Even if the holiday is long, there will always be an end.
Each child has different ways of spending time and experiences.
Another summer vacation is over in a blink of an eye. The start of school is coming, and Shuwen, like other friends in the second year of junior high school, returns to campus on time.
Shuwen felt very bad during the 3 days of returning to school, and she felt very bad and was in a low mood, but she couldn't tell what was going on. She always habitually endured it with pain.
I don’t want to talk much, I cry for no reason, I don’t sleep well, I can’t eat
It’s easy to get tired in class, I don’t concentrate enough, I can’t learn, I can’t remember things
…
3 days pass very long. Whenever I have the chance, I call my mother, wanting her to pick me up home.
Mother asked Shuwen to chat with the class teacher to see if Shuwen relieves her mood and continues to go to school
But after the chat, she still did not improve, and could not resist Shuwen's constant "death call". She felt sorry for Shuwen's voice and tears on the phone. Mother took Shuwen out of the campus and took Shuwen to my studio......
In addition to other psychological troubles that need to be intervened, Shuwen was also sure of the adaptive obstacles that occurred when she returned to campus after the long holiday.
Shuwen must not be an isolated case.
Every time the start of school during the winter and summer vacations, students will face "holiday syndrome". Before, we will focus on children, hoping that they can self-regulate, but children's self-control ability is limited, and parents need supervision and teachers pay attention.
So what should we do to help children adapt to the campus environment as soon as possible? Parents are the key, teachers are very important
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Parents and teachers join forces with
As parents:
As parents:
① First of all, we should influence our children with a positive and optimistic mood, and do not put too much pressure on our children at the beginning of school.
For example, a parent told his child when he started school: You are in a key school and a key class now. You must work hard to get good grades, otherwise it will make your mother - I, a teacher, feel very shameless...
The child suddenly felt huge pressure.
After school starts, I am always full of worries, worried that I can’t learn, worry that my mother will not be happy when I take the exam, worry that my mother will not be happy, worry that I can’t learn well, and the teacher will criticize me...
②Don’t repeatedly nag about my child’s shortcomings .
③ Be careful to say more words of appreciation and encouragement, listen patiently to the child’s statements, analyze the reasons with the child, guide and encourage the child, and give the child confidence. If the child cannot adapt for the moment, he needs to be tempted by step.
As a teacher:
① Create a good order and learning atmosphere at the beginning of the school year;
② The arrangement of academic tasks is progressively carried out step by step, and do not overdo it all at once;
③ Pay attention to reducing students' pressure, arousing students' enthusiasm for learning, and a sense of belonging to the class.
④Don’t pay too much attention to the performance at the beginning of the school year, and make appropriate inspiration to relieve students’ discomfort.
⑤Can organize class meetings and let everyone share interesting experiences and gains from the summer vacation together, and propose the improvement and help you want to obtain in the new semester
02
Parents are good examples
https://www. ml4 Parents can effectively supervise their children's work and rest
Some children will say: After class, I have to do homework at night. I am very tired all day. I want to play mobile entertainment and relax before going to bed, and it only takes one hour;
But my parents can play mobile phones for a long time, either by Douyin or watching TV series, they just want to nag me and nag me for a lot of play on my phone. I slept late, why should they care about me?
So to set a good example in front of children, we can more effectively supervise children's daily routines.
03
Follow the changes in the mood of children before and after school starts
If you find that your child is depressed or prone to irritability, give your child appropriate confidence:
What are the difficulties do parents support you together, this will give your child great support and increase the child's strength to face problems.
Encourage, be tolerant and try to understand the child's mood, be willing to listen to the child's voice, and guide the child to find solutions. Do not blame or have full expectations in your words, which will invisibly increase the pressure on the child.
04
Let children develop good habits of exercise during holidays
It is easy to become lazy at home during holidays because of losing the order and management of the school. For example, sleeping too late, getting up too late, staying at home, and moving less, which will also lead to children being afraid of running and exercising after school starts and cannot adapt to school.
Therefore, during the holidays, if you can exercise regularly with your children in the morning, such as running, playing badminton, skipping rope and other exercises, the children's body and spirit will be full of vitality, and they will adapt more quickly after returning to campus.
05
Communicate more with children and understand their interpersonal relationships
Students' sense of belonging to the campus comes from achieving excellent grades, gaining recognition and respect from teachers and classmates, and an important part - socialization.
Among the children who have been exposed to previous adaptation disorders after school starts, more than 70% of them have problems with poor interpersonal relationships:
For example, conflicts with the class teacher or the teacher, conflicts with peers, or experiences of being bullied are also very important factors that cause children not to want to return to campus.
So you need to understand your child’s interpersonal relationships.
To enhance children's social vitality: children's social willingness and social skills.
The improvement of social vitality will make children more confident in peer interactions, maintain harmonious relationships and intimate friendships, and thus they are particularly willing to return to the campus environment and study happily here.
06
Set goals and make good study planning for the new semester
Inspire children to think about the goals of the new semester and make orderly arrangements. In this way, children will have more direction in the face of the new semester's study and will not be disagreeable to campus life because of confusion.
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Seek professional help
If parents and teachers cannot help their children improve their adaptability, they must seek help from professional psychological workers.
If the child’s adaptation barrier at the beginning of school cannot be solved well, it may cause the child to leave school for a long time, and even lead to a break from school and drop out of school.
Therefore, if parents and teachers fail to adjust, they should seek professional help in a timely manner so that their children can return to normal campus life as soon as possible. The longer the time, the higher the price you pay for returning to school.
Through the above points, parents and teachers pay attention to each other, so that children who return to campus can better complete the excessive vacation to the start of school, adapt to the study and life of the new semester faster, embark on a new journey, absorb new knowledge, and grow stronger.
Pan Xinling Mental Health for Primary and Secondary School Students
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