in 2019 showed that China’s divorce rate reached 43%, which means that for every 100 couples, 43 couples chose to divorce.
Modern people's concept of marriage and family has undergone fission, and traditional marriage morals cannot restrain the two persons in marriage. For divorced couples, others have no right to conduct moral kidnapping or criticism. However, the physical and mental harm caused by the divorce of parents should not be ignored. Case of
An essay written by a primary school student became popular on the Internet, and it also shocked netizens a lot. The title of
's composition is "Lonely". Its unique feature is that the word "lonely" does not appear in the full text, but the teacher feels full of loneliness. The content of the
composition is very simple and very heart-warming. The primary school student’s parents divorced, and his father remarried and had a younger brother. When father and stepmother decided to go to Hainan for the New Year, they packed their luggage and brought their younger brother, but they did not bring her. With tears, teacher
wrote a warm comment to the child, "May you be warm in winter three times, and may you not be cold in spring". The teacher even asked the children to spend the Spring Festival in their own homes, just to let the children feel that there is true love in the world and the warmth in the world.
netizens saw this composition and was hit in the softest part of their hearts. They wanted to warn the father of the child, "Don't have a stepmother, there will be a stepdad."
Most children from divorced families have entered a life state of "father doesn't hurt, mother doesn't love" after their parents divorced. This has a great impact on children's physical and mental health, and even brings a lifetime of psychological shadows to children.
What impact will the divorce of parents have on the growth of children?
1. Influencing the child’s personality development
After their parents divorced, many children are sent to their grandparents or grandparents’ homes, at least on the surface, they become children that parents don’t want to control. Children will feel that their parents do not love themselves, that they have been abandoned, and will be seriously insecure.
Some children will breed resentment towards their parents and may gradually alienate and hate their parents. The children's personality will become withdrawn, even distorted, and become more extreme. Some children may become autistic.
2, affects the child's academic performance
After the parents divorced, they can no longer accompany their children as before, and may only visit their children occasionally. If there is no parent’s company and care for a long time, the child will become lonely, lose hope in life, have no motivation in learning, and academic performance will drop significantly. Some children with extreme thoughts or behaviors may also go on a crooked path.
The impact of parental divorce on children is very large and profound. Especially in the child’s childhood, the absence of parents also caused the lack of family roles, which affected the child’s growth and education. When parents choose to divorce, they should be more cautious and think more about their children. Although it is not possible to kidnap any couple morally, as parents, we must recognize the responsibilities in marriage and treat marriage, family and children correctly. How does
be a qualified parent? Parents should pay attention to
1. Parents should accompany their children more
Parents are very busy at work and may have to entertain themselves, and usually do not have time to accompany their children. However, parents, no matter how busy they are, they must take time out of their busy schedule and spend more time with their children. Only when parents let their children experience the love and care of their parents can their children feel at ease and feel safe.
Especially on weekends, when parents and children read, play games, or go outdoors, the children will feel very warm and happy.
2. Communicate more with their children.
Parents should never speak with their children in a high manner. If you want to maintain a good parent-child relationship with your child, you must put aside the parental framework, communicate more with the child, communicate correctly, and understand the child's true thoughts in order to enter the child's heart and understand the child's thought dynamics and learning situation.
At the same time, parents should constantly reflect on themselves, find their own shortcomings, correct them in time, and be the best example for their children.
3. Grasp the critical period of the child’s development
Parents can’t miss the critical period of the child’s development, only thisThe stage of development will be more effective in the education and training of children.
If parents miss the critical period of their child’s development, they may spend more energy and time to make up for it in the later period, and it may not have a good educational effect.
4. Understand the needs of children
Many parents always interfere with their children’s study and life too much in the name of “being good for their children”, allowing their children to live under the control of their parents since childhood, and thus lack the ability to be independent and self-care. Dare to express your true inner thoughts and needs.
If children restrain themselves from an early age and do not express any thoughts or opinions, parents will only see "cowardly and incompetent" children. Parents should understand their children's needs and learn to let their children make their own decisions and make their own decisions and judgments.
Children have the ability to be independent and self-care. They must be independent and proactively solve problems from elementary school. After growing up and accumulating experience, they can face life choices independently and create their own life after they grow up.
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