Every parent must love their children, but sometimes the children are too naughty, and the parents may not help but reprimand the children. Although they regret it after scolding, they can’t let go of apologizing to their children, but they don’t know what the parents say casually. In other words, it is easy to become a mountain, firmly pressing on the child's heart.
hope you have never heard the following words, and never say these words to your children.
Demonstration of
mistakes when a child makes a mistake: told you a long time ago, you must not listen, is it right now?
demonstrate correctly: , let's think of a way together and see if we can save it.
When a child is bullied,
mistakenly demonstrates: can’t slap a slap, so why don’t people bully others just bully you?
correctly demonstrate: don't be afraid, I am here. What
promised to the child did not happen.
wrong demonstration: when will I promise you? Go again next time, buy again next time, in a few days...
correctly demonstrate: sorry, for some reason, I can’t keep my promise, can you forgive me this time?
There is something wrong with the child.
error demonstration: how can you do nothing?
Demonstrate correctly: asks clearly the reasons for not doing well, and guides the child to improve.
The child tells you what's wrong.
Wrong demonstration: kids, what can you worry about?
Demonstrate correctly: listen to your child patiently, hug him, let him know, you can talk to you or ask for help at any time.
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Almost no parents are willing to hurt their children. However, when children make mistakes, it is easy for emotions to precede reason.
After the child is hurt again and again, he will slowly give up communicating with his parents, not speaking, listening, or answering.
A child’s trust in his parents is natural, but not permanent. The acquired trust depends on how much understanding and tolerance you have given to the child as he grows up.
The way to maintain good communication with children is very simple, 2 words-listen.
● When your child talks to you, even if you think he is boring, please stop what you are doing and listen carefully.
● If your child does something that makes you angry, hold back the anger, don't rush to scold or use violence, listen to him first.
● If your child does not want to listen to your choice, but insists on his own opinions stubbornly, please respect him and do not impose your own preferences.
● If your child always doesn't listen to you, don't rush to get angry, squat down and look up at him, and patiently repeat what you want to say.
Listening means that you acknowledge and accept your child's feelings, and this is the premise that your child is willing to speak to you.
Dear moms and dads, approach your children and get to know them. Try to start by listening. For children, every word of yours is very important.
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