News about parents accompanying their children to do homework is always emerging one after another. A few days ago, a Mr. Wu from Hangzhou tutored his son who was in elementary school to do his homework. He gave a question back and forth for half an hour, but his son still didn't

First of all, we need to figure out, is it necessary for parents to accompany their children to do their homework?

Many people think that our parents didn’t care about doing homework before, and it was not good.

The era is different. Nowadays, children have higher requirements for all aspects of learning, and children face more temptations.

Elementary school stage, especially those who have just entered primary school and are in grade one and two, may not have figured out what learning is going on. They have poor self-control ability and need supervision and guidance from parents and teachers.

It is unrealistic to expect children to know how to complete their homework consciously from the beginning. " heterologous " from parents is indispensable.

Secondly, parents should understand what is the purpose of accompanying homework?

Some parents just accompany their children to complete the homework on the day, trying not to make mistakes and write well. However, doing these is not enough.

In primary school, parents accompanying homework to do their homework mainly to help their children develop good learning habits and train their children to complete homework independently and manage themselves.

Simply put, the "more accompanying" in primary school is to "less accompanying" in junior high school, and gradually "no accompanying".

clarifies these two issues, let’s talk about the method again.

Objectively speaking, it is originally a good thing to accompany your child to do homework. Parents can understand their children's learning situation and children can establish good learning habits. This process also strengthens communication and cooperation between parents and children.

However, many parents "accompany" in an inappropriate way, which triggered a series of emotional problems and parent-child conflicts, resulting in homework becoming a headache for both parents and children.

Error practice 1: Lack of patience, emotional instability

Some parents have a heart to accompany their children to do their homework, but lack the most important quality - patience, and they are easily emotionally excited and lose their temper at their children.

When you see the child being slow, writing in a slight way, writing incorrectly, and teaching for a long time, you get angry. You yell at the child, and the result is often both losers: parents are so angry that their children cry non-stop.

The root reasons why parents are prone to "being up" are two:

(1) Have unrealistic high expectations for children, believing that children should do it right and teach it once;

(2) Are used to using adult advanced thinking to look at problems, and think that children's homework is very simple, so when children do wrong questions and do not understand, they think that children are too stupid.

Obviously this is not the case.

Children just start to come into contact with a certain knowledge point and need to practice it repeatedly before they can master it. Their cognition and thinking are not as mature and flexible as adults.

Therefore, parents need to adjust their cognition to the same level as their children.

At this time, without the things that are appropriate for adults, parents will no longer be impatient and have a more stable mentality. Starting from the most basic knowledge, they will explain the problems to their children bit by bit.

Rough yelling and criticism will only make the effect of accompanying homework worse. Children's attention will be focused on their parents' excitement, fear of being scolded, and have great psychological pressure, making it difficult to devote themselves to their homework.

When doing homework becomes a painful thing, how can a child be proactive?

Associate your children to do homework, you should take a good parent-child relationship as the premise, pay attention to your tone and attitude, try to be calm and communicate well with your children.

Error practice 2: Over-intervention, staring at

1 with your children to do homework. Another common mistake is that parents participate too much and take the responsibility that belongs to their children on themselves. Specifically, it is manifested as:

supervises the child like a supervisor. If there is a problem, it is rush to point it out;

arranges all aspects of the child's homework according to his own ideas and does not give the child the opportunity to make decisions;

Better homework than the child, urging and coaxing the child to write, but the child himself does not care about it...

This method of accompanying often leads to children lacking responsibility for homework and learning. Parents are so tired, but their children are becoming more and more lazy and relying on parents in everything.

Parents need to be clear that their children are the first responsible person for homework, and parents' company is just an auxiliary. They should grasp the degree of participation and not interfere too much.

For example, when a child is procrastinating, you can remind him appropriately, but the consequences of not completing his homework are to be borne by the child. If the number of times is too many, the child will know how to adjust his behavior.

In addition, staring at the child like a supervisor and interrupting the child at any time is not conducive to the child's concentration development and will also put pressure on the child.

Parents can do their own things on the side, read books and work quietly, wait until the child completes and checks it in a unified manner, or wait for the child to ask for help before providing help.

(1) Set the rules early and strictly implement

From the beginning of the first grade, parents have formulated clear and clear rules with their children. is much more effective than hard-working preaching and nagging.

After persisting for a long time, children will develop habits, experience the high efficiency brought by good habits, and are more conducive to children's persistence. In the end, there is no need to persist, and it is internalized into children's excellent learning qualities and abilities.

The more important rules are:

① Before doing homework, make preparations first.

Some children drink water and go to the toilet during the middle of their homework. They are busy and very affected by efficiency.

Parents can make an agreement with their children that when they come home from school every day, they will first do what they should do, drink water, eat something to cushion the belly, go to the toilet, etc., and then start doing their homework with a steady mind.

② Before doing homework, make a list of plans, which subject to do first and which subject to do, and complete it in an orderly manner, which can also improve efficiency.

③ Before doing homework, take some time to review and check it after finishing homework.

Review what you have learned today before doing your homework, which will strengthen your child’s memory of knowledge points, and will also help your child complete homework smoothly and efficiently, and improve his interest in learning and self-confidence.

The inspection after completing the homework is a process of children's self-correction and a process of thinking again. It can cultivate children's down-to-earth and careful learning quality and consolidate learning results.

④ Do not leave your seat casually when doing homework, and you cannot play with your mobile phone or toys.

⑤ Allocate time according to the amount of job tasks and complete the job within a certain period of time.

In order to improve children's homework efficiency and reduce procrastination, it is also important to guide children to plan their time well.

allows children to put an alarm clock in front of their desk, estimate the completion time of each homework by themselves, and complete it within the specified time.

⑥ Please write carefully, keep the surface clean, use less or no rubber or tape. Parents can formulate the rules of

and the above rules based on their children's actual situation. For example, over a period of time, select one or several targetedly, focusing on improving a certain ability of their children.

(2) Pay attention to observing the child

accompany the child to do homework. One of the important tasks of parents is to observe the child and see what aspects he has shortcomings and bad habits, so as to help him improve in a timely manner.

These are much more important than correcting children’s wrong questions and letting children take more points.

For example, several common problems for children:

• poorly organized, no planning to do homework, no order
• writing casually, use rubber
• inattentive, many small movements

find that children have one or more problems, think of solutions in time, prescribe the right medicine, teach children the correct approach by setting rules, slowly guide children to correct, and establish good learning habits.

If the problem of poor organization is poor, parents can teach their children to think about what homework they have in total before doing their homework, list it, and then set the order according to the approximate length of time and difficulty, and then complete it one by one according to the order.

The more good habits are established, the less difficult and boring it will be for children to do homework, and parents will need to do less and less.

(3) Appropriately give positive feedback to children

In the process of accompanying children to do homework, try to create a positive and pleasant experience for children.

Only when it comes to things that you feel good about can your children be more enthusiastic and do better.

Therefore, parents should pay more attention to their children's progress bit by bit, affirm their children's good work, and give positive feedback to their children.

For example, parents have always asked their children to write neatly. The children did not perform so well before, and this time they wrote very well. At this time, you can praise your child:

"Mom saw that your writing was written very well this time, and you can see that you are serious and doing very well."

Children will improve their self-confidence, increase their interest in learning from their parents' feedback, and form a positive cycle.

In accordance with this principle, parents should avoid destructive criticism of their children, encourage more, and crack down on them less.

(4) Avoid taking charge and controlling measures, and give autonomy to children

In the process of accompanying children, parents must always remember that the current accompanying is for the sake of not accompanying them in the future. The ultimate goal is for the children to be able to complete their homework independently and learn to manage themselves.

Therefore, parents should grasp the right measure, not interfere too much, and give their children autonomy.

For example: When you go home from school every day, you can first ask your child what homework does it have? How long does each assignment take? How to arrange it? This helps children learn to sort out and think.

If there is no major problem, try to let the child complete the homework according to his or her own arrangements and give the child more opportunities to make choices and make decisions. There are inappropriate aspects of

, and parents will give their children appropriate reminders and suggestions.

If you find a problem when checking your child’s homework, don’t tell the child directly, let him find the error by himself.

I believe that doing the above well will make parents more worry-free and their children will be more conscious and efficient in doing their homework.

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