As the child grows up, even the learning tasks will become heavier and heavier, so the corresponding learning pressure will also increase. If in this case, if the child still does well in the exam, then It will definitely be affirmed by parents. If you do not pass the test, parents should not criticize their children, because children are very sad and sad, and their scores are not a measure of intelligence. In fact, some parents have encountered such a situation. You will feel very incomprehensible and don't even know what to do.
Why are scores not a measure of a child's intelligence?
Xiao Li has a 12-year-old daughter. She usually gets very good grades. She often shows off to her neighbors that her daughter is very good, but there must be times when the child is careless. It is because of the exam a few days ago that his daughter was in the exam. She didn't perform well, but her daughter felt very uncomfortable, and she didn't even know how to tell her parents. But escaping will never solve the problem. In the past two days, his report card has come down. When he was having dinner in the evening, Xiao Li directly asked his daughter how many points she scored in this exam? Originally, his daughter was still eating, and when he heard his father's question, he put down the chopsticks and told his father that he had scored 90 points in the test, but when Xiao Li heard it, he was very angry and directly reprimanded the child. All the children in the family passed the test with a score of 98. How did you get 90 points in the test? Originally, he was very sad, but when he heard his father's words, he became very angry, so he directly shouted to his father that the neighbor's children's grades were really good, but until now he can't do laundry, and he has never heard of his daughter. There is absolutely nothing to say.
In fact, when children make mistakes, parents often make mistakes, let alone children. Therefore, parents must view such problems in a correct way. When children make mistakes for a while, they must not criticize children. In fact, many times children Heart is also very sad. In fact, it is very sad for a child to step back in the exam. At this time, the child needs the encouragement of the parents, not the parents to blame themselves.
For some parents, they have always been concerned about their children's scores, and they also want to require their children to develop in all aspects, so that they can become the best people. If you only pay attention to your child's grades, but not your child's advantages, you will lose your interest in learning. Parents should not focus on your child's grades first. At the same time, there are some advantages in children. Parents must also pay attention to them. Good encouragement can keep children from losing confidence.
So what exactly should parents do?
If parents attach great importance to their children's grades, it will only make the children feel that only the grades are the most important in the learning process, and the other things don't matter at all. This is to mislead the children. If you perform well, you should give affirmation. If you don’t perform well, don’t blame your son to encourage your child. When parents comfort the child, the child will no longer be sad, and the company’s children will learn more confidently.
It is normal for a child to fail the exam once. Don't let the child stay up late to study because of this. This is always a wrong approach. If the child is overloaded to study, it will not only have no good effect on learning, but also It will also harm the child's body, so it must be a combination of work and rest.
