spending money, energy, and buying a school district house. No matter which example you learn, you must focus on the key points. In this way, you will pave the way for your child’s future and work tirelessly.
Su Liang did not agree with Yang Liu's trouble. He thought that his son could go to an ordinary school and there was no need to force the child so tightly.
Yang Liu did not agree with this idea. She felt that she had not been to a good school at the beginning, so she did not get into college. Now she could only do logistics in the company and was so angry that she would never allow her son to follow her footsteps.
Yang Liu kept tossing her son, which put a lot of financial and psychological pressure on her and Su Liang, and the two began to quarrel constantly. The more quarrels, the more powerful they became, and finally got divorced.
Before the divorce, Su Liang never cared about his children's studies; after the divorce, he was still helpless about his children's studies and could only give the children to Yang Liu.
After the divorce, Yang Liu continued to take her child to the math Olympiad cram school. Even if the child doesn’t understand and the scores in each exam are very poor, she still has to seize the possibility of one percent.
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On the eve of the child's junior high school entrance examination, the child failed to achieve a good result in the mathematics class, but was dismissed many times.
Yang Liu beat and scolded the child. Once, she even slapped the child directly in the face, venting her unwillingness.
Over the years, she spent all her savings and her family life was a mess, just to make her children have good grades, but her grades did not improve at all, and she seemed to have given up.
In the examination room where the child was sent to the school entrance examination, Yang Liu put down her previous aggressiveness and said to the child: "Don't worry, go and take the exam, it doesn't matter if you don't get well."
The son gave her a note before entering the examination room: "I am an eternal loser and have never achieved real victory in any exam. Perhaps, a naturally stupid person and loser like me would be better off disappearing from this world."
Yang Liu looked at the note all day long. She didn't expect that her persistence would almost force the child to death, which would probably become a shadow of her life.
As shown on the cover of this book, it was originally a happy family of three, but a zero-point test paper with a cross number made everything so disharmonious.
In fact, Yang Liu's son is not without specialties, for example, when he was a child, he climbed very fast. But Yang Liu has never paid attention to any of the advantages of her child, she only cares about her child's grades.
Fortunately, Yang Liu finally put down her prejudice and began to accept her son.
Seeing that the child’s academic performance is not ideal, every parent will not ignore it. How to fight against children's grades is a must-do problem for many parents.
When it comes to educating children, we all have to go through a practice, that is, reconciliation with ourselves.
