children from six to eight months old will show fear of strangers and unfamiliar surroundings. Once their mother disappears, they will cry and become obviously disturbed.
is not that the child is timid and clingy, but that the child’s separation anxiety period has arrived.
This is what a child must experience when he grows up. How can a child smoothly pass the separation anxiety period?
1. Give your child a buffer period.
When you are separated from your child because of returning to work or other reasons, you should give your child a buffer period. Before separation, find a replacement for the child, consciously increase their time together, reduce the child's anxiety and discomfort.
2, build a sense of trust that "mother will come back"
Mom gives the child a hug before going out and tells the child that you will come back. Tell the child every time I come back that I am back.
In the beginning, the mother should not leave for too long. When the child gets used to it and knows that the mother will come back, the time can be gradually increased.
3, establish the concept of conservation
often play some object conservation games with children, let the children know that the eyes do not see does not mean that the object disappeared.
For example, play peekaboo games with children, or hide toys and consciously guide children to find them.
4. Cultivate the child’s ability to be alone.
Give the child the opportunity to play alone. For example, after feeding the baby and changing the diaper, put the child in the living room and let him play by himself. When the child is tired of playing with something , The parents helped him get some other toys, let him focus on his activities as much as possible, don't disturb him, and gradually the child can show the tendency of independence.
Children often feel insecure during separation anxiety. If the mother's solution is simple and rude, it may harm the child.
These four methods are not advisable:
ignores the child's cry and leaves cruelly.
secretly leaves when the child is having fun.
blamed the child, broke the child, grabbed his hand, and left cruelly.
Coax the child to another room or let other personnel distract the child, and then take the opportunity to leave.
If the mother is not there, how can the rest of the family comfort the child?
Show children pictures of mothers to relieve children’s anxiety.
Hug and talk to the child more often, tell him that his mother will come back, and give the child a sense of security.
Play games with children, tell children stories, etc., to divert children's attention.
