Parental companionship is the most critical factor in children's growth, because parents' companionship can relieve children's pressure, improve children's self-confidence, and encourage children to face the problems they encounter correctly. It also facilitates parents' care for their children, and allows children to better face the challenges brought by society.
However, children may be overly dependent on their parents, so parents should pay attention to their children's company methods.
The first stage is 0-1.5 years old, companionship is intimacy
Because parents, society, and schools do not understand the healthy development of mental health and lack psychological cognition, children will have problems such as school aversion, rebellion, indulge in games, and out of control. These are all distress signals sent by children to parents and society, and they are demanding a more suitable development environment.
If parents ignore it, they think it is the child’s problem and put more pressure on the child. This method strengthens the child's trauma.
Although children have grown up physically, their emotional development and spiritual maturity have stopped, which has also led to various problems in their interpersonal relationships and career development as adults.
The younger the child is, the greater the impact, and the more difficult it is to solve it in the future.
In fact, we need to accompany the child in different ways according to the child's age.
At this time, the mother's stability, love and timely reaction determine the child's trust and sense of security. In the future, your personality will be healthier and your interpersonal relationships and career will be handled better.
Stage 1.5~3 years old, companionship is a matter of
At this time, the child begins to have a self-awareness, trying to get rid of the constraints of the outside world and show his strength.
At this stage, parents should have a good sense of their children's behavior, that is, give them moderate freedom, but also control them. Only in this way can children develop a tolerant and self-esteem personality, establish autonomy, and their children's future life will be more in line with social order and the rule of law.
On the other hand, if parents are too indulgent or too strict at this stage and do not give their children the opportunity to be independent, it will cause their children to be inferior, passive, and incompetent. Another situation is that they are allowed to indulge in, which will cause their children to be out of control and fail to abide by public order and good customs .
The third stage is 3 to 6 years old, companionship is exploring
At this stage, the child begins to be curious and actively explore, and likes to ask why.
If parents give patient answers at this time, their children's active exploration will be further developed, their self-awareness will be developed, their surrounding environment will be further explored, and their communication will be enjoyed, and this ability will be enhanced.
On the contrary, if parents deny and attack their children's curiosity at this stage, their curiosity will be frustrated, and they will develop a passive, inferior, and dare not explore.
The fourth stage is 6 to 12 years old, companionship is the right
This stage is the most important period for children to develop learning habits. If parents use love, attention, encouragement and support to accompany their children to study, help them summarize and summarize the key points of their learning, and do not put too high demands on their children, the children will be more diligent and studious, develop good study habits, and lay the foundation for their future work attitude.
On the contrary, parents treat their children inappropriately and have too high requirements for their children, which makes them prone to inferiority, causing them to lose motivation and interest in learning.
stage 5th age 12 to 18 years old, companionship is to let go
This stage is a period of self-identity and role confusion in adolescence.At this stage, the body develops rapidly, and there are many conflicts and confusions in the heart. You must be independent but not independent, and conflicts with your parents occur frequently.
This stage is the most anxious stage for parents. If parents handle the first four stages properly, the child's adolescent performance will be relatively stable and the child will integrate well.
At this stage, I hope to break away from my parents' control, make my own decisions, start to have a good impression of the opposite sex, care about the evaluation of teachers and classmates, become myself, have my own opinions, and determine my life goals.
How should parents improve the quality of companionship?
Parent-child reading together, reading accompany
There is no homework or make-up lessons for spare time, and it depends on reading to fill it. Parents can take their children to bookstores or libraries to get their children into books. When children are young, it is also a kind of education to accompany them to read, organize content, and share experiences. When children grow up, they will naturally fall in love with reading and gain endless knowledge and spiritual nourishment from reading.
Parent-child exercise, exercise accompanying
Whether it is the growth and development of children or the working rhythm of parents, they all need a healthy body and mind. Parents should increase their children's physical activities, encourage their children to exercise and strengthen their physical fitness. Especially on weekends and holidays, parents should exercise with their children. There are a lot of interactive sports. While exercising and improving one's coordination ability, it can also enhance parent-child relationships and kill two birds with one stone.
Parent-child housework, labor companionship
Life ability should be cultivated in life, and housework is a good way for children to participate in family life. In labor, children can feel their importance to their family and thus improve their sense of responsibility. Parents can assign simple housework to their children, such as designing a parent-child kitchen, relax and promote interaction by making home-cooked dishes and making soup with their children, exercise their hands-on ability, truly experience life with their children, and gain growth.
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