Father loves his son and is filial, which is a normal thing in our normal people's concept. Because we are influenced by traditional culture and learn what is "benevolence, justice, courtesy, wisdom, and faith". Of course, the traditional culture of has been passed down to this day. It is not only necessary to keep up with the times and maximize its vitality, but also to absorb the essence of them, discard the dross, and strengthen learning to explore in depth.
Is filial piety to parents a dregs in traditional culture? A professor named Wang Fuzhong said wildly: "Parents are a burden. Don't put pressure on your children and ask them to be filial. The United States is very good." Is it true that the birth of our parents is just our burden? Is there anything wrong with our filial piety? What is the reference value of the relationship between parents and children in the United States ? Let us explore one by one. There are many excellent traditional virtues in the Chinese nation, among which filial piety accounts for a large part . In the Han Dynasty, there was a system of electing officials, which was called filial piety. If you want to be elected as an official, the first condition is to observe filial piety. If this condition is not met, their career path will be terminated.
In addition, after the death of the father and mother in ancient times, they must abide by the traditional rules of filial piety. Even high-level officials must lay down their duties and do the last filial piety for their parents. Z1z all reflects the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation is filial piety. . In fact, the ancient emperor judged the character of an official from the perspective of filial piety. If a person could not even be filial to his parents, how could he be able to take on important tasks and be loyal to the monarch? Therefore, filial piety to parents is not moral kidnapping, but our bottom line as human beings. If you don't even care about your parents, would you dare to make friends like this? Do you dare to use such employees?
Of course, Wang Fuzhong warns people to keep abreast of the times, but regard their parents as a burden, what kind of talent can be cultivated? They only have ability, but they have no sense of social responsibility and collective honor. "Don't put pressure on children, be filial." Does filial piety have to be demanded by others? Shouldn't this be the duty of the children?
Basic Laws for Improving Education
Of course, Wang Fuzhong's issues of children's pension and housing pension are thought-provoking, but this does not mean that children have to give up filial piety to their parents. If children are self-interested, should parents tolerate their selfish behavior? They are not required to support the elderly. The real estate can certainly provide for the elderly, but the children often go home to care about the physical and mental health of the elderly. Isn’t it natural to provide the elderly with certain material security?
We don't know where the children's behavior will go in the future, but we can do our best to teach the children well, instead of just talking about it. First of all, we are not helpless in the education of children's virtues. Parents are children's natural teachers. We should lead by example, use our actions to obey parents and set a good example for children.
Although it is often said that the elderly will find that there are no filial children around them when they are sick for a long time. This sentence is not necessarily a lie, but it is not insoluble. often goes back to his parents and asks for warmth. It is not difficult to call home every week, but it is just that many people who are children cannot do it.
In fact, modern parents don't want you to be filial to them. They are fully prepared for their retirement protection. What they actually need is simple care and greetings from their children. Wang Fuzhong advocated "Parents are a burden, don't pressure your children to demand filial piety!" Isn't it indulging selfishists? Of course, although with the development of the times, selfishists often appear, but this is not the reason for us to tolerate them.
We must inherit the traditional virtue of filial piety to our parents, instead of following the selfishness without a bottom line.
The foreign parent-child system
Wang Fuzhong strongly advocates the handling of parent-child relations from the United States. So, are Americans not filial to their parents? In fact, the human virtue of filial piety is not only applicable to Chinese people, people all over the world are similar. Of course, when American parents are old, they are much less dependent on their children than Chinese parents. However, when looking at things, we cannot look too one-sided.
First, Americans far surpass the Chinese in terms of welfare treatment. As the most famous capitalist country in the world, Americans receive more comprehensive and generous social welfare treatment and pension protection than the Chinese. Although China is making rapid progress, the social security system needs to be further improved. China's progress and residents' security will take time to change.
Secondly, people in the United States usually don't invest as much in children as in China . The situation in China is that children start to live for their children when they are born, do their utmost to receive the best education for their children, work hard, reduce their living expenses, and prepare money for RVs for their children in the future. In the United States, on the contrary, most Americans start to struggle alone after the age of 18. The vast majority of American youth are tempered at this time, but what about Chinese youth of the same age? What did you get? They are lying in the arms of their parents enjoying the warmth. The premise of any return is to pay a price. For Chinese children who have received more care and capital investment from their parents, is it not natural for their parents to rely on you when they grow up?
Of course, anything under the laws of nature will have two sides. Under the open education in the United States, the children cultivated may be more independent, but at the same time they are more likely to go astray. At the age of 18 and just reaching adulthood, they entered society prematurely. Under the premise of incomplete control and self-control, they are likely to fall into the abyss without being careful.
Chinese children may grow up because of their parents' strict control. They are very dependent on their parents and can't stand up to wind and rain, let alone how to be independent. In addition, America is not filial to its parents, but it does not regard filial piety to its parents as a thousand-year cultural heritage like China. Americans treat their parents like friends, but they respect their friends more than they do.
The relationship between parents and children
Professor Wang Fuzhong once said: “Parents are a burden, don’t put pressure on your children and ask your children to be filial.” Although this approach is unwise, how to coordinate the relationship between parents and children is to ensure family harmony Close the button.
First, parents should learn to appropriately let go of their children . The flowers cultivated in the greenhouse for decades suddenly went out to endure the wind and rain. How could they stand it? Therefore, if you want to make your child better, you must learn to let go as your child grows up. In this way, parents will not spend a lot of energy on their children, and the children will not become more and more self-reliant because of the restraint.
Secondly, parents should learn to control the overall situation . As the child grows up, the former young eagle has learned to fly, and it is irrational to continue to interfere with the child's growth. It will not only bring troubles to the children's life, but also make it difficult to get along with the children and affect the parent-child relationship. So what should parents do? Parents should control the overall situation as the government intervenes in the economy. This means that parents should no longer care about the small details of their adult children's lives, nor should they explore the private lives of their children who do not want to see the light. All they have to do is to control the child's general direction in place and not let the child make detours. Because at this time, children already have their own worldview and outlook on life, what parents have to do is not to make specific and detailed plans.
come again, parents must know "no longer be selfless" . The love of parents for their children goes deep into the bone marrow, blood is thicker than water. But is such deep love really good for the children? How many parents put out their pension money for the down payment for their children to buy a house? How many parents have given up their retirement time to look after their children?
is precisely because they don’t picture anything, , so many children think that the sacrifice of their parents is a matter of course. Behind your enjoyment, someone is going for you with honor and disgrace. When parents give their children their full-hearted love, if the children are "white-eyed wolves", such parents can be described as empty and happy, how will they feel in their hearts? Feeling cold, upset, sad, melancholy, etc.
Therefore, parents should learn to be selfish and leave a way for their own lives. If their children have not experienced the test, they still have to have enough funds to live and enjoy the rest of the time.
Conclusion
Advocating foreign educational concepts is not completely in line with China's national conditions, and it is not possible to say bluntly which educational conceptsbetter. We should draw on the advantages of foreign education, strengthen and reform our educational philosophy, instead of blindly copying , we must be realistic and acceptable as the starting point. At the same time, we should also reflect on the shortcomings in modern education and correct them to lay the foundation for us to cultivate a better next generation.
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