Jin Weichun said in "There is Only One Thing in Life": "Proactive values, without awareness and clarity, are likely to bring disasters and disasters in the world." I agree.
Parents and teachers now mostly encourage their children to be proactive in their children's education, and they always feel that certain things should first seize positions or opportunities. And emphasize that the result is not important, the process is important. The good name is "participation."
Actually, think about it carefully, these are all excuses for adults to transfer their anxiety to their children. I am anxious about my child’s future, so I don’t want to lose at the starting line, so I don’t consider my child’s bearing capacity and actual level, and encourage my child to move forward blindly. Most of the time, parents do not consider their children's feelings at all. The children followed the wishes of their parents and actively participated in certain activities. If the child is not interested at all, or doesn't know what he is good at at all, then what can blind participation bring to the child?
In activities, children will try their best to avoid participating because they are not interested, because they are not good at it. Even if they participate, they will not give full play to their strengths. Some activities are aimed at cultivating children's abilities and expanding their horizons. Because of the child's subjective factors, it may be that the child participated, but was unable to participate, and was gradually marginalized. This will have a certain impact on the child's psychology.
If the child's heart is strong enough, he may refuse to admit defeat, and has a fighting spirit of "not surprisingly speaking and dying." Then this activity may be a turning point in his life, and he began to work tirelessly to catch up. But how many such children are there?
Most children who participate in activities that are completely unfamiliar to them may be timid and fearful. In some activities that require the child to have courage or find a partner on their own, they will be alone. The child will feel ostracized. Watching others playing in full swing, the child is just a spectator. The loneliness in the excitement is a blow to children.
So,As the author said, proactive, the premise is to be aware and clear. To paraphrase an old saying, "Know yourself and the enemy, and win every battle." This is like a confrontation between two armies. If you choose to take the initiative, then you must have an understanding of the opponent and have a certain chance of winning. Otherwise, who would take the initiative to die?
Therefore, when parents educate their children to be proactive, they must also tell their children to do what they can and do appropriately. If it doesn't suit you, don't take the initiative. After all, in some cases, passive is also a kind of protection.
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