Suggestions 1. Give the child a separate room
Parents give their children their own growth space, one is from the material life environment, the other is from the spiritual world. If the family is qualified, it is best to give the child a separate room, do not underestimate this simple independence, this is the beginning of the child's freedom. It's not that if you stay away from the supervision of your parents, it is convenient for your children to do things their parents do not know. Rather, children have their own arrangements, choices and arrangements in this space, and this relatively uninterrupted site allows children to have a sense of belonging to their bodies and minds.
Moreover, children have to clean and manage their own rooms and items, which invisibly cultivates the children's self-care ability and independent character. At the same time, children can bring their children to play in their own room. This space is not only the child's living area, study area, but also his reception room. A small house will stimulate a lot of children's interests and ideas, the children will be in the mood to do what they want to do, the child's free nature can be fully displayed in this space.
Suggestions 2. Respect the privacy of children
Parents must first know that children are independent individuals who need to be respected before giving their children their own growth space. Regardless of the age of the child, he hopes that his world is undisturbed and that he can independently control. Therefore, as a parent, don't just look at the children's items, especially the diary.
Children have their own little secrets. Perhaps the content in the diary is trivial to adults, but the children will experience the naivety and the current maturity in their own secrets. Although parents are the child’s guardians and have the right to understand the child’s growth process, they cannot gain understanding of the child by looking at the child’s diary. If so, no matter how big the room the parents give the child, the child will not feel free, because his spiritual realm is often violated. The disrespect of parents to their children will be exchanged for their distrust of their parents.
Therefore, when parents want to enter the child’s room, please knock on the door; don’t just check the child’s schoolbags and drawers; don’t even peek at the child’s diary when the child is not there...All parents want to know, please pass The child's direct communication is achieved, and the parents' decentness is to encourage the child to grow up freely.
Suggestions 3. Do not destroy the world that children love
When children grow up, they will be interested in a certain aspect periodically. For example, when children fall in love with plasticine, they may put dolls made of plasticine everywhere; children become obsessed with folding paper cranes for a period of time, and they may hang strings of paper cranes all over the windows of the house. And appearance... The child will be immersed in the world he likes. As a parent, whether it is a child’s long-term hobby or not, don’t destroy it, because the child is looking for himself in it.
A mother described her child's Barbie world like this:
her daughter gave Barbie a home, and that home made me a little jealous and envy when I saw it. She first pave the ground with wooden grained cardboard, giving people a wooden floor feel. A bed made of paper boxes and covered with "sheets". There is a "small quilt" stitched by the daughter herself. The small quilt is made of veritable silk and cotton, and looks soft. In this "home", there is also a dining table with tablecloths. Four or five Barbies sat at the table to "gather together." Sometimes, my daughter would really chop up vegetables, mix them with water, and put them in a small bowl with big fingernails... These masterpieces of
daughter, but there are too many to mention at home. Although this has brought inconvenience to my cleaning, I will not destroy the sky of my daughter. I am sincerely happy to see the child being immersed in his own world while making. I have to take care of the child's innocence, give her a piece of sky that belongs to her, and let her imagination run free.
Children’s thinking is often broader than adults imagine, and their understanding and insight into things are often amazing. As a parent, don’t stop it because your child’s little hobby brings trouble to the family’s cleaning. This will undoubtedly discourage your child’s enthusiasm for creation. When children are immersed in their own world and making meticulous productions, what parents have to do is to walk away quietly, watch silently, give the children a piece of their own sky, let them reap their own happiness and experience success.
Suggestions 4. Let the child feel the freedom of the soul
Any child does not like to have a "police-like" figure supervising himself at all times, which will cause his inner depression and anxiety. If parents always focus on the areas where their children are not doing well and correct them, the children will be uncomfortable and uncomfortable, and they will feel that nothing can satisfy their parents. Over time, the child's self-control ability declines, making him clumsy and depressed. Therefore, parents should not turn their child into a "prisoner bird" who is unable to fly.
