Whether in China or Western countries, everyone attaches great importance to the education of children. After all, children are the rising sun and the hope of the motherland. Only by cultivating them well can they thrive and serve the motherland.
In addition to cultivating talents that are useful to society, children's success can also bring supreme glory to parents. Because of this, parents are the people who most hope that their children can succeed.
In order to help children develop good behavioral habits when they are young, China and the West have conducted a series of explorations. China has traditional classic Three-character Classic Disciple Rules and the Analects of Confucius. These are ideological enlightenment readings that can enable children to form correct values and worldviews in their childhood.
, while the West prefers to restrain children in behavior. For example, the famous Rosenthal effect in psychology, or Pygmalion effect , refers to the individual's behavior after the external influence is applied.
To address individual growth, Harvard University conducted a 75-year study, and the number of people involved is world-renowned. They tracked a total of 724 men and asked about their work, family and health status every year to obtain the latest data.
Among the 724 men, they can be divided into two groups. The first group is an undergraduate student who was admitted to Harvard University in 1938, and the second group is a child of the same age who lives in a slum.
So many years have passed, and only more than 60 people are still alive and agree to participate in this research. At this time, they are already over 90 years old.
Although there were only a few of those people in the world at that time, the research team focused on their descendants, and the leaders of this research have also developed to the fourth generation.
Haval took 75 years to study and found that children who grow up usually have four major characteristics.
1. Have good interpersonal relationships
As social animals, humans are the foundation of survival in the current society. In fact, the same is true for most people. Only by establishing good relationships with people around them can we obtain more survival resources.
In many experimental participants, people who can achieve great achievements in often have the characteristics of having strong communication skills and communication skills, and their interactions with people around them frequently and well. It is precisely because of their proper interpersonal relationship management that they rarely take detours in the process of struggle.
From the perspective of parents, it is particularly important to cultivate children's communication skills. Only by being good at interacting with others and knowing how to respect others can we establish friendly and benign relationships.
2. Awareness of problematics and study psychology.
Everyone will be curious when they are young. Because we don’t understand the outside world and have little social experience, children will be accustomed to asking the adults around them. What is this? Why did he do this? Or can I do something.
Some parents think that their children have too many problems, so they feel very impatient. In fact, parents should think from another perspective. Asking questions from a child proves that he has an exploratory attitude towards the outside world. This ability is precisely the prerequisite for success.
In Harvard University's research, those who have achieved great achievements have a prominent curiosity when they are young, and this curiosity continues to be maintained after adulthood, thus becoming a problem awareness and a study psychology.
They often encounter difficult problems in life, but the first thing they think about is not seeking help from this person, nor is they taking the initiative to give up, but thinking about how to solve something through their own abilities.
3. Have a strong independent personality.
Many parents believe that their children are still young and do not need to be too independent. They can help them accomplish things that they cannot do. In fact, this idea is very wrong, because this is the critical period for children to form independent personality.
Most people who achieved success in the Harvard experiment have formed independent personality since childhood, and have implemented the habit of independence after adulthood.
The ability to live independently is very important to individuals. On the one hand, individuals always have to face the moments of their own life. If no one around them helps him make decisions, an independent personality can make him deal with various things calmly.
Not only that, it is also a kind of ability that can be inherited. Only when one is independent can his children inherit the corresponding habits, so that the entire family has the same temperament.
4. The concept of learning never stops.
Many people think that a child’s only task is to study. He doesn’t have to think about anything before he formally works, he just needs to do his studies well.
This method has both the correct side and the wrong side. The correct side is that people should indeed maintain the habit of learning. Even if they enter university, they should work hard to learn and keep moving forward, but they cannot study hard. As the saying goes, if they study without thinking, they will be confused, and if they think without learning, they will be in danger. The unity of knowledge and action is the key to forming good learning habits.
In short, most children with promising prospects when grow up have the above four characteristics. If your child also shows a similar side, you might as well train it.
First Psychological Main Writers Group | A group of young people who like to look up at the stars
Reference materials: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).
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