Professor Li Meijin once said bluntly: "If you want to know if your child will be successful after 20 years, you will know if you go to the community square."
began to feel that she had said too much. After a period of observation, she really saw something. ……Z2z
Parents hope that their children will be successful, but there is always a gap between children and children. As the old saying goes, "three years old look old" I am a neutral attitude. Psychologists have found in research that a person's personality is basically formed at the age of 3-6, and it will basically not change as long as there is no major change.
Professor Li Meijin once said when analyzing a case that the decisive factor of a person’s future achievements is often not what we think of as IQ or family background, but personality.
Then why go to the square of the community to know if the child has any success? This is because the square is often a playground for children to play. At this time, the child shows the most relaxed and natural side, which is his true character which performed.
Generally, children with these kinds of personalities will be promising
1, children with leadership skills
The father of modern management Peter Drucker once said: "The definition of leadership lies in the people behind it."
Whether a person has the ability to lead depends first on whether anyone is willing to follow him. A promising person must have a group of followers behind him, which means that this person has a certain personality charm, and the followers behind such a person are his wealth. , Is also his success.
When children play together, we will find a phenomenon, no matter how many children there will be a child who will naturally become the "Kid King" among the children, playing the role of "leader".
Children are willing to surround him and listen to his words. Children are simple and individual. If you think about their parents, they are not always willing to listen. Why would they listen to a peer? What this child possesses is the talent of leadership. Children like
often have the ability to make decisions. They can start from the overall situation, make arrangements for the distribution of children, and have personality charm, which can attract the recognition and follow of the children around them. Children like
are also more likely to become leaders of teams and companies when they grow up. They have more room for promotion and are more likely to be successful.
2, children are calm and calm
Through playing together, sometimes you will find that some children are more calm, quiet and restrained compared to children of the same age. Such children are not necessarily introverted. They will be more composed and calm when encountering things.
Playing together and having disputes with children can often be resolved by themselves, and children who need help can also take the initiative to help,
can handle calmly even when he or other children fall and are injured, and rarely cry loudly. . Children like
tend to be early-witted, have high emotional intelligence, and get along with people in a friendly manner. Although they are not the kind of eye-catching children, they are like 37 degrees of warm water that can make people feel warm. Children like
will deal with problems wisely in their studies and life in the future, will not panic, and will not have disputes with classmates and colleagues because of small things. They will be popular and life will be smoother.
3. Children have their own goals.
If parents observe carefully, they will find that many children have their own ideas and goals at a very young age. Maybe the goal is very small. Some children have their own vision of choosing clothes. It’s very clear that you only wear blue or have any patterns. Even though you can't change him even though you have to talk hard, you may be annoyed, but you don’t have to. This is because the child clearly knows his needs.
They have a goal and know to work hard. For example, mother, I want to play well, justWill be diligent in practice, such children are self-disciplined children, they will not be mediocre, goalless life. Children like
can handle their lives well even if they are not with their parents. Although they may lack life skills, they will definitely find a way. When they grow up, they will not be willing to live a life under the protection of their parents. Get out of your own world without parents worrying!
recently read some biographies of celebrities, especially when I saw Jobs, there is always a sentence in my mind that is "character determines fate". The legendary life of Jobs is very inseparable from his character of pursuit of perfection, innovation, and paranoia.
If you want to help your children get rid of some bad characters such as weakness and laziness, and develop good characteristics such as assertiveness and calmness, it is best to start before the age of 6. If that period has passed, it is not too late.
In my opinion, optimistic parents can generally cultivate children with good personality. We must also start with ourselves, influence and guide children.
