Quanquan is less than six years old, being rude to guests is the most troublesome thing for mothers. When guests come to the house, whether they are adults or children, he is unexpectedly overbearing and impolite, and sometimes plays his temper in front of the guests; if there are young guests of the same age, he will also grab food with others It's so unfriendly!
One day, a classmate friend whom my mother had not seen for many years suddenly came to visit, and her mother asked Quanquan to call her aunt. Quan Quan glanced at him and said: "Big fat woman." When her mother heard it, she felt very shameless, so she reprimanded: "Why are you so big or small!" Quanquan replied without showing any weakness: "She was very Fat!"
When a child shows impolite behavior, adults will always shake their heads and say, "Why is this child so big or young!" When the child's parents heard it, they blushed and even reprimanded the child. .
In some situations, children really don’t know the reasonable code of conduct and where the boundaries are-why can’t they argue with the teacher? Why can't you go crazy in front of Arbor? Why do some words say to adults that they are not big or small? This kind of person-to-person interaction criterion is exactly the important content of the learning for children who are new to school. But often before children learn, they may have made "N" unpleasant mistakes.
In other situations, the child is deliberately provocative, which makes the "superior" adults feel violated the most. Confrontation, resistance, and those unruly expressions convey not only "what you want", but strong dissatisfaction and disobedience. Looking at it from another angle, elders are full of authority for children, but they also represent strong support. He wants to attract your attention, and he wants to resist your authority; he wants to be sure of your protection, but he also wants to escape your restrictions. This is the process by which children and we seek independence in the crowd but need to maintain contact. It's not that he doesn't know how to respect, but that he is still looking for a balance that has your attention without losing his own balance.
Actually, this question must first be asked to parents. Where do you expect your children to learn the behaviors of "Say hello when you meet your teacher and not quarrel in public places"?
Then, parents should reflect on the next few scenes-is it true that the child can achieve the goal every time when his temper is angry? Do parents always follow the flow or get angry every time? When parents treat other elders by themselves, do they have the same "no respectability"? Have parents ever talked to their children about being polite? Or is it usually through punishment and swearing to let the child know that it cannot do this next time? ……Z2z
parents need to think clearly: do we want our children to be big and small, do we instill their caution and fear of the elders, or do we hope that they can be sensible and behave appropriately? Back to the core, in fact, it is still "respect"!
guide children, what we respect is generation, knowledge, reason, experience, affection, people and life, including ourselves and others. "Etiquette" means that the standards of behavior must be flexible and adjusted according to time and place. This requires experience and reminders.
and the feeling of "respect" is the initial motivation for these behaviors, which require the care of parents and the persistence of the children. Taking children to observe and experience people whose behavior is "large and small" will make people feel comfortable, happy and warm. Children will be happy to learn to be a "big and small" person, not only because they have discovered the principle of "big and small", but also because they have discovered the value of being such a good person.
The little niece of Xiao Chen's family is very close to her. Once there was a visitor in the house, the little niece kept making noise and ignored the visitor's greeting. Later, Xiao Chen played with her, Xiao Chen was the "master" and the little niece was the "guest". The "guest" came, Xiao Chen didn't entertain the little niece with jelly and other delicious things as usual, but ignored her. The little niece was so wronged that tears were almost falling. At this time, Xiao Chen said to her: "Aunty ignores you, are you upset? Then the guest who came just now, she greets the baby, and the baby ignores her, is the guest unhappy?" The little niece seemed to understand. In the future, when guests come to the house, she will take the initiative to greet them, and sometimes take out her fruits to entertain the guests.
Actually, as long as adults tell them in a way that is easy for children to accept, children will quickly understand the truth and can do well.
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