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Recently, I saw a topic: I am an excellent teacher, why can't I teach my own children? The most common replies to the topic
are: Same as above, please answer.
I think this question has always troubled many teachers. Is there any answer? This issue shared Teacher Li’s contribution, “We Eat the Children’s Dream? 》, I hope to find the answers the teachers want...
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Teacher eats his children's dream?
teachers, as the guide of education, are given sacred responsibilities. The first thing you need is to get the moon when you are close to the water. It is reasonable and you should have innate advantages in educating your children. This is far from the truth. On the contrary, compared with educating students, many excellent teachers can be considered losers in educating their children.
I have been thinking about how to better educate the next generation and how to make him in a better native family, but I have never found a satisfactory answer. A child, a person with a strong sense of teacher, has strong plasticity. I am afraid of bad behaviors from the outside world and myself, and gave him a wrong example, which makes me walk on thin ice every step I take and feel terrified.
Something I had a few days ago gave me some answers.
During the Mid-Autumn Festival holiday, several colleagues took their children to play together. The children had a lot of fun, and they chatted together. Middle-aged women focus more on their children's growth and education. This is a common topic between them, and one of them aroused my reflection.
"Some time ago, I took my baby to see Changjin Lake, and the baby said to me: I want to be the People's Liberation Army. But I think the People's Liberation Army is too dangerous, but as a teacher, I can't directly say that I won't let him be the People's Liberation Army. This is very dangerous, , so I guided him to think about other dreams. Later, I asked him about his dreams and he said that he was quite a firefighter, My God, this is even more dangerous . It comes from the fire every day, goes from the fire. I finally raised you so big that you can't choose a safer one, such as scientists, and other children have this kind of dream."
I listened to their conversation, wondering whether my parents should do this.
Perhaps, this behavior of eating children's dreams is the most important factor that teachers cannot ignore when teaching students well but cannot educate their own children.
As parents, hoping that their children are healthy and happy is the only wish, but this dangerous profession is likely to make parents give birth to black-haired people. It is understandable to think so. Then I thought, what should I do if my baby also had this idea? I fell into deep thought: Maybe I will do this, but I can't do this.
In my opinion: as children, they have no idea about dreams, so the dreams they say must be based on the ideas generated by certain things that have happened, so first you need to understand the inside story and not rush to express your opinion. For example: He wanted to be a People's Liberation Army based on the Changjin Lake fragment. Then based on such a fragment, the baby has the concept of serving the country and serving the people. Then, from the core, he must be a righteous man, just like the rise of Chen Sheng Wu Guang.
is still far away from him for his lofty dream. Then we need to guide him to do what he can to do , which is in line with the identity of the People's Liberation Army, and demand himself from the small things around him. When he grows up and becomes conscious, he will determine whether his dream is still this.
If so, parents please support it with all their strength.
If not, his behavioral habits have been shaped to a certain extent, then at this time I can let him continue to think about his real dreams and continue to move forward firmly.
In fact, when we educate our children, we often ignore a problem: we are not teachers at this moment, but their parents. should look at the problem from the perspective of how the child needs his parents to do it, rather than telling him how he should do it from the perspective of the teacher. When they think about certain major issues, they need support and help from their parents, and teachers' guidance, they can already obtain it in school.
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The teacher eats the students’ dream?
This also reminds me of the problems in educating students.
In the process of student education, when a student answers an answer that exceeds his ability, perhaps I will sneer in my heart and laugh at his overly "lofty" goals. Before
, I didn't think this was anything. But this time, it made me sweat: Maybe, my inadvertent sneer or ridicule expression ate the students' ideals and goals, is like me, when I was a student, I was eaten away by golden dreams.
Or, this grand dream itself is not worth learning from. There are already too many things that "it's up to you" now. But who can completely get out of here? When students need it, extend your hand and take the post as the only one.
I think that when he was a student, Premier Zhou's dream of "studying for the rise of China" might have been so ridiculous at that time, but he did it.
Therefore, students’ dreams should not be easily rejected. As a teacher, you should be proud of your students’ great dreams.
Of course, if the student’s dream does not last, it is three days to fish and two days to dry the net, then the teacher needs to carry out some education and tell the students to learn to persevere, even if there are many obstacles ahead.
I think that in this way, the child will be more clear about his goal and will get closer and closer to the goal.
teachers should be the creators of students' dreams, and should not become hunters who eat their dreams just because they easily reject students.
Whether as parents or teachers, when it comes to questions and ideas raised by children about the future, they need to know more about the inside story and guide them in time instead of cutting off the blocking! Even if a child’s dream is dangerous, he should let go when he should.
Attic Message
When reading "The Seeds of Dandelion", there is always a thought in my mind: Teachers are the dandelions that children's dreams set sail. Children have infinite possibilities and excitement, even if their thoughts at a certain moment seem ridiculous or childish. But who can say that a certain dandelion will not be blown to the opposite side of the sea, land, take root, and then produce a whole piece of dandelion?
What do teachers think about the question "I am an excellent teacher, why can't I teach my own children?" Or, what are the doubts and different thoughts in your teaching career?
