This time,
is herself who controls the steering wheel of her life.
Author: He Yannan Yang Liqi Fu Yumei
"Do you still know how to come back?" "I can't make it anymore, right?"
Two years have passed, and Su Min, who has been popular on the Internet for the "paying her husband" self-driving trip, went home for the first time. These are two words her husband said when he saw her.
"I used to fantasize about what changes he had, but I found that it was still as messy as ever." On the 15th, Su Min told the reporter of " Global People " that she had decided to file for divorce from her husband.
Looking back at the beginning, the tension with her husband was the main reason for forcing Su Min to "escape". The other party's long-term suppression made her suffer, but she could not find an "exit". Seeing that her grandson had gone to kindergarten and had free time, she firmly believed that "it's time to go out and have some fresh air."
At the end of September 2020, she got into her white Polo car and drove out of the community. Her brain was empty and she didn't think about anything, "I just felt excited, I just felt free."
Su Min is not an "old driver" or a girl in her youth rebellious period. She was 56 years old, a housewife who was a real family woman who had done most of her life, took care of her daughter and did housework. She only got a driver's license at the age of 49, and it took another two years to buy her own car.
A self-driving tour broke through the secular world, causing Su Min's life to unexpectedly enter another "track". The most important thing is that this time, she is the one who controls the steering wheel of her life.
Go home
Su Minben has no plans to go home.
At the end of August, the daughter and son-in-law took her two grandchildren to Xining to visit her. She was very happy that she hadn't seen her family for a long time.
According to the original plan, they were planning to say goodbye to Qinghai Lake . Su Min went all the way south and her daughter's family returned to Henan. Later, due to the COVID-19 epidemic, they stayed in the local area for a few more days. As the Mid-Autumn Festival is getting closer, her daughter strongly demands that she go home to celebrate the festival.
Su Min hesitated. Although I don’t want to go home, if I go to the south, I will definitely pass by Zhengzhou. And she hasn't seen her old mother for a long time, and she really misses her a little. So, she followed her daughter's advice.
Maybe it was because of the fear of being close to home, and the vehicle was getting closer and closer, and she began to "restless, want to turn a corner, want to go to the south."
"I don't know why, after entering Henan, I was in a bad mood. I suddenly felt like I didn't want to go back, and it was hard to tell the children." She said.
endured her emotions, but she still came back. When she was wandering outside, what she missed the most was the smell of schizonepeta at home. After arriving at home, she was not idle and made a big pot of steaming gnocchi soup for her family and put it in a full of schizonepeta.
As soon as my husband came back, the opening scene happened. He saw the camera facing him and said, "What are you taking? I'm not afraid of it if you take it." He even threw up a bowl.
She admitted to the reporter that she did have expectations.
"After all, I haven't been back for so long, so I will definitely think about the benefits. My idea is also very simple. I think he can ask how I am doing outside, or just say something to care about."
But in fact, it was also expected. In the past two years, her husband has only called her twice.
The first time it was because his car was bound to his bank card and he deducted his money when he was on the highway. "He asked me to pay back the money."
The second time was because his phone was posted on the car. She parked the car at the door of a vegetable market and someone called him the phone. "He scolded me for parking my car randomly and asked me to move the car for me as soon as possible."
Every time she hung up the phone, she would be extremely grateful for the decision to "escape". My husband may never understand that she was forced away by his sarcasm and abuse.
free
Su Min is not tall, has a round face, and her laughter is cheerful. At first, she set out from Zhengzhou and had no specific plans, and just wanted to march south.
Xi'an, Chengdu, Kunming, each person, one car and one tent, and she drove tens of thousands of kilometers for 5 months.
traveled against the seasons, the air gradually became wet, the sun was getting higher and higher, and the clothes on passers-by became thinner and thinner. When we arrived at our destination, Hainan, it happened to be the Lunar New Year. At a temperature of 28℃, the bougainvillea is in full bloom, and the entire city air is mixed with the smell of the sea.
·Su Min experiences surfing in Hainan.
At that moment, she felt extremely strong in her heart: "I'm finally free."
Frying dishes can be done according to her own preferences, no need to worry about the taste of her family; if you like a place, stay for a few more days, think of your next destination, and go on the road with expectations for the unknown beauty; as long as you leave home, you can sleep very well in the car and tent...
Although Su Min described the itinerary as "very smooth", there are inevitably thrilling moments when she is alone and travels thousands of miles.
It was on the way from Chengdu to Kunming. She followed the navigation to a "tourism ecological vacation camp". When we arrived at the destination, it was already 9 pm. The camp in front of me was empty, with only a small cottage standing by the road.
She shouted a few times, but no one responded. When I opened the door, the lights were on, but there was still no one, not even a dog. "Most families in the mountains can raise dogs, this is common sense." She was amused in her heart and felt that "it's too strange."
There is no signal in the mountains, and the cached map is not useful either. She can only bite the bullet and return the same way, "I don't want anything, I just want to leave quickly."
Of course, Su Min has not always been a "Lone Ranger" during the journey. She has a straightforward personality and treats people sincerely. It is common for her to be with her hikers along the way.
·Su Min (left) is with the hiker.
The old guys were willing to do their best to help her: when it was windy and rainy, they invited her to RV for dinner; when driving, let her car walk in the middle, and the larger RV "escort" on both sides...
On the way, she met a 70-year-old couple who were on a driving tour. Their spirit of dissatisfaction with old age deeply infected her, which further strengthened her determination to continue on the road. Now, she has gone to nearly 200 cities alone.
·Su Min's car was sandwiched between two RVs.
"Internet celebrity"
In July 2020, Su Min created his own account under the name of "50-year-old aunt self-driving tour", and the number of fans on each platform exceeded 2 million. In her opinion, netizens who have never met have good intentions to her are better than those of the half-life-run home.
·Su Min on the journey. It was also her chance attempt to become an "Internet celebrity" by
.
At first, she just wanted to make some money to subsidize the journey. The monthly pension of 2,000 yuan is not enough; the child also has his own family, so he can't always bother them; at the age of a person, what else can he do without stealing or robbing?
She saw many travel bloggers making money by shooting videos, so she also tried it herself. At first, her husband saw it and ridiculed her: "How are you earning tens of thousands of yuan?"
She got used to it and didn't take it to her heart. Until one day, she bought roof tent for travel, and the boss offered 7,200 yuan. She thought the price was too high, but the bargaining was fruitless. Netizens questioned her, "Why is an old woman going for a self-driving trip?"
0,000 grievances surged into her heart, and she recorded a video to openly disclose the reason why she decided to travel alone by herself to netizens.
"Rejection, suppression, suppression."Several words tell Su Min about her decades of marriage life, and the resonance from her contemporaries quickly gathered to her.
Recalling, Su Min still agreed with her decision at the time: "It is better to expose these things to the public, so that many people will give you ideas, and your path may also be even more different. "But she "unexpectedly resonated so much."
, actor Tan Zhuo and " Strange Talk " season seven champion Fu Seoul , is another "breaking circle" for Su Min.
, who has always shown her image of ponytails and wearing sweatshirts, has rarely spread her hair and put on a little light makeup in fashion advertisements. The confidence in her eyes is not inferior to that of celebrities at all.
She has a monologue in the advertisement: "She folded 73,219 pieces of clothes, packed her bags for herself this time. "
Divorce
On the phone, Su Min emphasized to the reporter several times that he had lived the "life he really wanted" in the past two years since he left home.
" means being free and not having to think about others, not having to live in other people's world. Do whatever you want. Although everyone wants someone to care, if the last thing they exchange is sarcasm and ridicule, it is better to live your own life. "
This is also the reason why she decided to divorce.
Her ideal home is a "place where one can work together", but reality hurt her heart.
Su Min's husband was born in a rural area, and her parents did not agree to their marriage back then. But she wanted to leave her original family too much and got married at an age who didn't understand what "love" was.
Not long after the marriage, the factory she worked for went bankrupt and she became a housewife. Her husband began to settle accounts with her every month. Even if it's just a dollar, she will question her.
. She is born careless and doesn't like to count small money. Her husband's questioning makes her breathless.
In order to get rid of such a life, she decided to go out to find a job. In the past few decades, she has worked as a tailor, delivered newspapers, worked as a sanitation worker, and worked as a supermarket salesman.
The day she started making money again was also the starting point for her and her husband's AA life. "We are not discussing before marriage like young people now, but we naturally use our own money and go our own relatives. "
However, Su Min is almost the only one who takes care of the housework. She works while washing clothes, cooking, and taking care of the children. "From childhood to adulthood, the most common thing he (husband) says to his daughter is 'Let's go find your mother'."
But her efforts for the family were not recognized. Her husband is used to sarcasticizing her. When all kinds of trivial matters accumulate, her spirit is almost crushed. Gradually, life is only two left for her. Words - alive. She also suffered from moderate depression for a time, which would hurt herself in severe cases.
Sit down with her husband to talk about this matter, Su Min thought more than once. But in her husband's opinion, her wife wanted to talk about money when she opened her mouth and did not give her a chance to speak.
From the past, she only said: "He is a person who loves money and has a little bit of a temper, but there is no principled mistake, at least she has not found a mistress. "
She even looked for reasons from herself, thinking that when she was young, she should not compromise for the integrity of her family and constantly give up her bottom line.
All kinds of entanglements were figured out at some point when she drove on the road, on the seaside, on the countryside, and between mountain roads.
·Su Min on the journey.
"I used to know how to deal with these problems, but now I am very clear. If there is really no room for recovery, then divorce is that simple. "
The daughter and son-in-law are very supportive of her. Recently, her daughter brought her to treat arm and joint problems, and she is expected to stay at home for another 10 days.After
, she hopes to sit down with her husband decently for the last time and negotiate the divorce. "If he doesn't agree, then give him a year to consider it and I will continue to go on the road. Once the time comes, I will completely end the relationship anyway."
"I couldn't live again in the first half of my life, but now, I want to continue on the road." she said.
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